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Hello everyone! Need advice, thanks in advance sa makakapagreply. Medyo mahaba kasi yung kwento ko and ganito scenario, please please be patient na basahin. So here goes:
Meron akong boyfriend ngayon, he's my college friend. For some reason nagkita ulit kami, nagkausap hanggang sa naging kami na. He's a born again Christian and pastor siya sa church niya.
Ok naman yung relationship namin, may mga instances naman na sa effort niya nararamdaman kong mahal niya ako. Pero minsan iniisip ko nasa akin ang problema, or valid ba ang nararamdaman ko?!
Nagseselos kasi ako sa girl sa church nila. Ang kwento kasi niya sa akin yun yung girl na palagi niyang pinagppray. Pareho silang church leader and based from my stalking sa FB (hehe) mukhang they are really good friends at magkakilala sila mga bata pa sila dahil taga sa kanila lang din yung girl while kami ni boyfriend halos 30 mins to 1hr away ang layo ng house namin at nung college lang kami naging magkakilala which is around 10 yrs ago na.
May boyfriend na rin yung girl just last year and naging kami ng boyfriend ko late last year lang din. Since college pa kami friends so may idea narin ako sa ugali niya. Pasado naman sakin dahil mabait naman talaga ang boyfriend ko at alam kong mahal niya talaga ako. Ewan ko ba, hindi naman ako selosa before pero dito sa girl na to, selos na selos ako... papano ba naman close ng boyfriend ko buong pamilya niya, bestfriend pa niya kapatid nung girl, even yung magulang close na close niya pati pamangkin niyang bata si boyfriend ko pa din hinahanap lalo nung naospital.
Yung girl din kasi born again Christian tulad niya at pareho silang church leader. While ako Roman Catholic. Hindi issue ang religion sa amin pero partly nagseselos ako kasi yung girl feeling ko hindi ko mapapantayan dahil nasa iisang pananaw sila, pareho sila ng ginagawa, isang dipa lang layo ng bahay nila, they know each other's family, maganda rin naman yung girl at petite yung type talaga ng boyfriend ko ever since while ako chubby.
Samantalang sa amin pag pumupunta si boyfriend sobrang tahimik unlike pag doon sa girl pag nakakasalamuha niya sa church nila feel at home talaga siya sa mga kamag anak ni girl.
Pag tinatanong ko siya kung anong nakita niya sa akin at bakit niya ako mahal, wala naman siyang masagot. Parati lang niya sinasabi na basta bigla nalang niya naramdaman nung nagkakausap na ulit kami nung nagkita ulit kami after college.
Ayoko naman masira yung relasyon dahil lang sa selos, pero minsan pakiramdam ko hindi niya pinapahalagahan yung nararamdaman ko. Or is it right or valid na maramdaman ko to? Nakakawindang tong selos na to. Minsan hindi na maganda mga nasasabi ko sa kanya nang dahil sa selos.
Help naman po. Salamat.
From the things that you mentioned, you have a valid reason to be jealous. However, those are your personal insecurities and not that there's something going on between them already. Since you clearly know that jealousy can break a relationship then you need to calm down for now. You don't need to compete with the girl and his family because that will put a lot of pressure and not to mention, drive you nuts. Just be yourself and be a good girlfriend for now. In due time, you will know whether she's really into you or not. I just hope that he didn't court you by impulse after seeing you again or because he couldn't tell his feelings to her since they are best friend. Again, take it easy for now and just be a good girlfriend because you wouldn't want a relationship to end on your account which might lead you to what-ifs.