Do you feel you and a certain friend are drifting apart and aren't happy about it? Or that an ex you're still mates with is not as close to you as he used to be? You don't have to feel helpless. Because you're not. There are plenty of things you can do to boost some life into your friendships. Try out a few of my suggestions:

Make the effort

Maintaining friendships requires effort. It's no good saying you're someone's friend - you have to be one. Remember her birthday. Email her, call her, text her. Suggest and organise nights out, shopping trips, the cinema, or whatever it is you enjoy doing together. Buy her a bottle of wine when she'd had some good news. Buy her a bottle of wine she's has some bad news. Effort is involved in maintaining contact and staying on top of people's lives.'

Be there. Always.

Funny how, in a crisis, your true friends turn out to be the ones you didn't expect to be, and vice versa. If you want to prove what a good mate you are, be there for your friend, no matter what. Most important of all, let her know that you're there for her whenever she needs you. And when that time comes, be there - no excuses. It's what you do not what you say that makes you a best friend.

Talk, talk, talk

Often when someone's behaviour towards us changes, they're trying to tell us something. Trouble is, we're not psychic: what they need to really be doing is explaining to you what's really going on. Easier said than done, you're thinking. Yes, but don't let that put you off. You can only solve a problem by understanding it. If they've stopped replying to all of our emails and texts, for example, try saying: 'Have you been really busy lately? I've noticed you're not replying to all of my messages. Is everything OK?' Let them gently know that their behaviour is worrying you - maybe they didn't realise that they'd been changing and don't want to hurt you at all.


If none of these suggestions work, then you could always try being a bit philosophical; all good things come to an end. Remember the good times you had with your friend, be grateful for them and leave it at that. Your relationship is over for a reason. You'll make new friends, and the chances are you'll like them even more than you did your old ones.

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do this tips to keep your friendship :)

tapat lang sa isat isa:)

tapat lang sa isat isa:)

yeah kasama yun :)

:thanks: for this

:thanks: for this:thumbsup:

:welcome: nirvana..

hi po heheehehe:)

we should know how to keep friends..
no man is an island..

friends are important.. :D

As we get older, we find that we have fewer friends. Not because they have died, but because we have let them die in our hearts. We don’t invest the effort, the personal attention, friends require. We collect many acquaintances along the way, but maintain fewer friends. When we were children, making friends was easy and natural. We were emotionally freer then, unafraid to open our hearts and communicate our feelings and needs. We didn’t fear rejection the way we do now. We didn’t keep score regarding who called whom last. We didn’t hold on to argumentative words, but instead forgave readily and completely.

In order to de-stress and experience true happiness we need to connect more deeply with others. Our friends remind us of the song in our hearts when we have forgotten the words. Our friends give us objective advice when we are too close to the big picture. Our friends listen to our troubles without judgment and with great compassion.

However, friendship is not always idyllic. We grow and change; likewise, friends move on. They might speak their truths, often upsetting us unintentionally. To preserve and nurture a special relationship, a friendship that is more positive than negative, requires honest, assertive - but not aggressive- communication. Here’s how to communicate:

* Choose the proper time and place for your discussion. If the other person is stressed, or busy, even if you need to vent, control yourself and wait. Timing is everything.
* Begin with a neutral topic, something you both agree on. Say something pleasant to your friend. Affirm what he or she does right, even if at the moment this is a big reach for you. No one wants to be pelted with critical remarks.
* Avoid judging your friend, or using adjectives that convey criticism. Try to objectively, clinically, and briefly describe the action or words that have upset you. Keep the details concretely to the point. Don’t digress and include past indiscretions.
* Express your feelings about what happened. For example, “I felt humiliated when you revealed my secret in public.” “I was sad when you didn’t come help me unpack when I moved into the new place.”
* Communicate specifically what it is you want your friend to do, or not to do. No one is a mind reader.
* Now that you have cleared the air, let it go. I mean really let it go and make plans to have a good time with your friend.


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Dapat maging tapat ka sa yung kaibigan huwag mong traydorin para stay alive pa rin yung friendship... :thumbsup::thumbsup:

:thanks: :toast:

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tiwala ang kailangan... walang lokohan.. wag maging backfighter...

para maging maayos ang pagsasama!

Oo nga! ang firends din ang nag bibigay sa atin nga importnasxa!! :clap:

yeah.. kaya dapat pahalagahan din natin sila.. kasi nga mas masarap mabuhay nang may kaibigan..:D

at alam mo na may mahihingahan ka ng problema... :D