Bestfriend lng nga ba?

[iChie28]

After 2 years after ako magkaroon ng first girlfriend eto ako ngayon wala ng oras para magmahal ulit, stuck up na pare pareho lng sila, until ngayon college years ko may na meet akong babae, full package na sya wala kanang hahanapin pang iba. Problema lng eh madami nagkakagusto, nag decide ako na ligawan sya even my classmates linigawan din sya, nagkaroon ng awkwardness atmosphere sa classroom pag nagkakasalubong ang mga mata namin ng mga ka kompitensya ko, still ok lng naman saakin normal lng yun. So ayun currently dating na kami, kain kain sa labas, ubos agad allowance ko lunes palang at NEVER ko hinayaan na hindi sya tumawa kapag kasama nya ako, as in always dpat masaya sya pag kaharap nya ako. As time passed by di na kami mkalabas labas busy na sa ibang manlligaw pero still friends kami sa campus alam padin naman nya na lniligawan ko pa sya, pero nung time na yun naisip ko khit sino nlng manlligaw nya, kahit kanino nlng sya sumasama alam ko hindi sya malandi inisip ko nlng ineexplore nya lng ang choices nya kaya nag entertain pa ng iba, pero ayoko nun so nag stop nlng ako sa panlligaw at sabi ko sakanya "Ayoko ng nkkita ka ng ibang tao na iba't ibang lalake kasama mo, kaya mag sstop nako para walang isipin silang masama sayo". Kumbaga nagparaya ako kase masisira ang image nya, still kahit di nako manlligaw nya nag eeffort padin akong makasama sya kase the time na nliligawan ko sya hindi lng ang loob nya ang knuha ko kundi pati friends, siblings at familiy, lahat na boto saamin sya nlng ang hindi, her friends told me not to stop pero yun yung dapat eh, baka mawala ang respeto ng mga tao sakanya kapag mdaming maka kita sakanya na iba ang ang kasamang lalake. During her 18th birthday i made a video presentation para sakanya, tinipon ko mga kaibigan nya para i greet sa sa video pati ang manlligaw nya sinama ko sa video kase hindi ako bias, alam ko special skanya yung taong yun kaya sinama ko na, kahit ang mama nya abroad kinapalan ko na mukha ko at chinat ko, successful ang regalo ko not to mention pati ang venue ng birthday and handa ako yung nag asikaso mula sa design and foods. At the end of the day nandun manlligaw nya may regalong life size na panda pansin ko iba yung mga ngiti nya, ibang iba nung makita nya ang efforts na ginawa ko para sa birthday nya. During special days nya always present ako even simple outing ng family dpat andun ako, ako yun invited hindi ang manlligaw nyang isa so parang nagkaroon ako ng pag asa na maging kami hmmmmm. She gave me the label as bestfriend, tinanggap ko nlng sayang naman ng opportunity, mapapasaya ko padin sya kahit hindi kami kase bestfriends kami. Our relationship went deeper and deeper until inopen nya ang ang account ng ex nya, masaya ng ang ex nya at hindi nya matanggap na nging masaya yung ex nya, and ang manlligaw inaway sya pinag sabihan ng "manloloko" kase daw khit sino dw kasama, ni minsan di ko inisip na manloloko sya. Alam ko ang lungkot nya sobra sobra kaya to the rescue ako, kasama ko sya pero walang pansinan ang sinabi lng nya saakin eh parepareho lng dw kaming mga lalake. Ako kapareho nila? Di ba nya nkkita mga ginagawa ko para sakanya? Wala akong sinagot kase baka lumaki pa ang problema tinanggap ko nlng. Nag walk out sya sabi nya mag c'cr lng dw sya eh nasa 3rd floor kami ng campus sabi nya wag dw akong susunod, after a few minutes di pa bumabalik, inisa isa ko mga cr ng babae, di ako pumasok nag tanong tanong lng kung may nakitang babae na dinescribe ko. Nag renta ako ng tricycle para hanapin sya pero wala, di ko alam kung asan sya. Hanggan sa mag online sya at ichat ko kung kamusta at asan sya, sagot nya pabayaan ko dw muna sya. Napaisip ako, bilang bestfriend nya ako dpat ang karamay nya kase kung may tao mang makakaintindi ng problema nya ako yun, Ano nga ba ako sakanya? Hanggan Bestfriend lng nga ba?

 

[januaryanne]

Hayaan mo muna. Tanungin mo pag okay ng pagusapan. Ewan ko kung bestfriend ka lang eh. Siguro attention seeker siya kaya andiyan ka na andun pa ung iba. Pamiss ka ng konti malay mo hanapin ka pag wala ka sa tabi niya masyado ka kasing present sa lahat na nasanay siyang andiyan ka at walang pakabog ng moment na nakakamiss ka.

Next time kung effort mo wag kang maginvite ng asungot. Gawa siyang sariling surprise next time. Also baka naman nasasakal sa presence mo ung girl. Malay lang.

 

[kimmy10]

Ay nakoooo. Hanap ka na lang ng iba. Iparanas mo naman sa sarili mo na may nagmamahal sayo.

 

[motoro]

She seem to be hung up and bitter about something perhaps she still have the hots for her ex. At the end of the day, whatever your efforts are no matter how many people likes you to be her BF, it's still up to her. Exerting so much effort doesn't guarantee you'd win her heart and you should never expect something in return otherwise you might get hurt. In your case, she just think of you as a best friend which may or may not lead to something more fruitful. It could also be just one way she's telling you that you're only good as a best friend. Also, there's nothing wrong kung iba't ibang lalaki ang kasama niya. Since sabi mo maganda siya so naturally she will have tons of suitors and it's her right if she wants to entertain some or all of them because she could just be treating them as a friend. If she wants to entertain all the suitors because it makes her feel even more beautiful then that's also fine and moreover she's still young. So anyone would judge her about it might just be jealous or bitter.

On your part, it's either you move on or you put up with her. If she says you're a best friend and you accepted it then be like one. If you still want to exert more effort in trying to win her heart while being a best friend then do so but, like I said, whatever happens do not expect anything in return. It doesn't mean that if you give her the moon or went to hell and back that she should love you - no it doesn't work like that. If a girl will like you, she will like you even if you don't exert extraordinary efforts.

 

[iChie28]

Nag try nako mag pa miss, oo lagi nya ako hinahanap pero yun nga kapag andyan yung manliligaw nya nkakalimutan nya yung mga binitawan nyang salita na kunware lalabas kami, lagi yun nauuna kase yun may motor.

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Hayaan mo muna. Tanungin mo pag okay ng pagusapan. Ewan ko kung bestfriend ka lang eh. Siguro attention seeker siya kaya andiyan ka na andun pa ung iba. Pamiss ka ng konti malay mo hanapin ka pag wala ka sa tabi niya masyado ka kasing present sa lahat na nasanay siyang andiyan ka at walang pakabog ng moment na nakakamiss ka.

Next time kung effort mo wag kang maginvite ng asungot. Gawa siyang sariling surprise next time. Also baka naman nasasakal sa presence mo ung girl. Malay lang.

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She seem to be hung up and bitter about something perhaps she still have the hots for her ex. At the end of the day, whatever your efforts are no matter how many people likes you to be her BF, it's still up to her. Exerting so much effort doesn't guarantee you'd win her heart and you should never expect something in return otherwise you might get hurt. In your case, she just think of you as a best friend which may or may not lead to something more fruitful. It could also be just one way she's telling you that you're only good as a best friend. Also, there's nothing wrong kung iba't ibang lalaki ang kasama niya. Since sabi mo maganda siya so naturally she will have tons of suitors and it's her right if she wants to entertain some or all of them because she could just be treating them as a friend. If she wants to entertain all the suitors because it makes her feel even more beautiful then that's also fine and moreover she's still young. So anyone would judge her about it might just be jealous or bitter.

On your part, it's either you move on or you put up with her. If she says you're a best friend and you accepted it then be like one. If you still want to exert more effort in trying to win her heart while being a best friend then do so but, like I said, whatever happens do not expect anything in return. It doesn't mean that if you give her the moon or went to hell and back that she should love you - no it doesn't work like that. If a girl will like you, she will like you even if you don't exert extraordinary efforts.

Yung saamin kase were doing things na dpat sa couples lng, and i guarantee na di nya yun ngagawa sa iba nyang suitors nya. So should i consider that as an advantage ba?

 

[Ihsikats]

Seems hindi pa sya ready for commitment, and base on experience hindi basta2 magpapaligaw ng sabay-sabay kung may gusto na talaga sya sayo. Siguro kung ako ikaw, naghanap nko ng nagrereciprocate baka in the end mafriendzone ln (bestfriend)

 

[jamesalex23]

Sad to say Bro, na experience ko na yan. Kahit nakakaholding hands mo payan o kiss, magpapaligaw pa din yan. Kung ako sayo, humanap ka ng mas deserving sayo. Mabait ka bro saka base sa ikinuwento mo, super effort mo pa. Kung para sa tamang babae mo yan ginawa, nako napaka saya nun ^_^ Pero desisyon mo pa din yan, Godbless bro.

 

[akumi]

Isa kang dakilang martyr. If I were in your shoes, mag-mo-move on na lang ako. If she's the one, she IS THE ONE po. kawawa ka kasi..impression ko lang, ginagawa mo lahat para lang someday sa yo sya mapunta??? kelan pa kaya yun? kaw lang kasi masasaktan sa huli e. Hayaan nyo po muna kumalma si girl bago nyo i-approach. kung ok lang sa yo forever bestfriend-zoned, ituloy nyo lang ang pag-eeffort. tama po yung sabi ng iba na dapat wag na lang muna kayo umasa na masusuklian po yung mga efforts nyo. kungbaga, don't do something for the rewards. do it for yourself. love yourself po. kung nasasaktan naman po kayo sa ginagawa nyo, maybe it's better to stop it/ moderate it. wag na lang laging andyan ka naka-standby nakanganga para saluin sya. kung best friend mo din sya, dapat sya din maging understanding sa feelings mo. di na lang parati kaw ang understanding. you are spoiling her po kasi e kaya na-ta-take for granted po kayo, imho. ewan...it's up to you din naman ang desisyon. AJA na lang po!

 

[cindyloves]

hanap knlng ng iba wag k umasa wala kang mppla sa mga gnyan lol.