Ang hirap na makipag date ngayon. Hanggang ganon na lang ba?

To start off, I moved to Manila yet again for a job. Met some people that I am staying with.
Then I met someone from my company. Let's call him "Gary". I really liked him. A LOT.
His upbeat personality really got me. He talks a lot, while I listen a lot.
Since isa ako sa may pinaka mataas na rank sa office, many are getting intimitated by it, but not him.

The day he messaged me, I knew we were gonna talk a lot. We frequently talk during office hours in private (discord).
We share a lot of similarities that's why we managed to click. Lo and behold, rumour got us, but we just laughed it out as the rumour wasn't true.
After 3 weeks of talking, he asked me for a date (SFW) which I quickly agreed. I even took a day off from work because of that. There was no sex in involved or even a topic about it.

Then all of a sudden, he resigned from the office. I had no clue as I entered the office premise, that was the news they'd told me.
I was saddened na once na lang ulit ako makipag date, bigla pa akong na ghost. I did accept his flaws and shits, kasi nga tao lang tayo, pero bakit ako nasaktan nung nalaman kong nag resign na siya?
Does this mean I love him already? Yes, I feel so attached to him. He managed his ground sa pag tataray ko and my negative traits and I loved that fact.

Ang hirap talaga makipag date. Parang gusto ko na lang maging mayaman na Tita para sa mga pamangkin ko sa mga pinsan ko.

What's your current dating experience? Is a flop or it's good?

hopia kna kc nun kaya nasaktan ka. sabi mo nga tao lang ayun tao ka nga kaya ganun. pde nman tong c gary (the snail) ay pa fall

k0l0k0yAKO said:

hopia kna kc nun kaya nasaktan ka. sabi mo nga tao lang ayun tao ka nga kaya ganun. pde nman tong c gary (the snail) ay pa fall

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wdym na pa fall? YUng aasahan ko na gusto niya rin ako? Ganon?

I think you're just infatuated BUT not attached to that person. Any rumors why he left the office?

magiging sweet sya syo after nun parang magbabago isip na di ka pala gusto akala nya lang cguro. nag background check kaba sa kanya baka may sabit na? sabi mo nga e magaling magkwento

2ec4m3 said:

I think you're just infatuated BUT not attached to that person. Any rumors why he left the office?

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Medical condition. Was I not really? Pero bakit I find it hard kapag hindi kami nag uusap?

Only you can tell if it is love already. But for me attachment is the latter in the relationship once you have a relationship with that person. Since you like him since day one it might that you love the person already. Madali kasi tayong ma fall kung sobrang like natin ang tao diba lalo nat kung pinararamdam din ng taong yun na gusto o mahal ka nya. If you have a chance to reconnect or initiate a conversation to that person i suggest you do it.

Hello po, hindi na po ba kayo pwede magusap or magdate padin kahit wala na sya sa office? dba mas better pa nga yun, edi kung ganyan lang ginawa nya sayo, saken ka nlang po.. di kita sasaktan , btw punto ko lang, madami pa namng iba, pinapagaan ko lang loobb mo

2ec4m3 said:

Only you can tell if it is love already. But for me attachment is the latter in the relationship once you have a relationship with that person. Since you like him since day one it might that you love the person already. Madali kasi tayong ma fall kung sobrang like natin ang tao diba lalo nat kung pinararamdam din ng taong yun na gusto o mahal ka nya. If you have a chance to reconnect or initiate a conversation to that person i suggest you do it.

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True. I don't have any of his socials that's why I've lost connection with him. And if this is a lost cause, be it. I will find a way to reconnect with him outside. Although, mahirap pero siguro if it's meant to be, kusa darating(?) haha.

Flop, mahirap na kasi ngayon marami ng label at option. At we based sa bugso ng damdamin, di naman kaya panindigan. Do not chase, know your worth. Sabi nga nila. Pero if willing ka to gamble, pakatatag lang.

Xynz said:

True. I don't have any of his socials that's why I've lost connection with him. And if this is a lost cause, be it. I will find a way to reconnect with him outside. Although, mahirap pero siguro if it's meant to be, kusa darating(?) haha.

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Yes. Kaya communication is important ika nga. If he replies then it's good pero kung no reply bala sya sa buhay nya.

Don't rush it..

Same scenario, pero sa guy part. May nameet akong girl dito, let's call her "Jenny". Ok naman kaming dalawa, click sa isa't - isa, nag-meet na din kami in person.

One time sumama ako sa swimming nila with her friends. I was happy on it... happy on her. Some may think na may mangyayari, but I'm not that kind of guy.
Then all of the sudden, parang nawala yun spark na yun. I can't recall bakit nagkaganun, di na ako nakapagbukas ng symbianize, di na din ako nakakareply sa text niya, I left her hanging. Narealize ko na lang, "ghosted" ang term sa ginawa ko.

For the reason bakit nagkaganun? I dunno, panakip-butas ba siya? or nag take advantage lang ako, you may think any possibilities, but for me, bigla na lang nawala yun spark, yun connection, yun happiness...

If your guy does it, Let it go. Hindi ikaw ang nawalan, kundi siya. Move on and treat that as experience that makes you stronger and wiser.

~I know "jenny" will read this, I'm sorry. I am~

kaya pala patok ang movie na Ghosted...haha...,i think he has deep reasons he do it..

I'm a hopeless romantic so I will say this based on my experience. I, too, have been infatuated for 2 weeks, and by the time 'I think I really love her' she left the country and went to Hawaii to settle for good. Good thing was I know her Facebook and we chatted for days, to weeks, to months... until, we both don't message each other. I don't know how many years it has been though I still have our conversation in my messenger yet I don't have the courage to look at it again since I know the feelings will be back and I know I can't do anything about it.

I don't remember her name now and the only thing I remember was I renamed our messenger to 'FOUR YEARS' because that's what I said to her. I will go to Hawaii after four years and rekindle.

I think what you're feeling right now is infatuation and it can be very annoying when you don't have proper closure. Let time heals your heartache and stop pursuing something you might regret. I mean if he is really into you, he will find a way. This is very solid since I'm a man and we all have that kind of trait.

akiyo143 said:

I'm a hopeless romantic so I will say this based on my experience. I, too, have been infatuated for 2 weeks, and by the time 'I think I really love her' she left the country and went to Hawaii to settle for good. Good thing was I know her Facebook and we chatted for days, to weeks, to months... until, we both don't message each other. I don't know how many years it has been though I still have our conversation in my messenger yet I don't have the courage to look at it again since I know the feelings will be back and I know I can't do anything about it.

I don't remember her name now and the only thing I remember was I renamed our messenger to 'FOUR YEARS' because that's what I said to her. I will go to Hawaii after four years and rekindle.

I think what you're feeling right now is infatuation and it can be very annoying when you don't have proper closure. Let time heals your heartache and stop pursuing something you might regret. I mean if he is really into you, he will find a way. This is very solid since I'm a man and we all have that kind of trait.

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I feel awe after reading this lol.

ninku009 said:

Same scenario, pero sa guy part. May nameet akong girl dito, let's call her "Jenny". Ok naman kaming dalawa, click sa isa't - isa, nag-meet na din kami in person.

One time sumama ako sa swimming nila with her friends. I was happy on it... happy on her. Some may think na may mangyayari, but I'm not that kind of guy.
Then all of the sudden, parang nawala yun spark na yun. I can't recall bakit nagkaganun, di na ako nakapagbukas ng symbianize, di na din ako nakakareply sa text niya, I left her hanging. Narealize ko na lang, "ghosted" ang term sa ginawa ko.

For the reason bakit nagkaganun? I dunno, panakip-butas ba siya? or nag take advantage lang ako, you may think any possibilities, but for me, bigla na lang nawala yun spark, yun connection, yun happiness...

If your guy does it, Let it go. Hindi ikaw ang nawalan, kundi siya. Move on and treat that as experience that makes you stronger and wiser.

~I know "jenny" will read this, I'm sorry. I am~

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Bakit kaya nawala biglaan? Ang hirap no? Still waiting for him to message me. I've found out his ig and fb lol.

you cant be intimidated by anyone if you know your worth and capability...

but i think that guy also fallen in love with you...he just cant hold fake it anymore...maybe he has already someone and best way to escape it is to let go and go somewhere else to move on..i've experience this fallen from someone in office and it so hard to hold and fake your feelings. one is have to let go, one thing is it prohibited in the company having relation with ,some one..

he has already someone and best way to escape it is to let go and go somewhere else to move on.

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Here are my answers. Sucklaugh amp. Haha. Oh well. Time to move on.

Sayang naman

uu mahirap talga makipag date , karamihan kasi gusto totnak lang ..

kaya pili talga mabuti , hirap na mahawa ng sakit ..