Just a couple of weeks ago, I made a life changing decision. Even possibly, one of the most serious decisions I have ever made my whole life. Letting go of someone you love very much is not easy. But, then again, there are certain realities that we have to accept.

Putting the past behind and moving forward is not an easy process. There's always the thought of the happy times you've shared. The what if's and the what could have beens always linger...Basically, a lot of things cloud your mind...but you gotta start somewhere.

Right now, I'm picking up the pieces of my life, one day at a time. I wake up each day with the thought that things will get better soon. I'm holding onto the fact that all this pain will go away and that the time will come when I will be truly happy again. As they say, when God closes a door He opens a window. I have faith in the Lord. I believe that this is happening for a purpose. And that after experiencing all this suffering and pain, I will find joy.

I don't regret having spent the several year with him..in fact, I'm even thankful for it. But the time has come to move on to another chapter in my life. I'm moving forward and I'm fighting every urge to look back...

Another day, a new beginning...

Another story... Same theme :)



A dear friend of mine recently talked about her grief when she finally decided to let go of someone she loves dearly. Many people often say that if you love someone, you should let him or her go. Whether or not to let go is one issue. To hold on to a losing ‘battle’ and losing your dignity is another.



The very first notion would be if the person comes back to you, then he or she is yours. But if he or she doesn’t then he or she was never meant to be.



However, no one in her right mind would let someone she loves go. Yet, we all want to do the right thing because if we ever want to look back, we want to be able to say that at least, at one time in our lives; we were once generous and brave. Still the cost of magnanimity and courage, believe it or not, hurts.



The truth is when someone we love pulls away from us, our first instinct is to hold on. We hold because the thought of losing the one person we love is just too painful to bear. And in our pain, we lose sight of what is sane and only see the need to stop him or her from fleeing and so instead of giving way, we block the path of their getaway.



But it is absolute madness to cling on to someone who perhaps no longer wants you. So let the person go. What are you afraid of? That he or she won’t come back? The truth is that you can’t really hold on to someone who doesn’t want you anymore, so there really is no point in holding on. You might as well let go with dignity and grace. Hold your head high and let go. But like I said earlier, it is no easy task. It takes a lot of courage, patience and time.



Letting go is especially difficult because it is against human nature. It is just like saying “No” when all you want to say is “Yes”. It is resisting the tide, going against the wind and is like walking away when all you want to do is stay. It is transcending our humanity and rising to our divinity. Letting go commands us to be larger than life.



Ultimately, it is vital to let go only when you are ready. Don’t be so hard on yourself if you can’t let go. No one ever said it would be easy. But if you know what is good for you, then you must learn to do what is hard and painful. For if you really want to know if this love is meant for you, then, you must have the courage to submit to its ultimate test.



Of course it will be terrifying and painful. And if he doesn’t come back, then of course it will be devastating. But surely, there will be life after the tears and the heartbreak, if you can let go of your love and hold on to your faith. You cannot will what is not willed for you. And in the end, you will eventually realize that what is not willed for you is not what is right for you.



When you’re old and grey, you’ll want to be able to look back and say, “Once upon a time, I fell in love and I had let him go because I wanted to know if the winds would bring him back to me. And he did.” Of course, the story could also end differently like, “The winds failed to bring him back to me and he turned out to be the wrong man for me.”



I think that all stories can end happily. They may not always end the way we want them to but then who wants a boring and predictable story? I, for one, am certainly against monotonous tedious endings.



If you let someone you love go and he doesn’t come back to you, then, he can’t be the one for you. How can he be? If a man cannot pick out the gem from among the stones, then he is not a very wise and worthy man. If he can’t see you as the better woman, then maybe, there is a better man out there for you.



They say it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. But I personally say it is better to have loved and let go then to have loved and held on to the wrong one. There will always be plenty of other fish in the sea and to my dear friend with whom I shared this conversation with earlier. I would like to say : believe me, he isn’t the only one!