Need advice mga ka symb..

[ironstark]

Hello. Gandang Araw mga ka symb..

Pa advice naman po sana.

Yung GF ko kasi simula nung nag ka work sa Bangko. (Graduate na eh bale 3 months palang sya. Tas ako 5th year College palang)
Nag iiba na ugali. Tinatamad na mag text, Nawawalan na ng effort gaano sumama sakin pag nag yayaya ako lumabas. Mabilis magalit at masungit. Pag nag away kami lagi nalng ako brinebreak.
Yung para bang ang damot na sa oras nya? Pero alam ko at alam ng pamilya nya na wala naman syang iba (May ka office mate syang kaclose ko at dun ako nagtatanong.)

Pa advice naman guys ano ba dapat kong gawin?
Nahihirapan na daw sya sa relasyon namin dahil lagi nalnag daw kami nag aaway.

 

[Parvovirus]

Hey brother, ilang taon na yung girlfriend mo at gano na kayo katagal?

 

[Caligula32]

Bro sign na yan ng defensive mechanism ng babae na ayaw na niya sayo. Nagagawa na lang siya ng dahilan.
Kung mahal ka, Ang babae kahit pagod yan pagkatapos ng work dapat excited ka parin kausapin niyan sa phone man o personal.
Kelangan mo mag da moves. Like, ihahatid hatid mo siya sa work. Mas aggressive ka dapat na pangitiin siya.
DAHIL ANG BABAE KAPAG HINDI MO NA NAPAPANGITI-BABYE NA YAN..

Goodluck bro!

 

[motoro]

If it started right when she had a job then it might mean she found some kind of independence and happiness in he job. Since she's already earning money she may have felt that she wants to enjoy her life in the meantime. OR she may have actually found someone new.

What you can do is try talking to her about it. Encourage and convince her to tell you honestly what's going on para di ka kamo magmukhang makulit dahil napapansin mo na may pagbabago.

 

[caeli]

I think you should be a supportive boyfriend. Wag masyado insecure. Ineenjoy lang ni girly ang newfound financial freedom at career niya. Mas nakakainit naman talaga ng ulo yung dadramahan ka pa.

 

[Culsjane]

Agree ako d'un sa be a supportive boyfriend for the mean time. Malay mo nasa adjustment stage / learning curve pa ang gf mo sa bagong work niya. Huwag na lang munang para sa iyo o tungkol sa iyo ang entrada mo. Ask her about her work. Kung nahihirapan ba siya, ano'ng mga challenges na hinaharap niya, nag-eenjoy naman ba siya etc. Stay on neutral lines. Huwag ka na munang magtanong kung may pumoporna sa kanya or something (anyway, may spy ka naman for that). And you really don't have to help her address her troubles in her job, kung mayroon man. Minsan sapat na ang nariyan ka para makinig at mapagkuwentuhan niya ng mga bagong experiences niya. Keypoint is, maging masaya ka para sa kanya sa bagong stage ng buhay niya. After all, hindi ba kaligayahan ng minamahal ang laging una sa nagmamahal?

 

[caeli]

^what he said

 

[xtrail16]

Wag masyado KSP ng GF ts
Things won't be the same and in most cases that's normal.
Wag ka mangulit dahil breakup talaga kakahantungan niyan.
Intindihin mo payo nung mga nagpost sa taas.
Ang nangyayare kasi parang nakikipag-agawan ka ng attention at ang maiisip niya e pinapahirapan mo siya magbudget ng oras niya and that is dragging her down. Give her time, alam mo namang mahal ka e dadating din yung point na siya makakamiss sa iyo at di mo kailangan pang sabihan.

 

[acelleb]

Wawa naman TS, may nahanap na iba si GF, sorry ka na lang.

 

[Riyae08]

Be supportive and Hope for the best pare

Kung naghanap na ng iba yan talaga wala ka na magagawa..

Ang iyo na lang eh di ka nagkulang.

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On another side,

Baka nag aadjust pa kasi si GF sa environment niya at madami siya wino-worry

So kaya kayo madali mag away is dahil gusto niya maglabas ng inis sayo...

That is being both optimistic and reasonable...

 

[Parvovirus]

TS, since you are not giving any comments here, I would assume that you don't need this anymore or you probably committed suicide and died. But, if you're out there, fucked up but still alive, I hope you get to read and find this helpful.

I would not assume that you are being unreasonable with your girlfriend's actions because I don't know you guys personally so I will just give you 2 possible reasons why you are going through this.


"Nag iiba na ugali. Tinatamad na mag text, Nawawalan na ng effort gaano sumama sakin pag nag yayaya ako lumabas. Mabilis magalit at masungit. Pag nag away kami lagi nalng ako brinebreak."

If what you are saying is true then let me put this bluntly, she is trying to dump you. This is not just getting some space because you are being too clingy or dahil nasasakal na sya. If there is a big change in your relationship, she doesn't want to be around you, very irritable and always wants to break up with you, then she doesn't want you anymore bro. Look, if this is just about her enjoying her new life because of her new job then why the fuck does she act like she's trying to get rid of you?


The reason why I'm asking how old she is and how long have you guys been together has something to do why she is being like that. Your relationship probably ran its course and it's time for you to break up.

On the other hand, pwede ding nag-iba ang ugali nya dahil nagbago ka na din sa kanya. Hindi na ikaw yung dating sweet nung nanliligaw ka pa lang. Tamad na sya magtext dahil boring ka kausap. Nawawalan na sya ng effort sumama sayo maybe because you keep bringing her to the same place doing the same old stuff. Mabilis magsawa ang mga babae and most of them loves surprises. Mabilis magalit at masungit dahil nakakainis ka na dahil sobrang kulit mo at lagi ka na lang bnbreak dahil di nya na talaga kaya ang ugali mo.

If the problem is with you, then it's your fault why you guys will end up like this. But if you are a good boyfriend and you know that you're doing everything to keep her even though she's being a bitch, then man up and talk to her about all this shit and ask what she really wants.

P.S.
Kung ayaw na nya talaga sayo at wala na talagang pagasa, do me a favor and fuck her one last time and call it quits.