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@ bravebrian
Yep, you're right, the guy benefits from it alone if you're talking about physical satisfaction and emotional satisfaction thru his ego. Well for me, the hard truth is there's no situation that a girl can benefit more than a guy in a relationship. Unless if the guy allows it. But until now i can't think of a situation that a girl has an upper hand in a relationship.
"True. Correct. Sabi ni SAINT AQUINAS ata (hinde ko maalala kung siya iyon) na in a real world, nagcocompete ang women at men pagdating sa AUTHORITY. Nagkataon lang yeah, VICTORIOUS ang men sa atin since hinde INA ALLOWED nga ng men na maging ABOVE ang women. I observed kase na kapag NAGPUMILIT pa ang babae, makita na lang siya PATAY sa gilid ng kalsada.
Alam mo naman na RAPE at CRIMES ang madalas gumawa ay lalake. "
For me I believe na hindi nagkataon lng un. it was design like it. Siyempre by the Creator. by that design, men are stronger physically which is an authority that can be abuse. All kinds of authority naman eh can be abuse. And its also a fact that girls who was given authority also has history of abuse. And its also happening right now. Pero nga dahil men has more authority than women eh mas madalas ang abuse rate ng men.
But being a virgin on marriage also has its pros. The feeling that you have this respect for yourself and your husband will also respect you more. You could also brag about it with you kids. What i'm saying is the HONOR doesnt leave you if you give it in a the way it was intended to be given.
And yes it is something that has great value that it is an act LOVE to do. Para sa ken po kasi ang totoong LOVE eh walang hinahangad na kapalit. Meaning po is, it is an act that you do for others without you benefiting from it or expecting something in return. So being a virgin on marriage is one great act of LOVE. unless binenta mo. meron na kasing nagpapa-auction ng virginity ngayon eh.
" Na GRAB KO ANG ATTENTION na sinabi mo na ang totoo LOVE ay wala HINAHANGAD na kapalit but yet, ang sabi ay ito, "VIRGIN ay meron PROS." "Your husband will RESPECT YOU MORE". Lumalabas na contradictory sa sinabi na TOTOO LOVE sapagkat meron CONDITION dahil RERESPETUHIN NG HUSBAND ng higit ang babae basta VIRGIN lang ito.
Ang lumabas ay meron CONDITION at bukod pa ay lumabas din na less than ang dating ng mga non-virgins. Lumabas ang contradiction dahil ang sabi, totoo LOVE ay wala hinahangad na kapalit pero meron nga diba kapalit? Pa paano matatawag na totoo LOVE kung meron ito kapalit na VIRGINITY GIFT to a husband? Ang ibig sabihin ay lalake lang talaga ang NAKABENEFIT nito dahil ASSURANCE para sa kanila na kanya ang BABAE at panigurado na SILA ang una MINAHAL.
Maaari ang itinutukoy mo ay galing sa babae na nakakaramdam ng TRUE LOVE dahil meron ito ibibigay na VIRGINITY GIFT na kahit mawala ito ay okay lang. Sa parte ng lalake ay siya ang RECEIVER ngunit ang tanong ay ano ibibigay nito sa babae? So ang lumalabas talaga ay meron CONDITION at meron kapalit ito para ma gain ng babae ang RESPECT nito from a guy. Re respetuhin ng babae ang sarili lang nito kapag ni re respeto lang siya ng lalake which is weird.
Idadagdag ko pa ay lumalabas talaga na SUBMISSIVE to men ang women sapagkat nangangailangan ito ng approval from men upang respetuhin ng babae ang kanya sarili at upang respetuhin ang kanya sarili katawan.
I was thinking na it is a woman's body. She owns it since birth. Even men dapat ay wala karapatan sa katawan ng babae unless disisyon mismo ng babae pero na pe perceive ko ay it is like na women controlled by men. It seems like men control women's sexuality and it is a reason why people have this mentality about VIRGINITY GIFT for men so that men will be secured and less anxiety din na kanya ang babae.
Meron tawag doon.
PATERNAL LAW. "
Gaya nga po ng sabi ko ang LOVE ay walang hinahangad ng kapalit. When I said PROS I was referring to look at the positive side of the situation. not in a way that it was expecting something in return. If you give something to a person the person might return the favor or not. But still you gave it without expecting in return. Its that act of giving that makes you feel content. Not because the favor was returned.
" Also, I am not referring to a guy na masasama at ma ego lang na tipo sila ang basta nag CO COLLECT ng VIRGIN GIRLS. Ni rerefer ko ang guy din as a whole na desire ay VIRGIN na babae ang mamahalin at ginagawa high respectable verses sa non-virgins.
VIRGIN or not VIRGIN ay acceptable ang babae at HIGH RESPECT sa babae pa rin bilang BUO if we are REFERRING TO A TRUE LOVE unless iba ang definition ng VIRGINITY ng mga tao. Iyon ang ibig sabihin ng TRUE LOVE for women at also, for men. They do not expect any return.
The thing is based sa observation ko ay wala equal pagdating sa sex. Always above ang men to women and what can we do? Men have the authority to control women's sexuality. "
In my opinion and it was also said in the scripture that lacks of wisdom and knowledge eh nauuwi sa kapahamakan. So depende po sa tao if they choose to be wise or not. Depende rin if what kind of truth they will accept. And marami pa rin ang di nakakaintinde ng true nature ng LOVE. Actually iba iba pa nga ng description eh.
Kung dun lang iba iba na then they have different truths. MArami nga ang thinking kapag nag mahal eh willing kang msaktan. Para saken mali un. Bakit ka naman msasaktan if you're not expecting something in return. Ung mga nasasaktan eh ung mga nag eexpect lng. Dahil iba ang pananaw nila sa totoong pag-ibig.
" Example.
Virginity for women.
It is a reason why sa mga auction kung saan binibenta ng women ang virginity sa mataas na halaga? Women do not want to be controlled by men lalo na pagkadating sa sarili katawan. Tipo mga INDIVIDUALISTIC kung tawagin (virgin or non virgins ay meron negative connotation porke ang babae na individualistic). Sarili katawan ng babae ang kino control based sa disisyon kung ano gusto nito. "
Yes po meron naman pong mga batas for protection for women kahit na sa mag-asawa pa. Actually meron contradicting issue dun especially regarding sa sex.
Sabi kasi sa batas maituturing na rape kapag ayaw ng babae pero pinilit siya. Pero sabi po kasi sa scripture eh kapag mag-asawa na eh they own each others body.
Para sa ken po ang main factor eh ung respect sa isa't-isa. Pero kaso nga hindi lahat ng lalaki eh ganun ang thinking. kaya nagiging forced sex ang kinalalabasan.
" Ang pera is pang long term din while VIRGINITY ay once lang. Imagine, ibinigay ng babae ang VIRGINITY sa lalake na once pagkatapos ay ONE TIME SEX LANG. What if that guy na minahal din ng woman ay hinde nagtagal, nagloko ang guy or sabihin ay hinde nagkatuluyan? Since meron kasabihan na MULTIPLE SEX for men daw, mas mataas ang AGRABYADO sa babae dahil psychologically, maghahabol ito hanggang sa dulo na wala hanggan. Plus, all the money from a man ay hawak nito? Porke mayaman ang man na kung saan kani-kanino ito nakikipag sex na babae? Plus, ano ibinigay ng man to woman para magkaroon ng fear na same ng fear ng woman upang hinde ito pakawalan din?"
Sa tingin ko po ang tanging protection is ung sa batas ng tao against adultery. Sa marriage po hindi virginity ang ipinapangako sa altar. Gaya po ng sabi ko it is just a plus gift sa husband. Cguro naman alam niyo na ung ipinapangako sa altar. kaya nga po meron batas para mas mapatibay ang ang pagtupad ng bawat is sa ipinangako nila. And VICE versa po eto.
" Ang pera ay mabubuhay pa ang babae lalo kung more than 1 million ang ibigay dahil makaka survive ito. Ang babae ay nakakayanan naman na wala lalake sa buhay nito unless meron lalake nag accept at magmahal sa kanya na impossible wala darating sa life niya."
Sa simula po kasi. hindi masaya ang lalaki kaya ginawa ang babae. Di ko alam kung baket siyempre di naman ako lumikha eh. Maari pa rin natin kuwestyunin un diba. Kasi parang di makatarungan na ang babae eh ginawa para makatulong ng lalaki. Sino naman ako para kuwestyunin. Kaya ang hinanap ko eh ung reasons kung baket nga ba. As a man myself it allways comes back to the main reason women we're made. "I wasn't happy alone"
" Billions ang lalake at babae sa mundo na ibig sabihin, hinde lahat ng lalake ay gusto ng VIRGINS bagkus hassle sa iba sapagkat mababa ang SEX PERFORMANCE ang mga 1st time katulad ng VIRGINS.
Actually, HINDE DAPAT NAKA BASED SA VIRGINITY ng babae kung respectable ba or kung true love ba. Ginawa or intentionally nagka existing ang belief about VIRGINITY GIFT is because of PATERNAL LAW. Not MATERNAL or anything at iyon ay just to be ASSURED na ang babae ay sa lalake. "
Gaya po nang sabi ko. If the owner thinks it has no value then don't expect others to think it has value. If a man prefers a women who he thinks has better sexual performance then what do think he's intentions he's courting her? It all comes down to the intentions. Boys has intentions and also are girls. And true wala pong concrete assurance regarding this because like i said hindi po basehan ang virginity for a happy married life.
Tama naman din po ung sinasabi mo na maaaring maging Detremental ang girls about this specially if the girl has different perspective about it. Yes po in every situation theres always two sides. The negative side and the positive side. Depends on what you choose to look at. Maaaring sabihan tayo ng ibang tao na mahal nila tayo pero pede pa rin natin masamain un. We can say the nicest thing about others but still they have the choice to accept it negatively or positively. Depends on their chosen mindset. Being radical is a choice. Being nice is a choice. Being positive is a choice. Everything about our behaviour is a choice when we gain that capacity to think for ourselves, and to have realize what is right and not. Virginity is like that giving birth Capacity of a girl. it will leave a physical and emotional mark. Which men doesnt have.
Like i said it depends on how you look at it. Will it be a burden or will it be a blessing?
" Hinde ko makita ang blessing. Sa akin... burden.
Hinde siya nakakatulong psychologically sa mga babae. Women must be free sa ganyan mentality and kapag nagkaganun, ang rating ng anxiety will be reduced."
Well its your choice. can't argue with that. The pressure of preserving ones' virginity is so hard for the man you are willing to live the rest of your life. Yep its hard especially if the girls focus on the negatives aspect about marriage and broken families, etc. Thinking its not worth it. It might but it might not. For me it will also comes down on how both parties think and how they handle things. They should have a common ground.
God bless
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