mavocz
29th Sep '07 Sat, 05:11
I JUST WANT TO SHARE A PORTION OF THE CONTENT OF THE BOOK ]"EVERY TEENAGER'S LITTLE BLACK BOOK ON HOW TO GET ALONG WITH YOUR PARENTS"[/[/I]B] by blaine bartel TO THOSE TEENAGER'S OUT THERE...
[B]2 THINGS FREEDOM IS NOT
I was preaching at a crusade, and a young man walked to me after the evening's events and said, "I don't listen to anyone. I do what i want, when i want, with who i want to do it. I'm free" I looked at him, trying to think of a way to shock him back into reality, and said, "is that right? Well, I'm going to take that girl on your arm away from you tonight,and if you try to stop me, I'll drop kick you right in the face!" Of course, I wasn't serious...just setting up a point. He looked back and said, "Hey, you can't do that. That's wrong man, to steal a guy's girl" I smiled and said, "Hey, you're the one who said freedom is doing whatever you want, whenever you want, and I'm free too!" He got the point...which brings us to 2 things freedom is not.
1. Freedom is not a life without boundaries. Ask any prison inmate how much freedom they are enjoying after living outside the boundaries of the law.
2. Freedom is not getting away from your parents. Authority exists whenever you go, and you best learn to respect it. Your parents will likely be the kindest, most forgiving authority you'll ever have.
2 MISTAKES TEENAGERS MAKE IN A DESIRE FOR FREEDOM
I once heard a comediene from the 70's and 80's make this proud statement: "The trouble with being in a rat race is that if you win the race, you're still a rat." The point is, you dont have to sneak lie, and demand to get your way in life. Freedom attained by force and deception will be short-lived. Here are 2 critical mistakes young people make in their quest for living freely.
1. Comparing your freedom to freedoms of others. Have you ever said something like, "Well, all my friends get to do this. How come i'm the only one who can't?". The trap of comparisons will never end if you give in to it early in life. Learn to be content with the good things you already have.
2. Getting your freedom by deception. For example, telling your mom you're going one place and going somewhere else, the place she wouldn't let you go in the first place. Maybe you won't get caught, but you still have to live with yourself and your lies. And all your friends will know you can't be trusted - you'll deceive your own mother if necessary. The Bible says that the truth will set you free. (James 8:31)
Truthfulness brings trust, and trust secures freedom.
7 THINGS A PARENT LOVES IN A TEENAGER
The Bible tells us that a wise child will make one's father happy, but a foolish child will cause one's mother grief. (Prov. 10:1) The attitudes and actions you can display in your home have a major influence on the happines of your family.
Here are 7 things you can do to bring joy in your family.
1. Do your chores without someone asking you to do them.
2. Ofter to help with something around the house that is not usually your responsibility.
3. Think of a compliment you can give your mom, dad, or both.
4. Ask your parents if there is anything you can do to improve your behavior.
5. When asked to do something, don't procrastinate even a minute-go right to it.
6. If you have a brother or sister, treat your sibling with the same respect that you would want in return.
7. Be polite, thoughtful, and helpful outside of your home, at school, and in other activities.
3 FREEDOMS YOU ARE ENTITLED TO EVERY DAY
Men and women have given their lives so that you and i can enjoy the life we have today. The freedom we are enjoying today is stained with the blood of soldiers who died for the rights we often take for granted. God sent His Son, Jesus, to give us eternal freedoms that no one can take away from you. Here are 3 freedoms that you might fight to keep.
1. The Freedom to worship GOD. I've had students whose parents have told them they couldn't go to church and be a Christian. I've told those students that they must obey their higher authority - GOD Almighty - and to respectfully explain to their parents that they have made a decision to live for Christ and cannot retreat.
2. The Freedom to share your faith. More and more not only here in the Philippines, ungodly groups of people are trying to limit the expression of faith in any public venue. It won't be long until they try to tell us what we can do in our own homes. In spite of their efforts, we have the God-given right to proclaim the goodness of God to all people wherever we go. (Mark 16:15)
3. The Freedom to learn. There are many countries around the world whose citizens are told what they are allowed to learn. Many have no libraries, no communication tools, no higher education. You have been given the right to discover all that you need to make your life all that it can be. Use it!
3 SACRIFICES THAT WILL GUARANTEE FREEDOM
You can get a lot of things for free in life. Those give aways at the grocery store. Mints at a restaurant. Real estate booklets at the convenience store. But one thing I can promise you is not free are freedoms. There is work and sacrifice you must make to gain new freedom. This is true with your parents, with your work career, or with any other area of life. Here are 3 sacrifices you must be willing to make.
1.The sacrifice of honesty.
Even when it hurts you, honesty must be a value you hold true to. When you develop a reputation for always being honest, even when it's your detriment, people will trust you with freedoms not afforded to others.
2. The sacrifice of diligence.
When your parents see you do your homework, yard work, chores, or part-time job well and without complaints, your freedoms will rise.
3. The sacrifice of servanthood.
Stop demanding your rights, and start serving other's request. When you develop a heart that is " others first," others will start to put "you first".
...that is folks, more to come...
[B]2 THINGS FREEDOM IS NOT
I was preaching at a crusade, and a young man walked to me after the evening's events and said, "I don't listen to anyone. I do what i want, when i want, with who i want to do it. I'm free" I looked at him, trying to think of a way to shock him back into reality, and said, "is that right? Well, I'm going to take that girl on your arm away from you tonight,and if you try to stop me, I'll drop kick you right in the face!" Of course, I wasn't serious...just setting up a point. He looked back and said, "Hey, you can't do that. That's wrong man, to steal a guy's girl" I smiled and said, "Hey, you're the one who said freedom is doing whatever you want, whenever you want, and I'm free too!" He got the point...which brings us to 2 things freedom is not.
1. Freedom is not a life without boundaries. Ask any prison inmate how much freedom they are enjoying after living outside the boundaries of the law.
2. Freedom is not getting away from your parents. Authority exists whenever you go, and you best learn to respect it. Your parents will likely be the kindest, most forgiving authority you'll ever have.
2 MISTAKES TEENAGERS MAKE IN A DESIRE FOR FREEDOM
I once heard a comediene from the 70's and 80's make this proud statement: "The trouble with being in a rat race is that if you win the race, you're still a rat." The point is, you dont have to sneak lie, and demand to get your way in life. Freedom attained by force and deception will be short-lived. Here are 2 critical mistakes young people make in their quest for living freely.
1. Comparing your freedom to freedoms of others. Have you ever said something like, "Well, all my friends get to do this. How come i'm the only one who can't?". The trap of comparisons will never end if you give in to it early in life. Learn to be content with the good things you already have.
2. Getting your freedom by deception. For example, telling your mom you're going one place and going somewhere else, the place she wouldn't let you go in the first place. Maybe you won't get caught, but you still have to live with yourself and your lies. And all your friends will know you can't be trusted - you'll deceive your own mother if necessary. The Bible says that the truth will set you free. (James 8:31)
Truthfulness brings trust, and trust secures freedom.
7 THINGS A PARENT LOVES IN A TEENAGER
The Bible tells us that a wise child will make one's father happy, but a foolish child will cause one's mother grief. (Prov. 10:1) The attitudes and actions you can display in your home have a major influence on the happines of your family.
Here are 7 things you can do to bring joy in your family.
1. Do your chores without someone asking you to do them.
2. Ofter to help with something around the house that is not usually your responsibility.
3. Think of a compliment you can give your mom, dad, or both.
4. Ask your parents if there is anything you can do to improve your behavior.
5. When asked to do something, don't procrastinate even a minute-go right to it.
6. If you have a brother or sister, treat your sibling with the same respect that you would want in return.
7. Be polite, thoughtful, and helpful outside of your home, at school, and in other activities.
3 FREEDOMS YOU ARE ENTITLED TO EVERY DAY
Men and women have given their lives so that you and i can enjoy the life we have today. The freedom we are enjoying today is stained with the blood of soldiers who died for the rights we often take for granted. God sent His Son, Jesus, to give us eternal freedoms that no one can take away from you. Here are 3 freedoms that you might fight to keep.
1. The Freedom to worship GOD. I've had students whose parents have told them they couldn't go to church and be a Christian. I've told those students that they must obey their higher authority - GOD Almighty - and to respectfully explain to their parents that they have made a decision to live for Christ and cannot retreat.
2. The Freedom to share your faith. More and more not only here in the Philippines, ungodly groups of people are trying to limit the expression of faith in any public venue. It won't be long until they try to tell us what we can do in our own homes. In spite of their efforts, we have the God-given right to proclaim the goodness of God to all people wherever we go. (Mark 16:15)
3. The Freedom to learn. There are many countries around the world whose citizens are told what they are allowed to learn. Many have no libraries, no communication tools, no higher education. You have been given the right to discover all that you need to make your life all that it can be. Use it!
3 SACRIFICES THAT WILL GUARANTEE FREEDOM
You can get a lot of things for free in life. Those give aways at the grocery store. Mints at a restaurant. Real estate booklets at the convenience store. But one thing I can promise you is not free are freedoms. There is work and sacrifice you must make to gain new freedom. This is true with your parents, with your work career, or with any other area of life. Here are 3 sacrifices you must be willing to make.
1.The sacrifice of honesty.
Even when it hurts you, honesty must be a value you hold true to. When you develop a reputation for always being honest, even when it's your detriment, people will trust you with freedoms not afforded to others.
2. The sacrifice of diligence.
When your parents see you do your homework, yard work, chores, or part-time job well and without complaints, your freedoms will rise.
3. The sacrifice of servanthood.
Stop demanding your rights, and start serving other's request. When you develop a heart that is " others first," others will start to put "you first".
...that is folks, more to come...