GIRLS, any questions tungkol saming mga BOYS? we're here to answer you

[r a Z e]

any thoughts on splitting bill/expenses on first date? second date? and so on...?

Since it's us guys who always invite you girls to a date, then responsibility na talaga namin na magbayad. Given na yan. But if a girl really, really insisted on splitting the bill, then I wouldn't mind it. It's a sign of respect na rin kasi to allow the girl to do what she wants.

 

[peeppao28]

sa kalagayan ko. on our first months. lage ako nang nanlilibre. then minsan si gf naman. alternate lang. and sa katagalan split bill na kame ni gf for almost 7yrs. kahit na sa mcdo or jabee. split bill parin. si gf kasi lagi nag iinsist na mag split bill kahit na ako na ang nag bayad. ilalagay nia parin sa bulsa ko ung pera. pero minsan pag may occasion like na promote sa trabaho na nanlilibre ako

 

[Riyae08]

any thoughts on splitting bill/expenses on first date? second date? and so on...?

To me, It depends sa financial standing and circumstances.

Usually I make an effort to pay for the meal at least, and movie tickets if there is. When a lady insists, I let them pay for dessert or popcorn instead.

I emphasize the part na it's a personal policy for me to pay for those on a first date. So they should let me. It will make me feel better since I am the one who took them out for a date.
Then let them know, we can split the bill next time around.

If it's my girl. Depende na sa usapan
Pwedeng salitan or split the bill or merong taya.

What matters is we share food and company we will enjoy.
Mapa jollibee spaghetti man yan o tuhog tuhog lang.

 

[hurt143]

Thank you sa replies guys. Iba iba pala talaga sa na-experience ko, may ayaw talaga magpahati, meron ding unang meet nyo- kanya kanyang gastos na, meron namang sa unang date lang- at sasabihin na ni guy next date, split na

 

[Alodia143]

Yup. Meron talaga ganun. Iba2x talaga. Katulad na experience ko din na kahit friendly date na as a friend, sa pamasahe, magulat-gulat na lang ako na maglalabas pa lang ako ng pera sabay pinigilan ako at sabi, siya na raw lahat.

Hiyang-hiya nga ako nun e. Noon iyon. College days ko ata iyon. Kase, kapag ordinary friends or so-called friends ay kanya-kanya bayad kami at minsan, split kami sa pera ke lalake at babae. Sanay na ako, kaya medio napahiya ako na 1st time in my life na lalake ang lahat ang gagastos sa akin noon pati pamasahe.

...awkward moment. Noon. Ngayon, hinde na ako masyado dumidikit-dikit sa lalake. Puros girls ang dinidikitan ko.

 

[Riyae08]

Hahaha. Truth be told. Money is a scarce resource
Why finance the things you can hardly afford.


Plus para walang utang na loob na involved afterwards.
The first one's a treat for accepting the invitation.

The rest will be the story. If there is something to be told

 

[jennyrosecamille]

any thoughts on splitting bill/expenses on first date? second date? and so on...?

I am a girl and wala akong problem sa split bill. I don't wanna burden a guy sa bagay na ako naman nagconsume. And also, ayoko ng utang na loob na kesyo nilibre niya ako eh kelangan ko na sya pakisamahan or sagutin.

 

[Ventriloquist]

Mag-split man o hindi nasa tao na ang problema kung isusumbat nya sayo yun. Kaya minsan huwag mag-desisyon based sa nararamdaman mo at huwag assume na may kapalit ang bagay na ginawa mo. Dahil kapag hindi mo nagustuhan yung outcome may posibilidad na manumbat o mang-sisi ka.

 

[Alodia143]

I am a girl and wala akong problem sa split bill. I don't wanna burden a guy sa bagay na ako naman nagconsume. And also, ayoko ng utang na loob na kesyo nilibre niya ako eh kelangan ko na sya pakisamahan or sagutin.

Hala. Parang naka relate ako doon a. Noon. Siya nanlilibre. Bumili pa nga ng cat stuff toy. Ako naman, inosente, tanggap lang ako ng tanggap. Nasanay siguro ako sa best friend ko na mahilig manlibre at bigay ng bigay pero ako din naman, ganun, kaya lang, mas madalas wala ako pera so minsan, ang madalas ay ang best friend ko (siyempre, same kami girl. e diba kapag girl friend or friend na girl lalo kung best friend, no malice naman iyon, e kaso, ito naman ay guy kase e, so inosente ako na ganun pala iyon?) pagkatapos, nang sadya hinde ako masyado nagfofocus sa kanya dahil meron ako 1st priority, nasabihan pa naman ako na keyso pineperahan ko daw siya.

Napa isip ako doon dahil wala naman ako intention na perahan siya. Inosente lang ako tanggap lang ako ng tanggap, kaya naging lesson learned ko na iyon e.

Gusto ko sarili ko pera as in. Lahat. Ayaw ko umasa sa pera ng lalake. Marami cases kung bakit ayaw ko umasa sa pera ng lalake kahit sila pa ang mag yaya sa date at keyso sila ang gagastos lahat. Ayaw ko talaga. Basta, iba iba cases bukod pa doon. Hinde ko na lang binanggit ang lahat. Lesson learned ko ang iba doon.

 

[jennyrosecamille]

Hala. Parang naka relate ako doon a. Noon. Siya nanlilibre. Bumili pa nga ng cat stuff toy. Ako naman, inosente, tanggap lang ako ng tanggap. Nasanay siguro ako sa best friend ko na mahilig manlibre at bigay ng bigay pero ako din naman, ganun, kaya lang, mas madalas wala ako pera so minsan, ang madalas ay ang best friend ko (siyempre, same kami girl. e diba kapag girl friend or friend na girl lalo kung best friend, no malice naman iyon, e kaso, ito naman ay guy kase e, so inosente ako na ganun pala iyon?) pagkatapos, nang sadya hinde ako masyado nagfofocus sa kanya dahil meron ako 1st priority, nasabihan pa naman ako na keyso pineperahan ko daw siya.

Napa isip ako doon dahil wala naman ako intention na perahan siya. Inosente lang ako tanggap lang ako ng tanggap, kaya naging lesson learned ko na iyon e.

Gusto ko sarili ko pera as in. Lahat. Ayaw ko umasa sa pera ng lalake. Marami cases kung bakit ayaw ko umasa sa pera ng lalake kahit sila pa ang mag yaya sa date at keyso sila ang gagastos lahat. Ayaw ko talaga. Basta, iba iba cases bukod pa doon. Hinde ko na lang binanggit ang lahat. Lesson learned ko ang iba doon.

Hello, for me yung situation mo naman is magkaibigan kayo. We have friends naman talaga na nanlilibre without malice and panget naman na assuming tayos alife di baaa... hahahahaha

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Mag-split man o hindi nasa tao na ang problema kung isusumbat nya sayo yun. Kaya minsan huwag mag-desisyon based sa nararamdaman mo at huwag assume na may kapalit ang bagay na ginawa mo. Dahil kapag hindi mo nagustuhan yung outcome may posibilidad na manumbat o mang-sisi ka.

True. Pero for girls kasi mahirap din magtiwala basta basta sa guys especially kung dating pa lang. Mdaming abusong tao. Mabuti ng safe dba.

 

[2ec4m3]

Boys anong tingin nyo sa mga babaeng balbon?

Ok lang yan, as long na wag naman sobrang haba. haha. I do always checking out this kind of girl.

 

[motoro]

I'm a guy and I'd like to know what a fellow guy would do in this kind of situation:

I met this girl working as a cashier in a store who suddenly resigned to give birth. She doesn't look pregnant at all. She's a single mom because her ex left her. We chatted happily for a year and then we decided to meet and make love. Sadly, a little more than a month she went abroad to work. It's her first time but only for 6 months. While abroad, she began to change and become somewhat cold. Two months before she comes home she totally ignored my messages in Messenger. Then one day, she reach out again because she needed something and we started chatting again.

We started going out again every week but she has become a totally different person. No matter what I do, she's still cold and would often disregard me. I confronted her and she claims that her feelings for me suddenly disappeared one day after waking up. After pestering her some more, she said her outlook in life changed after going abroad and now, she claimed that her only goal is to fix have their house in the province fixed because it's in a bad shape thus she's can't go into a serious relationship yet. I'm having problems believing her because she said she wanted to work 3 years straight and if she's still single then she would look come and look for me, so it seems she's open to having a relationship. Then she would follow up with this statement, "If we are to have a relationship right now then eventually it will become LDR and there's a possibility that if I meet someone at work and fall for him then it will only lead to break up." I was like WTF because that also mean she's open to having a relationship.

Even though I love her, the pain is too much already so I decided to end the relationship by the end of December. I told her that as well and I'm finally looking forward to be free. Since it's the holidays and I love her, I decided to give her, her baby and her parents some gifts. She said her mom was very happy and she claims that she finds herself telling her mom more about me lately.

Then there's a slight turn of events. This afternoon, she texted that she decided to finally introduced me to her mom. I asked what for, since she don't have any feelings for me anymore. But after asking too many questions, she just said, "sige wag na nga". However, around night time, we started talking about "us". She said she's really confuse why her feelings disappeared pero kinikilig daw siya sa akin. She finally admitted that her mom gave her some advice. She claimed that her mom told her that even if she (mom) hasn't met me yet, "maagan loob ko sa kanya". Her mom further told her that, you can learn to love a person again but the most important thing is that there is someone who is willing to accept your child even if it's not his. According to her, that got her thinking so she plans to have their house fixed then after that, "babalikan kita".

But I don't think it's wise to wait for her especially when we are not in a relationship and at the same time she don't have any feelings for me. I don't know if her mom really advised her that or she's just making it up since after December we won't be seeing each other anymore.

So guys, would you wait for her if you were in my place AND would you be willing to be introduced to her mom?

 

[Riyae08]

Nice post Bro.

Salutes for you for Braving to love someone especially under those circumstances

I don't see the difference of being in a relationship now and later other than she might not really be emotionally prepared for a relationship due to her past which created a fear or trauma of sorts. Carrying and taking care of a child singlehandedly is never an easy feat for any solo parent. With no emotional support from your supposed to be partner.

In light with choices presented to you, I suggest that you should meet her mom which will hopefully help you learn a maybe a little more about she is going through and more.

That might give you a better insight of why things are the way they are.

She definitely has her reasons for stepping away from you just like that.

 

[SkipTyler]

GUYS! need help
kapag nalaman niyo na nag cheat sa inyo GF niyo bibigyan niyo pa ba ng 2nd chance?

btw pinilit ko siyang paaminin kung nagloko nga siya at inaamin niya.

nag sorry kasalanan niya daw .

need advice

 

[motoro]

GUYS! need help
kapag nalaman niyo na nag cheat sa inyo GF niyo bibigyan niyo pa ba ng 2nd chance?

btw pinilit ko siyang paaminin kung nagloko nga siya at inaamin niya.

nag sorry kasalanan niya daw .

need advice

Personally, I don’t give 2nd chances to cheaters because cheating is really by choice and not by chance.

 

[-CHZ-]

GUYS! need help
kapag nalaman niyo na nag cheat sa inyo GF niyo bibigyan niyo pa ba ng 2nd chance?

btw pinilit ko siyang paaminin kung nagloko nga siya at inaamin niya.

nag sorry kasalanan niya daw .

need advice

Based sa experience ko before, I did gave her a second chance. Kaso ang problema, kahit na anong pilit mo na kalimutan na parang wala lang nangyari o yung ginawa niya, lalo mo lang maalala na sa huli break-up din ang magiging result. Kapag tiwala na kasi yung nasira, kahit na anong hingi pa ng sorry, kahit na anong pilit mo na maayos o ibalik sa dati, wala na, mahirap na. So, NOPE.

 

[jennyrosecamille]

GUYS! need help
kapag nalaman niyo na nag cheat sa inyo GF niyo bibigyan niyo pa ba ng 2nd chance?

btw pinilit ko siyang paaminin kung nagloko nga siya at inaamin niya.

nag sorry kasalanan niya daw .

need advice

Depende yan sa pinagsamahan niyo and how did the cheater reacted into it. Unang una, pinilit ka pang umamin, meaning if given the chance na di sya magtanong is di ka aamin? Nako... ibang usapan yun.

If ikaw yung cheater, isipin mo kung ano ba talagang gusto mo bago ka magdecide kung gusto mo pa magstay sa relationship mo. Kasi may dahilan bakit nagcheat, baka may kulang, problema, etc. Di ko sinasabi na ok magcheat, pero tignan mo kung bakit ka nagdecide magcheat.

If bibigyan ka ng 2nd chance.. please lang, don't cheat again. Mabilis karma.

 

[SkipTyler]

Depende yan sa pinagsamahan niyo and how did the cheater reacted into it. Unang una, pinilit ka pang umamin, meaning if given the chance na di sya magtanong is di ka aamin? Nako... ibang usapan yun.

If ikaw yung cheater, isipin mo kung ano ba talagang gusto mo bago ka magdecide kung gusto mo pa magstay sa relationship mo. Kasi may dahilan bakit nagcheat, baka may kulang, problema, etc. Di ko sinasabi na ok magcheat, pero tignan mo kung bakit ka nagdecide magcheat.

If bibigyan ka ng 2nd chance.. please lang, don't cheat again. Mabilis karma.

hindi ako ng cheat ung gf ko bali ako nag insist na umamin siya at paulit ulit ko tinatanong kung nag loko ba siya..
hndi siya ngsalita bali head gesture lng ng OO so ako nagulat at nasaktan syempre. so ayun napagsalitaan ko sya ng medyo masasakit dahil niloko niya ko.
naghihintay lang daw siya ng timing para sabhin sakin na nagloko siya.
at gusto niya daw ulit magsimula kami na back to zero at panay sorry siya at umiyak

hindi ako cheater dahil loyal at faithful ako

at YES naniniwala ako sa KARMA dahil INSTANT yan babalik at babalik din hahaha

kaya ako wala ako masamng tinapay na ginawa LOL

 

[jennyrosecamille]

hindi ako ng cheat ung gf ko bali ako nag insist na umamin siya at paulit ulit ko tinatanong kung nag loko ba siya..
hndi siya ngsalita bali head gesture lng ng OO so ako nagulat at nasaktan syempre. so ayun napagsalitaan ko sya ng medyo masasakit dahil niloko niya ko.
naghihintay lang daw siya ng timing para sabhin sakin na nagloko siya.
at gusto niya daw ulit magsimula kami na back to zero at panay sorry siya at umiyak

hindi ako cheater dahil loyal at faithful ako

at YES naniniwala ako sa KARMA dahil INSTANT yan babalik at babalik din hahaha

kaya ako wala ako masamng tinapay na ginawa LOL

Hahahaha sorry got confuse kung ikaw ba o sya yung cheater. But going back to your question... worth the risk ba si gf? may trust ka pa ba? mahirap ang relasyon na wlang trust. mapapraning ka lang everytime kasi baka ulitin nya.

 

[-CHZ-]

hindi ako ng cheat ung gf ko bali ako nag insist na umamin siya at paulit ulit ko tinatanong kung nag loko ba siya..
hndi siya ngsalita bali head gesture lng ng OO so ako nagulat at nasaktan syempre. so ayun napagsalitaan ko sya ng medyo masasakit dahil niloko niya ko.
naghihintay lang daw siya ng timing para sabhin sakin na nagloko siya.
at gusto niya daw ulit magsimula kami na back to zero at panay sorry siya at umiyak

hindi ako cheater dahil loyal at faithful ako

at YES naniniwala ako sa KARMA dahil INSTANT yan babalik at babalik din hahaha

kaya ako wala ako masamng tinapay na ginawa LOL

Gaya nga ng nauna kong reply, mahirap na kasi kapag yung trust ang nasira. Hindi imposible na maisumbat mo sa kanya yang bagay na yan in the future kapag nagkaroon kayo ng away. Hindi din imposible na maalala mo yan paulit-ulit habang magkasama kayo. Kaya naman nasa sayo na yung decision kung ano sa tingin mo ang tamang gawin. Kung mahal mo pa din siya sa kabila ng ginawa niya sayo, go. Kung kaya mo pa magtiwala ulit sa kanya kahit na ganun ang ginawa niya, go. And so on. Otherwise, stop.