How To Survive a Break Up

The following is a list of things you can do to help you Survive a Break up.

*It is a good thing to be with friends and family as much as possible after a break up. It's a way of releasing emotion and receive support from trusted people.

*A healthy way to work through your feelings is by writing about the break up and the way you feel during the healing period.

*Even though many people may disagree, it works if you cry one good time, to get all of your emotions out. People get stressed because they bottle their emotions.

*Get a journal and write down what you have learned from the relationship, about yourself, relationships, and life.

*Create time to do activities you enjoy. Keep yourself busy and your mind off the loss.

*It is important not to engage in self-destructive behaviors such as blaming yourself for the break up or not caring for yourself.

*Do not expect to get over the relationship quickly. You may need weeks or months to get over a break up, depending on how important the relationship was to you.

*Take good care of yourself. Get adequate rest, eat properly, and exercise.

*You may need help if you find yourself intensely preoccupied with your former partner, feel unmotivated and it is interfering with school work and social activities or feel self-destructive.

*Counseling/therapy can help you come to terms with the break up by exploring what this particular loss means to you and providing you with insight you can use in future relationships. Furthermore, it can help you re-gain a sense of worth and instill confidence to move forward.

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1. Friends and Family. I know this may seem obvious but lean on your friends and family. Spend time doing things together, not just talking and thinking about the break up. If this isn’t enough, you may consider a support group or counseling.


2. Resist the urge to beg. You want them back but not at any price. At the time it may seem the right thing to do but think about it. In the long run they will lose respect for you. This doesn’t mean don’t try to work things out. If there is a chance you can work things out, go for it. However, if your partner has made it clear that in their eyes, the relationship is over, begging will not help and may hurt the situation.


3. Make a change in your life. Find a new way to spend your time. Take a class, join a gym, adopt a pet, or volunteer. Do anything that will make you feel good about yourself. Your ego is probably feeling bruised right now. Find a way to counteract that.


4. Understand your mistakes but also realize that you are not a failure. Don’t beat yourself up. If you made mistakes, then yes, learn from them but dwelling on what might have been won’t help. It takes two to make a relationship, it also takes two to end one. You weren’t the only one who made mistakes. It may not seem useful to you now, but a lot of times the things you learned from this experience will make your next relationship stronger, as long as you make the necessary changes.


5. Start Dating. You won’t feel like it at first, but don’t stay away from other people for an extended period of time. Going out with other people can help the healing process and boast your ego.


6. Don’t fall prey to others. There will be people trying to sell you this or that, guaranteed to win back your partner. Don’t let people take advantage of you while you are vulnerable. If you do buy something, understand that while there is a chance it could help, there is also a chance that it won’t.


7. Take up a hobby. Learn something new. There is probably something you’ve always wanted to try but never had the time. You have the time, do it.


8. Don’t rush into another relationship. While starting to date can help you feel better, it’s not a good idea to rush right into another relationship. Take time to heal before making any commitments or someone will probably end up getting hurt.


9. Avoid dwelling on it. I know it’s impossible not to think about it, but, if you find yourself doing so for an extended period of time, find a way to take your mind off of it. Call a friend; go to the gym, whatever comes to mind. If nothing seems to work, try this: Make a list of reasons why you are better off now. This could include I have time to do the things I want to do. I can date anyone I want to. I can find a partner who will appreciate me the way I am and stop wasting time on a doomed relationship. Think about the things they did that drove you crazy, because there are some. Don’t look back with rose colored glasses and only remember the good things. Don’t have the idea in your head that if only we were back together I would be happy. Wrong. Wouldn’t they have a lot to answer for if you did get back together? Leaving you was probably the biggest mistake they will ever make. Let them dwell on it, you move on!


10. Build your ego. I’ve touched on this already but it is very important. Find ways to feel better about yourself. This could be anything from getting a haircut to buying some new clothes. You could take a class on self improvement. If nothing else, you should do this: Make a list of things that make you a great person. Don’t sit there and tell me you can’t think of anything. I don’t buy it. Try again. Are you kind? Patient? Intelligent? Cook like a pro? Can fix anything? There are things that make you great. WRITE them down and whenever you feel low, read your list and add to it. You are you and you are great so don’t let anyone ever make you feel that you aren’t.

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I have a friend na medyo marami na din naging boyfriend..pero lagi bigo, alam nyo yun yung di nagtagal relationship niya..but every 'break up' she went through? yung aura ng face nya parang ganun pa rin nung may boyfriend siya..kasi, ano ginagawa niya? Divert all her attention to something that makes her happy and smile all the way...its not because daw di naging serious yung relationship, but its like, having her choice daw ..i dont exactly understand her actions, but all i know, im happy seeing her smiling sa kabila ng break up ... its like, Its Not The End of the World ..We Fail, but we have so much Reason to Get UP, and Risk .... :hi:

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cry all night, take a deep breath and have fun afterwards. then go on with your life.:salute:

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