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twilight
6th Jun 2008, 01:59
Here is a list for the boys. There is a saying that ďyou never get a second chance to make a good first impression.Ē With that in mind, it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and making an impression that will last.


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1. Pay
Pay for everything. Donít mention splitting the bill. If the lady suggests paying part of the bill do not accept the offer. If she insists, allow her to pay what she wishes (this is not just a rule for dating). You will be the best judge at the time whether your date is only insisting because she feels obliged.


2. Location
No movies on the first date. How can you get to know each other if you spend the majority of the time in silence? I would recommend taking your date out for dinner (no lunch dates on the first date either). Take her somewhere you feel comfortable and somewhere you can easily afford. You donít want to be nervous all through the date that you might get stuck with a crippling bill. If price is a big concern for you, you can organize your own date in a public place (like a park or even at your own home) and prepare the meal yourself. If you canít cook, takeaways are fine, but serve it on plates at the table and try to make an effort.
I would also suggest that you not go too overboard with the first date. Keep it simple and moderately priced. You can get extravagent on subsequent dates if things go well.


3. Manners
When you pick up your date, get out of the car and hold the door open for her. Do the same when you are letting her out of the car. If you are dining out for your first date, hold the chair out for your date and help her sit.
Donít be late.
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4. Respect
That means not to expect anything in return! A date is not payment for future pleasures, it is a way to get to know someone to gauge compatibility. This rule also means you should not try to get your date drunk, drugged, or compromised in any other way. At the end of the date you can offer a small kiss - offer nothing else and expecting nothing back.


5. Confidence
Be confident and take charge of the evening. This does not mean you should drag your date around by the arm; be firm with your suggestions and be confident that you will have a good date and make a good impression - remember, if you were a total loser you wouldnít be on the date in the first place.

6. Grooming
Dress appropriately for your date, and you should probably let your date know where you are planning to take her in advance so she can also dress appropriately. If you are going to the beach for a seaside dinner, dress nicely (no jeans) but donít overdress. Similarly, if you are going to a fancy restaurant, wear a shirt and tie. Make sure your shoes are clean and polished if necessary.
Shower. Shampoo. Shave. If you have cologne, wear a little but not too much.


7. Conversation
Do not focus on yourself during the evening - ask your date questions about herself (this works in all social situations). Listen to the replies too and donít just look for an opening to start discussing yourself. Do not talk about your job for more than a few minutes - while our own work is a fascinating subject for us, it is seldom fascinating for someone else. Be sure to compliment your date - but donít go overboard - you will seem desperate.
Do not ever talk about dates you have had with other people or your ex-girlfriends.


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8. Timing
Donít let your date last too long. Think of it like a good meal - you should finish your plate feeling like you want just a little more. This is the best time to finish a date. This also means that you should not plan for the date to be too far from home otherwise the travel can ruin things.


9. Gifts
It can be a very nice idea to give your date a small gift on the first date. Donít go crazy on something expensive - just a nice little token like a single rose is fine. Keep in mind where you are going and how you plan to get there so your date does not end up being lumbered with something that she has to carry around all night. Oh - and donít pick the rose from your dates garden - buy one.


10. Conclusion
If you enjoyed your time with your date and would like to see her again, call her and tell her so. Donít wait too long (and definitely donít play hard to get). Be completely honest. Having said that, if you had an awful time, you should still be honest (though not brutal). There is no point in leading someone on - it will end up badly for both of you.

g_olano
7th Feb 2009, 23:06
nice one!!!!! :)

ahgarcera
28th Apr 2010, 14:25
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Don't be Late... :salute:

bisoy_ng_adu
27th Aug 2010, 20:30
heheheh! tumpak parang un lang din ginagawa... shoot agad sa balde... ;)
samahanmo na din konting dasal... :pray:

mightymarc
1st Sep 2010, 08:52
pinoy type of first date does not need to be a meal date... yun tipong dinner date agad. The most memorable dates i had was not a dinner date. Ang panget kasi sa dinner dates:

1. Gastos ka agad. Most often than not kapag dinner date expected na sa posh restaurant mo dalin ang girl.
2. Masyado formal. Kadalasan masyado tense pareho ang boy at girl.
3. Kapag tense, hindi relax :lol: how are you suppose to know each other well, kung pareho kayo formal at tensed?
4. Kadalasan puro pakitang-tao ang lumalabas sa ganyang set up. Pa-chuchal etc.
5. Maiksi ang time nyo together since you have to take her home early.

Here's what i usually do if i really want the girl[yun gf material at hindi wham bam thank you mam]:

1. I take the girl somewhere she hasnt been
2. Kung chuchal, dinadala ko sa public park, theme parks etc at pinapakain ko ng hotdog sandwich. dami ko nadidiscover just by watching the girl eat it ;)
3. Kapag one of boys type at cowboy, dinadala ko sa hotel restaurants or kahit saang medyo chuchal at formal. Just so i know how it goes at kung papayag sya...
sa 3-4, if they agreed to it, magandang sign na yan na malaki pag-asa mo
4. pag may car ka and she knows it, try taking her out w/o it, taxi kayo. just make excuses yun tipong emergency. take note of how she reacts.
5. Dress comfortably. If you dont like wearing tie then dont.

Pinadadaan ko dyan mga dates ko... just so i know what type of girl they really are. Yun iba kasi masyado materialistic at gusto lang ng pogi na may kotse. I dont believe that its only us boys that needs to make a good impression on the first date. Sila din girls. After these, tantya mo na kung papasa ka at kung alang kwenta yun girl. Kung alang kwenta[materialistic, ginagawa kang trophy - yes guys di lang tayo ang ganito!] pasok sya sa category na wham bam thank you mam :thumbsup: Kapag ok kinalabasan sa 4 na yan, then thats the time i spend more time with her.

645F
1st Sep 2010, 19:08
nice share! salamat bro! hunting time!