Is it brave stupidity wen sum1 takes a risk and courts a girl even tho he knows he has ~0 chance? Is it better to be a fool but brave,or wise but coward wen it comes to taking risks in love wer ur chance of failing is high?

Is it brave stupidity wen sum1 takes a risk and courts a girl even tho he knows he has ~0 chance? Is it better to be a fool but brave,or wise but coward wen it comes to taking risks in love wer ur chance of failing is high?

My thoughts. Its better to be brave and get on with it. Maybe its foolishness, but I wouldnt call it stupidity. Its better to get on with it is because, spending a lifetime of regret is worse than a few days of embarrasment from rejection. You can turn negative moments into positive experiences. You can build self-steem from that experience simply by thinking : "I'll do better next time." Carefully look at your mistakes or shortcomings and correct them next time. (Baka naman kasi kamamatay lang nung aso nung girl tapos binigla mo agad ng ligaw kaya nauwi sa rejection). Things like that.

i'd rather look stupid but brave...love is a big risk...if you don't follow your heart you might regret it for the rest of your life. true love will only knock at your door once so be brave to take the risk of getting hurt than nothing at all...

Know what? I used to share the same opinions. I used to believe dat its better to be brave but s2pid. But d last tym i was brave, i was hurt so badly dat even my perspectives changed. I beg to disagree that hurt lasts for days only. It remains in ur whole lifetime. It decreases but doesn't go away completely.
But den, wud u still court even if u and ur luvd 1 aren't friends or acquaintances? Or wud u stil cort even if all d odds r against u,even if all ur senses tell u dat u stand no chance at all? Wudn't it be better to call it ignorant bravery?

Risk ... Risk ... and never be afraid to express yourself ....

thats all!

even if ill fail,and will broke up with my bf...i know, ill never stop loving ..because the journey never ends to that person alone...theres someone even better, out there ...

just give it a try, if it didn't work that way, then call it quits. Atleast in that way you can tell yourself that you gave your best right? there's nothing to regret :)

Know what? I used to share the same opinions. I used to believe dat its better to be brave but s2pid. But d last tym i was brave, i was hurt so badly dat even my perspectives changed.

Ancient warriors all over the world are what we call brave. They charge into the battlefield into their more advanced enemies not knowing if they would be alive at the end of the day or not. But still they fight even if the odds are against them because they believe in something. They are ready to face all outcomes, all consequences.

You were hurt the last time because you expected something out of your bravery. I think you are not prepared to lose. You are not prepared to get hurt. Being brave means risking all the odds and at the end of the day, whichever way the scales of fortune tipped, you should be ready for the consequences.

I beg to disagree that hurt lasts for days only. It remains in ur whole lifetime. It decreases but doesn't go away completely.


I agree. But only if you let yourself feel the pain. You chose to forgive. But you didnt choose to forget. That's why you are still feeling the pain.

Laugh at it. And charge it to experience. Trust me, it happened to me as well. Lots of times.

Or wud u stil cort even if all d odds r against u,even if all ur senses tell u dat u stand no chance at all?

Yes. If the person is worth my bravery.

Pain is a crack.We can glue it,paint it,hide it,etc,but it's still der.But den i agree,by 4getting,it gets hidden better.
Also,I agree w/ u dat i'm not prepared to get hurt,maybe coz i xpected sumthing out of bravery,but mainly bcoz my heart became tired of getting hurt. My heart was seriously hurt 3x (twice due to d last girl i courted). Dat's y my brain is d 1 hu decides now. And my brain is business-minded;it takes only calculated risks. But den, i know, i chose to be 'wise' coz i'm a coward. Is der a medicine for cowardice? I hope so,but i know der's none. :-(
besides,given my situation where my luvd 1 is taking up a diff course,we're classmates in a subject but she sits far from me,we seldom see each other,she doesn't reply to my txt msgs, & most of all,we're not even friends, (not even acquaintance coz i just can't approach her,she's always w/ her friends den she listens attentivly 2 d prof & leaves early 4 her nxt class), wat wud u do if u wer me? I think u wud reply dat u'll acquaint den try 2b closer. Easier said dan done. So wud u still recommend trying?

Pain is a crack.We can glue it,paint it,hide it,etc,but it's still der.But den i agree,by 4getting,it gets hidden better.
Also,I agree w/ u dat i'm not prepared to get hurt,maybe coz i xpected sumthing out of bravery,but mainly bcoz my heart became tired of getting hurt. My heart was seriously hurt 3x (twice due to d last girl i courted). Dat's y my brain is d 1 hu decides now. And my brain is business-minded;it takes only calculated risks. But den, i know, i chose to be 'wise' coz i'm a coward. Is der a medicine for cowardice? I hope so,but i know der's none. :-(
besides,given my situation where my luvd 1 is taking up a diff course,we're classmates in a subject but she sits far from me,we seldom see each other,she doesn't reply to my txt msgs, & most of all,we're not even friends, (not even acquaintance coz i just can't approach her,she's always w/ her friends den she listens attentivly 2 d prof & leaves early 4 her nxt class), wat wud u do if u wer me? I think u wud reply dat u'll acquaint den try 2b closer. Easier said dan done. So wud u still recommend trying?

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syo na rin nanggaling na you're not frends or even acquiantance kaya di sya reply sa mga txt mo coz she thinks of you as a stranger kc nga u didn't yet formally introduce yourself...u didn't even start the steps in taking the risk so will not know yet if she is worth a try...

Well, wat i min by acquaintance is dat at least we greet each oder,know more each oder,not just our names. But ur ryt i'm just a stranger 4 her. I tryd greeting her but she snubbed me. I tryd 2b ppansin,un 'wrongsent' kuno,but she didn't reply. I initiated a risk but yet even at an initial stage,i failed. So if i go on,i don't rily think dat she'll love me. Dat's y im just contenting myself glancing at her,i.e. Hanggang sulyap na lang ako. :-(

Pain is a crack.We can glue it,paint it,hide it,etc,but it's still der.But den i agree,by 4getting,it gets hidden better.


I will safely assume that your analogy of pain is a crack, as in a crack in the wall. Now, we can mend every crack in the wall known to us. Either by filling it up with the same material or replacing the wall itself.

Filling up the crack with the same material is akin to facing your fears. You immerse yourself in the pain. Until you get so used to the pain that you wouldnt even feel it anymore. Cruel method. But the harsh reality is that many people out there is using it.

Replacing the wall with another new wall is much harder. You make that one life-changing decision once and for all that you'll gonna leave evrything behind from now on. But before you do that, you need to dice up your past and analize it. Where did it went wrong? So next time you can make a much better calculated decision.

Study the past if you like to divine the future.
- Confucius [ Analects ]

Well, wat i min by acquaintance is dat at least we greet each oder,know more each oder,not just our names. But ur ryt i'm just a stranger 4 her. I tryd greeting her but she snubbed me. I tryd 2b ppansin,un 'wrongsent' kuno,but she didn't reply. I initiated a risk but yet even at an initial stage,i failed. So if i go on,i don't rily think dat she'll love me. Dat's y im just contenting myself glancing at her,i.e. Hanggang sulyap na lang ako. :-(

Whoa, hold your horses bro! Is this girl a new one? Or is she the one that broke your heart last time?

If she is the new girl you would like to court, how would you know that you have 0% in winning her heart?

I will safely assume that your analogy of pain is a crack, as in a crack in the wall. Now, we can mend every crack in the wall known to us. Either by filling it up with the same material or replacing the wall itself.

Filling up the crack with the same material is akin to facing your fears. You immerse yourself in the pain. Until you get so used to the pain that you wouldnt even feel it anymore. Cruel method. But the harsh reality is that many people out there is using it.

Replacing the wall with another new wall is much harder. You make that one life-changing decision once and for all that you'll gonna leave evrything behind from now on. But before you do that, you need to dice up your past and analize it. Where did it went wrong? So next time you can make a much better calculated decision.

Study the past if you like to divine the future.
- Confucius [ Analects ]



Whoa, hold your horses bro! Is this girl a new one? Or is she the one that broke your heart last time?

If she is the new girl you would like to court, how would you know that you have 0% in winning her heart?

i agree filling up a crack is easier but takes a long time. But then, replacing it with a new wall is more effective.

Yes, this girl is a new one, i know that i have ~0% chance because that's what my senses could perceive. I could see that i'm nothing to her, that i'm just a classmate, that i'm just a wind which just passes by. Besides, our worlds are different, she's rich, i'm just middle class, she lives in the city, i live in the province, our courses are different, we're only classmates in 1 subject, we seldom see each other, she's always w/her friends. Compound it with the fact that i'm torpe. Besides, i'm really not sure how much i love her, but 1 things for sure, everytime i see her with other boys, i feel jealous that i want to annihilate the guy :lol:

Well, i just hope there's a cure for 'katorpehan', or a vitamins for courage, :rofl:

Well,looks like my problem is now over.. Now,i don't have to be brave coz i've heard dat my crush has already a bf. God rily is too kind,He doesn't want me to suffer,so He ended my impossibe dream, ha3 :-(