GIRLS, any questions tungkol saming mga BOYS? we're here to answer you

[neopimp6666]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

Mga bro, Not everything I see is what it seems sabi nia sakin but we tend to kiss (sometimes soft sometimes intimate) we slept together but no sex, hold hands in the public and frequent hugging sa isat isa... I'm falling for her pero sabi nia she's not ready, feel ko naman na marami siang priority, and may time kasi na itetext nia lang ako pag may free time sia and not freeing her time just to reply ( nasabi ko na ganyan kasi sometimes it take 5- 6 hrs bago sia magreply sa text)

Ganito setup namin for almost a year na, ano ba ang pede kong gawin?

 

[Riyae08]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

Any tips po!
Sabi nya po kasi may BF na siya. Opo may gusto ako sa kanya pero nakilala ko BF niya medyo may edad na halos 9years ahead sa kanya at may anak na daw at medyo playboy daw to mahilig sumugal hindi naman sa sinisiraan ko yung lalaki. Pero ayaw ko lang kasi na sa bandang huli mapasama siya. Alam ko meron siyang utang na loob dun sa pamilya ng lalaki. Ano po ba magandang gawin? Tatahimik nalang po ba ako?

Like they said, it's none of your business..
and from how you say things..

you presume na mapapasama siya
just because you found that the guy has a bad point.

moreover, nasasabi mo lang na ayaw mo siya mapasama
kasi you think she will be better being off with you.
thus, the false sense of duty to save her
when she doesn't really need saving at all.

Ngayon, If gusto mo talaga si girl
you can go on and try
at hindi mo binibigyan ng kung ano anong dahilan
ang sarili mo para masabi mo na dapat mo siya i-pursue

Though I don't suggest it.
it's a matter of worthiness of the risk for you.

Mga bro, Not everything I see is what it seems sabi nia sakin but we tend to kiss (sometimes soft sometimes intimate) we slept together but no sex, hold hands in the public and frequent hugging sa isat isa... I'm falling for her pero sabi nia she's not ready, feel ko naman na marami siang priority, and may time kasi na itetext nia lang ako pag may free time sia and not freeing her time just to reply ( nasabi ko na ganyan kasi sometimes it take 5- 6 hrs bago sia magreply sa text)

Ganito setup namin for almost a year na, ano ba ang pede kong gawin?

The circumstances may depend sa kung anong uri ng tao si Ate.

If she's an independent, career-oriented, breadwinner, achiever, intelligent,and/or has a bad opinion of relationships
chances are she can keep romance on the side for the things she is pursuing
but this doesn't mean na she doesn't and won't get into romance with anyone

maybe, like most of those types, she views romance as a hindrance to those goals
but since the relationship is quite enjoyable to her liking without the commitment
she just goes with the flow of your "uncommitted relationship".

If she is probably like that,

the best thing you could do in my opinion would be
having the talk with her about what you want

commitments aren't as bad as they mostly end up becoming
if you are clear about what you want and what would you give for the relationship
like a take or leave it deal.
and tell her honestly what concerns you in your relationship
without sounding possessive of her but rather supportive.

as if saying na gusto mo siya, at gusto mo kung anong meron kayo
it's not like you want to take it to greater heights right now
but you don't want it to be like one day gigising ka, wala na siya, inagaw na siya ng iba sa iyo.
kasi masakit na masakit talaga para sa iyo yun dahil mahalaga siya sa iyo
and more than anything, you understand ano ang priority niya.

 

[neopimp6666]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

Like they said, it's none of your business..
and from how you say things..

you presume na mapapasama siya
just because you found that the guy has a bad point.

moreover, nasasabi mo lang na ayaw mo siya mapasama
kasi you think she will be better being off with you.
thus, the false sense of duty to save her
when she doesn't really need saving at all.

Ngayon, If gusto mo talaga si girl
you can go on and try
at hindi mo binibigyan ng kung ano anong dahilan
ang sarili mo para masabi mo na dapat mo siya i-pursue

Though I don't suggest it.
it's a matter of worthiness of the risk for you.



The circumstances may depend sa kung anong uri ng tao si Ate.

If she's an independent, career-oriented, breadwinner, achiever, intelligent,and/or has a bad opinion of relationships
chances are she can keep romance on the side for the things she is pursuing
but this doesn't mean na she doesn't and won't get into romance with anyone

maybe, like most of those types, she views romance as a hindrance to those goals
but since the relationship is quite enjoyable to her liking without the commitment
she just goes with the flow of your "uncommitted relationship".

If she is probably like that,

the best thing you could do in my opinion would be
having the talk with her about what you want

commitments aren't as bad as they mostly end up becoming
if you are clear about what you want and what would you give for the relationship
like a take or leave it deal.
and tell her honestly what concerns you in your relationship
without sounding possessive of her but rather supportive.

as if saying na gusto mo siya, at gusto mo kung anong meron kayo
it's not like you want to take it to greater heights right now
but you don't want it to be like one day gigising ka, wala na siya, inagaw na siya ng iba sa iyo.
kasi masakit na masakit talaga para sa iyo yun dahil mahalaga siya sa iyo
and more than anything, you understand ano ang priority niya.

Thanks sir Riyae, yup she's the type na independent and career oriented person but she already had alot of relationship before like mga 7 if I'm not mistaken.
Natiming lang cgro ngayun na she's more focus on her career and she wants to achieve alot of things now after her failed relationships kumbaga sa ngayun doon
na naka focus ang kanyang attention.

Binanggit nia din naman na she's not closing the chance na itake namin sa next level someday, cgro I just need to wait pa din and continue what we are now.

And yes sir sa part ko I'm afraid na one day I might wake up na wala na sia

 

[Riyae08]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

Thanks sir Riyae, yup she's the type na independent and career oriented person but she already had alot of relationship before like mga 7 if I'm not mistaken.
Natiming lang cgro ngayun na she's more focus on her career and she wants to achieve alot of things now after her failed relationships kumbaga sa ngayun doon
na naka focus ang kanyang attention.

Binanggit nia din naman na she's not closing the chance na itake namin sa next level someday, cgro I just need to wait pa din and continue what we are now.

And yes sir sa part ko I'm afraid na one day I might wake up na wala na sia

I understand the sentiment bro

that is why you have to communicate that to her
without giving her any burden from your side.

just plainly saying what you feel
what concerns you
what you want
what you can give
compromises
then asking for her input.

Just to put things on a perspective...

na you don't want to stay like that...
kasi like her. sa mga goals niya and all
you don't want your "investment" on her
be put to waste.

kasi seryoso ka sa kanya..

but don't push it too much into her..
you don't want to put unnecessary burden din sa kanya.

timing lang

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also eh pang Girls supposed to be tong thread.

but it seemed na kailangan mo ng opinyon ng kapwa mo lalaki kaya nailagay mo siya rito

 

[sweetmaria]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

bakit po yung boyfriend ko sobrang seloso? gusto ko na sya ibreak

 

[verticancer]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

bakit po yung boyfriend ko sobrang seloso? gusto ko na sya ibreak

@shen mgadvice ka nga dito.

 

[Arthur Leywin]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

bakit po yung boyfriend ko sobrang seloso? gusto ko na sya ibreak

Kwento mo po lahat ng sitwasyon.

 

[motoro]

Re: GIRLS, baka may tanong kayo sasagutin naming mga boys...

bakit po yung boyfriend ko sobrang seloso? gusto ko na sya ibreak

The usual reasons for that are trust issue brought by past experiences in his life or it's his personality or your behavior may have gave him the reasons to be constantly jealous. If you know you didn't do anything then his problem stems from his side of the fence.

 

[Serendipity11]

QUESTION: Should I still forgive someone na laging nagchicheat sa akin before to the point na may naka-s*x na siyang iba? Someone who never got contented on his girlfriend?

Thanks mga Sir

 

[lucian019]

QUESTION: Should I still forgive someone na laging nagchicheat sa akin before to the point na may naka-s*x na siyang iba? Someone who never got contented on his girlfriend?

Thanks mga Sir

Once is enough, twice is too much, thrice is kung binigyan mo na ng ilang chances
at sa bandang huli pa din ay niloko ka pa din or hindi parin siya ng bago aba ate magisip isip
ka na yan ba gusto mong makasama habang buhay?

 

[motoro]

QUESTION: Should I still forgive someone na laging nagchicheat sa akin before to the point na may naka-s*x na siyang iba? Someone who never got contented on his girlfriend?

Thanks mga Sir

I think you know the answer to that. Once a cheater will always be a cheater and cheating is by choice, not by chance. Even if they haven't had sex it's still a no no.

 

[-CHZ-]

QUESTION: Should I still forgive someone na laging nagchicheat sa akin before to the point na may naka-s*x na siyang iba? Someone who never got contented on his girlfriend?

Thanks mga Sir

Gaya nga ng sabi ng iba, once is already enough. Tsaka, hindi din naman simpleng kasalanan yung ginawa niya. At tama sila, cheating is by choice. Alam na nga niyang mali pero ginawa pa niya. Aba matindi. Yang mga ganyang tao hindi na dapat yan binibigyan ng chance. Kasi malaki ang chance na uulit at uulit yan. Lalo pa at nagawa niyang makipag-sex sa iba. Hanap ka na lang ng ibang mas worthy sa love and affection mo. Di yang ganyang tao na walang pagpapahalaga at respeto sayo. TIME!

Sorry nadala lang. Ganyan din kasi nangyari sakin.

 

[Riyae08]

QUESTION: Should I still forgive someone na laging nagchicheat sa akin before to the point na may naka-s*x na siyang iba? Someone who never got contented on his girlfriend?

Thanks mga Sir

Forgive him? why not?

You will have to forgive him anyway for yourself if not for him.
Everybody makes mistakes. but on his part, maybe it isn't much of a mistake at all.
You will forgive him so you can move on with your own life
and accept that whatever happened is something beyond you.

But it won't mean that you'd forget it all.
and it won't mean that you can start over again.

Like they've said, what's written in the history can't be changed just like that.

so that meant, Getting back together with him/or being friends with him is up to you.
if you can see him past those poor choices, bad decisions and mistakes
if you can believe this time he will change for the better,
if you have a better plan for yourself and him.

I don't see why not you should be together with him.

still, some changes have to be made when dealing with him
so he'd learn to respect you more and not take you so lightly
eventhough you love him.

as a friend, or still as a lover.

I don't see any reason why a person can't change if he really wants to.
but he needs to have a good reason to change.
and oftentimes, a person needs some sort of pressure or inspiration to do so.

 

[PESSI]

QUESTION: Should I still forgive someone na laging nagchicheat sa akin before to the point na may naka-s*x na siyang iba? Someone who never got contented on his girlfriend?

Thanks mga Sir

YES.
Pero move on without him na

 

[malditchme]

if laging nag chi cheat habitual na yan desisyon na talaga nya na mag cheat if kaya mong lagi kang niloloko , tumitikim sya ng iba go patawarin mo but if may respeto at mahal mo ang sarili mo iwanan mo kung di ka nya kayang pahalagahan bakit ka pa nag stay kung lagi ka lang masasaktan at lolokohin .

 

[Serendipity11]

Thank you sa answers ninyo mga sir

I am just confused if forgiving him is the right thing to do kung sa loob loob ko eh ayaw ko magpakaplastic at sabihin sa kanyang pinapatawad ko na siya. If he did was only flirting, medyo may possibility yung isip ko na patawarin siya. Pero iba kasi eh, when I caught him asking some girl to have sex with him - it really tore my heart. What more when I found out that he already did it.

It's just that, I loved him too much but he hurt me so much and I honestly know that I don't have to be treated that way. Not anymore.

Kung papatawarin ko siya, makakamove on ba talaga ako sa sakit na ginawa niya sa akin? Would it heal the wound inside of me? Tama ba talagang ganoon gawin ko kung hanggang ngayon eh ramdam ko pa din?

Ang daming questions sa isip ko but I assure you, somehow natauhan din naman ako na hindi na tamang maging kami ulit. So I told him that and he just asked for forgiveness and friendship na hindi ko na masagot.

 

[motoro]

Thank you sa answers ninyo mga sir

I am just confused if forgiving him is the right thing to do kung sa loob loob ko eh ayaw ko magpakaplastic at sabihin sa kanyang pinapatawad ko na siya. If he did was only flirting, medyo may possibility yung isip ko na patawarin siya. Pero iba kasi eh, when I caught him asking some girl to have sex with him - it really tore my heart. What more when I found out that he already did it.

It's just that, I loved him too much but he hurt me so much and I honestly know that I don't have to be treated that way. Not anymore.

Kung papatawarin ko siya, makakamove on ba talaga ako sa sakit na ginawa niya sa akin? Would it heal the wound inside of me? Tama ba talagang ganoon gawin ko kung hanggang ngayon eh ramdam ko pa din?

Ang daming questions sa isip ko but I assure you, somehow natauhan din naman ako na hindi na tamang maging kami ulit. So I told him that and he just asked for forgiveness and friendship na hindi ko na masagot.

You don't have to forgive right away especially now that you're hurting but you can stay far away from him already. After all, what he did is hard to forgive so it really takes time. No need to be confused anymore because usually the answers to why he did it revolves around him not respecting you and the relationship anymore or he doesn't love you anymore and he wants to taste different dishes. It's not like he just called you up or texted you that he no longer want to continue the relationship. If you ask him why, he's just going to give you all sorts of BS. Time heal all wounds.

 

[Riyae08]

Maybe not all wounds..

but why forgive when you can't.

maybe time will decide that. maybe not.
but until then you can only hope that you'll find the enlightenment for you to forgive him.
that you'll understand why things like that has to happen.

was it for you, for him or was it just fate's way of leading us around.

You can only try.

 

[lucian019]

Thank you sa answers ninyo mga sir

I am just confused if forgiving him is the right thing to do kung sa loob loob ko eh ayaw ko magpakaplastic at sabihin sa kanyang pinapatawad ko na siya. If he did was only flirting, medyo may possibility yung isip ko na patawarin siya. Pero iba kasi eh, when I caught him asking some girl to have sex with him - it really tore my heart. What more when I found out that he already did it.

It's just that, I loved him too much but he hurt me so much and I honestly know that I don't have to be treated that way. Not anymore.

Kung papatawarin ko siya, makakamove on ba talaga ako sa sakit na ginawa niya sa akin? Would it heal the wound inside of me? Tama ba talagang ganoon gawin ko kung hanggang ngayon eh ramdam ko pa din?

Ang daming questions sa isip ko but I assure you, somehow natauhan din naman ako na hindi na tamang maging kami ulit. So I told him that and he just asked for forgiveness and friendship na hindi ko na masagot.

mahirap magmove on lalo na kung pinaikot mo ung buong mundo mo sa iisang tao ang suggestion ko lang ate,
hindi din naman ganon kadali magpatawad lalo na hindi naman maliit na bagay ung ginawa niya gamitin mo lahat
ng hatred mo sa kanya at gamiting susi para makalayo sa mundo pinagkukulungan mo ngayon syempre kung okay
ka na sa lahat that's the time to forgive him kaya mo yan.. focus on your goals sa buhay at magpaganda ka ng todo


para malaman ng kups na yan kung ano ung nawala sa kanya
P.S - ate pagneed mo kausap im one call away nyahahhahaha

 

[malditchme]

Thank you sa answers ninyo mga sir

I am just confused if forgiving him is the right thing to do kung sa loob loob ko eh ayaw ko magpakaplastic at sabihin sa kanyang pinapatawad ko na siya. If he did was only flirting, medyo may possibility yung isip ko na patawarin siya. Pero iba kasi eh, when I caught him asking some girl to have sex with him - it really tore my heart. What more when I found out that he already did it.

It's just that, I loved him too much but he hurt me so much and I honestly know that I don't have to be treated that way. Not anymore.

Kung papatawarin ko siya, makakamove on ba talaga ako sa sakit na ginawa niya sa akin? Would it heal the wound inside of me? Tama ba talagang ganoon gawin ko kung hanggang ngayon eh ramdam ko pa din?

Ang daming questions sa isip ko but I assure you, somehow natauhan din naman ako na hindi na tamang maging kami ulit. So I told him that and he just asked for forgiveness and friendship na hindi ko na masagot.

hindi madaling magpatawad lalo na kung nasaktan , hindi mo kailangang pilitin ang sarili mo na patawarin agad agad sya. sabi mo nga natauhan ka na , just try to move on mahirap magpatawad kung nasasaktan ka pa . girl, hindi mo sya deserve , ibang usapan na yang pag ask sa ibang girl to ahve sex with him jusme kung ako yan break agad, kahit mahirap kakayanin mag move on di nya deserve ang oras at love ko. friendship? sis kaya mong makipagkaibigan sa taong niloko ka?