View Full Version : Virginity in Love?


mitchanyah_28
14th Apr '08 Mon, 21:54
Months ago, when I was watching television, I saw this talk show discussing about a subject that caught my point of interest. It was about virginity.

What is virginity? Virginity means being in the state of virgin. Virgin is attribute to males and females who have no experience about sex, or if they have, there is absence of penetration. In simpler term, a virgin is innocent about the SEX-y world. I wondered why they were arguing about the matter. During that time, I thought that such topic must be tackled inside the house not on television. But as time passed by, I came to realize that the show's main goal was to open the minds of many about different issues especially with virginity.

Is virginity important? It has been a Filipino tradition that a woman must be a virgin until she marries. It is expected as a precious and sacred gift to her husband because it symbolizes purity. My mom once said that it is better to marry a woman who is virgin than a woman who is not. Others also think it is unacceptable not to be a virgin before getting married and they consider the person as a disgusting one. Others also said that it will affect their social standing in the society. I myself asked a girl of her opinion about a matter and for her, losing virginity is like losing a big part of her as a person. Does she mean that it is a must that everyone must be virgins before getting married? Not really. She only told us that it is a must that one should think before deciding to give it away and it is a must be at the right time with the right person.

But as time goes by, that idea in my mind suddenly changed in a certain way. I realized that it is still important but if it happens already it's okay. What's most important is that we have to face the world with confident and with perseverance to correct whatever mistakes we had done in the past.

How about virginity in a relationship? Well, of course, it still depends if the person you gave your virginity to is the person you're involved with at present. If this is the case,maybe you are brought to do this act because you love each other so much. Yet, if it was with a different person, in my opinion, it doesn't matter as long as she would be honest with me right from the start. In fact, I would even admire such bravery to confide much sensitive and personal thing. I would accept her for whatever had happened. After all, it is her past.

Does it affect anything? Does virginity destroy any relationships? Not really. For anyone who is contrast with my point of view, come to think of it, open up your mind. If you are really in LOVE, would you let it affect your relationship? Would you not accept the person for what she has done? And if the person may have regrets, wouldn't you be glad she overcame such traumatic experience because you have given her your love?

As long as love, respect, trust and honesty are in a relationship, nothing can break it apart.

clowreed_johnryan11
14th Apr '08 Mon, 22:10
i think you must think a lot of times before doing that thing....... persons should not be a very intelligent one at all time but still, you have to commit the circumstances...... that only is my opinion........ :lol:

mitchanyah_28
14th Apr '08 Mon, 22:35
thanx for ur opinion bro. just to let us know what are the opinion of others regarding this matter.

nybee
15th Apr '08 Tue, 00:52
dpat sure kana sa gagawin mo..diba??
dpat mahal mo tlga yung tao....at dpat sna you know he/she's the one
pero..makakapag-antay naman diba? kung mahal mo at ayaw pa....wag muna....
smack smack nalang...wag na yung banda dun..

Kung di man makapag-antay....BE SURE...you are ready to face consequences for your actions....

clowreed_johnryan11
15th Apr '08 Tue, 01:46
dpat sure kana sa gagawin mo..diba??
dpat mahal mo tlga yung tao....at dpat sna you know he/she's the one
pero..makakapag-antay naman diba? kung mahal mo at ayaw pa....wag muna....
smack smack nalang...wag na yung banda dun..

Kung di man makapag-antay....BE SURE...you are ready to face consequences for your actions....

yeah... correct bro...........:thumbsup:

sweethell013
15th Apr '08 Tue, 03:15
:csa: here!!!

To topic...

Nowadays people are slowly opening to ideas like "it really doesn't matter if you are virgin or not, what matters is that you love each other", and treat sex as a "recreation"... In much more simpler terms, people are getting much more liberated than before... But it doesn't mean that you should join the bandwagon, it's still up to YOU to decide about it...

For me, it's still something very very important, especially in my case, even though I'm open to ideas like that... And if I have a relationship with a person who has already done it, it wouldn't really be a big fuss to me because I didn't love someone because she is VIRGIN, I love her because of whom she is... LOVING is accepting one's faults and weaknesses. It's not about VIRGINITY....

In any case, just like what they said, you have to be really sure about what you are doing, and what you are willing to risk if you will be doing it...

If you really love the girl and she offers herself to you, it's up for you to decide...

And if you are willing to do the thing with her, always be prepared...

And lastly... Use "GLOVES"...

DON'T EVER DO IT WITHOUT IT!!! You will be gettin' yourself into some pretty effin' stuff if you don't...

DP Member
15th Apr '08 Tue, 10:12
My view regarding this, is that you must abstain in having sex while you aren't married yet.
Call me religious, but sex was made for husbands and wives, not plain couples.

It's right for us not to judge people if they are not virgins anymore when they get in a relationship. Actually, I don't care if your a virgin or not , just as long as I love you and you love me. But think about this, you gave yourself to a person whom you aren't "tied" to yet through marriage. You are not being fair to the person whom you will be married to(if the case was you just had sex w/ your ex-bf/ex-gf in the past). Why?

There are a few reasons that I can think of . I attended some kind of lecture about love. They say that when you love someone truly(I mean you get in a true relationship), you give a part of your heart(not literally) to him or her. Has anyone of you experienced the heartache of you and your loved one parting ways/breaking-up? Personally, I think this is one of the reasons. You gave a part of yourself, that's why you felt something is missing when you break-up. Now, let us put that to the topic of sex.I won't tackle sex in the present day sense, since many people in this present world has regarded sex as a healthy activity without the need of waiting for the right time.

Now, to the topic.When you have sex w/ someone ,your giving your whole body. When you have sex w/ someone you love, your giving your whole body and your whole heart.
Tell me, what would you feel if you if you were the nth boyfriend/girlfriend of this person, and you know that he/she had sex w/ his/her previous exs?

Me? Yes, I'll accept that fact that she has given herself many times, but that fact won't just sink in like that, unless me and my girlfriend already have a strong bond with each other. For sometime, I may be down , but like I said, I don't care about the past, because like our God, he doesn't care about your past because He has already taken care of it through His Son Jesus Christ.

Just my opinion. :)

clowreed_johnryan11
15th Apr '08 Tue, 10:25
great guys...... clearly said....... you have had my thoughts bout it....... i can say nomore............. :salute::thumbsup:

binhilan13
15th Apr '08 Tue, 23:39
conservative kasi society natin sa pilipinas e kaya as far as virginity is concerned dapat talaga both man and woman pure para patas. yun ang ideal sa catholic/christian faith na malaking impluwensiya sa kultura natin.

pero kung may "nakaraan" na ang babae o/at lalaki, hindi ito dapat maging basehan ng pagmamahal. at least maging totoo na lang sila sa isa't isa. yun nga lang parang kapag nameet nila yung taong may sexual experience sila in the past somehow nakakailang.

pero, kahit na ba hindi dapat strikto pagdating sa virginity, huwag naman tayong tumulad sa kultura ng westerners.

sa panahon ngayon "bawal mahawaan ng sakit." at remember din na safe sex is the recommended sex kung hindi na kayo makapagpigil. at least, nawala man ang virginity niyo, wala naman kayong "pananagutan" at secured pa din somehow ang future niyo.

celestial_soul
16th Apr '08 Wed, 00:32
hmmmm.....just dropping by to this thread..i can't relate cause i'm only 16 years old.so for my opinion.if you want to experience that..dpat make sure..pnanagutan mo man kung anu mn mngyari...

jayenz22
18th Apr '08 Fri, 20:34
will people it's up to you if you give up your virginity but be sure you know what's the consequences that may come up... be ready for that....:)
if your not then don't do that thing....

myragarcia
5th May '08 Mon, 23:08
hmmmm. be careful...

lasalista
14th May '08 Wed, 09:46
well ok pa din sana kung haharap sa dambana ang babae e virgin pa sya, pero syempre ibang iba na ang panahon ngayon, iba na ang mga pananaw natin tungkol dyan pero may natitira pa namang mga babae na gusto yung old way, kaya pag mahal mo na sobra yung sobra minsan hindi na maiwasan, sa mga girls make sure lang na yung pagbibigyan nyo ng tanging yaman nyo ay worth at lagi kyong handa sa consequences na magiging resulta nito.