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[Mimosa]

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Malalaman natin yan kapag nasa ligawan stage na ulit ako. Soon...

okay Sir nam.. aabangan ko yan

 

[julourne2531]

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She did it not only for her dreams.. She did it for her family and for her future
Kasi once you fall in love, you should not forget that your family loved you first..
Kasi yan din nagugulohan ako sa mga lalaki, bakit minsan parang di kinoconsider ng lalaki na binuhay kami ng parents namin for how many years bago pa sila dumating sa buhay namin..
Dapat proud ka pa sa kanya kasi she's someone who gives importance to her family.. someday somehow she will be a good mother..

And you should also think to yourself, she's working hard to be a successful woman..
Ikaw, ano ginagawa mo? I hope in the same way winowork out mo din ang life mo..
Wag nating hayaan na sa girlfriend/boyfriend lang umiikot ang mundo natin..

For me nakikipagbreak ang babae dahil sa work/studies dahil iniiwasan namin yong demands..
You can always stay as her friend.. support her without demanding time..

Hanggat di mo siya nakikitang nagientertain ng iba, for sure mahal ka pa niya
Pero kung ayaw mo maghintay, maghanap ka na lang ng iba

Thanks mam, ngayon mas lalo ko nang naintindihan kung bkit sya gnun. susuportahan ko nlng sya kung ano gusto nya. pero mam sa 2yrs na pagaaral nya at sa paghihintay ko ewan ko lang magfafade ba feelings nmin sa isat isa? hnd nman po sa nangangako pero hihintayin ko po sya. pero sana lng po gnun din po sya.

 

[namrob]

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okay Sir nam.. aabangan ko yan

Ilang mga araw pa, game na 'to!

 

[Razielle Prima]

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Thanks mam, ngayon mas lalo ko nang naintindihan kung bkit sya gnun. susuportahan ko nlng sya kung ano gusto nya. pero mam sa 2yrs na pagaaral nya at sa paghihintay ko ewan ko lang magfafade ba feelings nmin sa isat isa? hnd nman po sa nangangako pero hihintayin ko po sya. pero sana lng po gnun din po sya.

Our future shouldn't be compromised for the sake for uncertainty. That's right. Support her, & you too shouldn't compromise your own. Sabay n'yo abutin pangarap n'yo, & that'll be a start of building the foundation of your future

 

[julourne2531]

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Our future shouldn't be compromised for the sake for uncertainty. That's right. Support her, & you too shouldn't compromise your own. Sabay n'yo abutin pangarap n'yo, & that'll be a start of building the foundation of your future

thanks sir razielle
opo before po kasi nangyari nagusap kasi kami na okey naman kahit gnyan set up hnd nman ako mangiistorbo pero kinabuksan tuluyan nya nlng ako giniveup kya msakit tlga masyado lang siguro ako umasa. masyado n rin siguro ako mksarili d ko n sya naisip ng family nya pero ngayon malinaw na po sa isipan ko. tama po sya tama po kayo. before kmi tuluyan nag hiwalay she said na magset na rin ako ng goals ko pra sa family and for myself na rin po.

 

[Razielle Prima]

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If anything else, you can do it

 

[julourne2531]

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If anything else, you can do it

thank you sir Razielle

 

[Mimosa]

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thanks sir razielle
opo before po kasi nangyari nagusap kasi kami na okey naman kahit gnyan set up hnd nman ako mangiistorbo pero kinabuksan tuluyan nya nlng ako giniveup kya msakit tlga masyado lang siguro ako umasa. masyado n rin siguro ako mksarili d ko n sya naisip ng family nya pero ngayon malinaw na po sa isipan ko. tama po sya tama po kayo. before kmi tuluyan nag hiwalay she said na magset na rin ako ng goals ko pra sa family and for myself na rin po.

Love is one thing that we can never control..

What we can do is.. love that person while the feeling is there..

We may lose them someday.. or we may end up with that person

For now,concentrate on supporting her with her dreams..

That's how love works..

 

[julourne2531]

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Love is one thing that we can never control..

What we can do is.. love that person while the feeling is there..

We may lose them someday.. or we may end up with that person

For now,concentrate on supporting her with her dreams..

That's how love works..

opo. no need to move on diba po continue pa din pagpaparamdam. paparamdam ko na andito lang ako d ko sya iniwan.

 

[ninku009]

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tama ang sinabi ni nichen050590 when it comes SETTING UP THEIR PRIORITIES, dont EXPECT and dont ASSUME. For us MEN, dapat intindihin natin na tao din sila, napapagod at may needs/wants. Sasabihin nio, tayo(MEN) din tao at may needs/wants, dun papasok ang UNDERSTANDING. Kahit papano nabibigyan tayo ng unting oras/panahon kahit busy sila. Hindi naman nila NO.1 priority ang pag-ibig, dont EXPECT na, she have you 100% ng kanilang oras. Kung may pagkakataon na nabibigay nila ang almost 70%, its means bumabawi sila sa pagkukulang(time), pede din na hindi na siya busy, pede din appreciation ng effort na binigay mo sa kanya na gumawa ng way.

Minsan nagiging makasarili tayo (this is FACT), iniisip lang natin ang kapakanan natin, kung ano ang kailangan natin sa kanya, hindi naman sila pinanganak na kaya mag-multi tasking. They also adjust their time and priorities, ayaw nila may nasasaktan lalo na kung mahal nila, pero may pagkakataon na ang desisyon nila ay masakit but it will benefit for everyone.

Please try to understand WOMEN, emotionally and mentally. Respect her decisions and support her at their Ups and downs. I can guarantee to the guys out there, hindi nila (Women) masabi sa inyo, but in their mind, thankful siya dahil may taong TOTOONG nakakaunawa sa kanya, hindi lang puro salita. In the long run, mas marerealize niya ang existence mo. What next, she grew love towards you. If not, let it be. Atleast you give what you can do and show who you really are. Kampai

 

[demon spade]

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next patient please..
kahit basag ang internet connection ko sasagot ako sa lahat ng katanungan niyo sa abot ng aking makakaya..

 

[julourne2531]

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tama ang sinabi ni nichen050590 when it comes SETTING UP THEIR PRIORITIES, dont EXPECT and dont ASSUME. For us MEN, dapat intindihin natin na tao din sila, napapagod at may needs/wants. Sasabihin nio, tayo(MEN) din tao at may needs/wants, dun papasok ang UNDERSTANDING. Kahit papano nabibigyan tayo ng unting oras/panahon kahit busy sila. Hindi naman nila NO.1 priority ang pag-ibig, dont EXPECT na, she have you 100% ng kanilang oras. Kung may pagkakataon na nabibigay nila ang almost 70%, its means bumabawi sila sa pagkukulang(time), pede din na hindi na siya busy, pede din appreciation ng effort na binigay mo sa kanya na gumawa ng way.

Minsan nagiging makasarili tayo (this is FACT), iniisip lang natin ang kapakanan natin, kung ano ang kailangan natin sa kanya, hindi naman sila pinanganak na kaya mag-multi tasking. They also adjust their time and priorities, ayaw nila may nasasaktan lalo na kung mahal nila, pero may pagkakataon na ang desisyon nila ay masakit but it will benefit for everyone.

Please try to understand WOMEN, emotionally and mentally. Respect her decisions and support her at their Ups and downs. I can guarantee to the guys out there, hindi nila (Women) masabi sa inyo, but in their mind, thankful siya dahil may taong TOTOONG nakakaunawa sa kanya, hindi lang puro salita. In the long run, mas marerealize niya ang existence mo. What next, she grew love towards you. If not, let it be. Atleast you give what you can do and show who you really are. Kampai

thanks sir ninkuu ngayon malinaw n po skin. for the benefits of everyone lalo skanya we sacrifice. kaya ko naman maghintay basta may pc at internet kahit wala babae mabubuhay n ko

next patient please..
kahit basag ang internet connection ko sasagot ako sa lahat ng katanungan niyo sa abot ng aking makakaya..

Wala pa ata pasyente susunod skin sir demon spade.

 

[Arthur Leywin]

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Share ko lang po dahil akoy broken hearted.
bago lang po kmi ng ex-gf ko pero un nagsisimula plng pero nasaktan agad.
hnd sa 3rd party or sa mga iba pang dahilan.
nagmamasteral kasi sya and madaming syang goals pra sakanya at sa family nya. naiintindihan ko naman sya pero bakit gnun b tlga mdali nya ko nagiveup dahil sa mga pangarap nya? ang skit sakit po skin.
mahal po nmin isat isa pero hnd ko n tlga sya mapigilan sa gusto nya. eto pumayag nlng akong walang mgawa.

kahit ako ganun gagawin ko sa'yo kung ako yung babae
importante ka pero mas importante ang career

wag ka mag alala
balikan mo siya after masteral

 

[Mimosa]

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opo. no need to move on diba po continue pa din pagpaparamdam. paparamdam ko na andito lang ako d ko sya iniwan.

tama ang sinabi ni nichen050590 when it comes SETTING UP THEIR PRIORITIES, dont EXPECT and dont ASSUME. For us MEN, dapat intindihin natin na tao din sila, napapagod at may needs/wants. Sasabihin nio, tayo(MEN) din tao at may needs/wants, dun papasok ang UNDERSTANDING. Kahit papano nabibigyan tayo ng unting oras/panahon kahit busy sila. Hindi naman nila NO.1 priority ang pag-ibig, dont EXPECT na, she have you 100% ng kanilang oras. Kung may pagkakataon na nabibigay nila ang almost 70%, its means bumabawi sila sa pagkukulang(time), pede din na hindi na siya busy, pede din appreciation ng effort na binigay mo sa kanya na gumawa ng way.

Minsan nagiging makasarili tayo (this is FACT), iniisip lang natin ang kapakanan natin, kung ano ang kailangan natin sa kanya, hindi naman sila pinanganak na kaya mag-multi tasking. They also adjust their time and priorities, ayaw nila may nasasaktan lalo na kung mahal nila, pero may pagkakataon na ang desisyon nila ay masakit but it will benefit for everyone.

Please try to understand WOMEN, emotionally and mentally. Respect her decisions and support her at their Ups and downs. I can guarantee to the guys out there, hindi nila (Women) masabi sa inyo, but in their mind, thankful siya dahil may taong TOTOONG nakakaunawa sa kanya, hindi lang puro salita. In the long run, mas marerealize niya ang existence mo. What next, she grew love towards you. If not, let it be. Atleast you give what you can do and show who you really are. Kampai

Nice same way with girls.

 

[julourne2531]

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yes sir iamcrucial. Nagusap na rin po kmi tgnan nlng po after 2yrs. As of now may communication pa kmi khit mdalang nlng magusap okey lang basta maintain lang po.

 

[Arthur Leywin]

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julourne, edi maige.
swerte ka at mababalikan ka pa niya

 

[julourne2531]

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julourne, edi maige.
swerte ka at mababalikan ka pa niya

may tiwala din kasi ako skanya sir iamcrucial masaya din daw kasi sya kasi may bbalikan pa sya

 

[Arthur Leywin]

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may tiwala din kasi ako skanya sir iamcrucial masaya din daw kasi sya kasi may bbalikan pa sya

Pero wag ka mag assume masyado. Ok?
Walang nakakaalam kung ano pwede mangyari in the future.

 

[pandasauure]

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Setting Priorities kasi kaya ganon. Minsan kelangan nating mamili kung career or feelings pero minsan talaga mas matimbang ang CAREER dahil minsan ito ang magaangat sayo kung ano ka ngayon. Ayokong sabihin na tama yung girl sa ginawa nya pero minsan kelangan mo na lang tanggapin at intindihin kung ano man ang desisyon nya, dun mo masasabi sa kanya kung gano sya kahalaga. Dadating din ang oras na babalik sya sayo kung kayo ang para sa isa't isa althought hindi ako naniniwala sa destiny na tinatawag pero baka ikaw naniniwala ka don.

 

[beibhytearz]

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Eto po ang boung detalye. Noon 19 years palang ako siya ay 15 years old. babaero po ako walang tumatagal sakin na babae after ko siya nakilala nagbago lahat. siya ang first love ko. 3 years na maganda ang relationship namin, masaya, adventure at maraming happy moments kasi joker ako, palangit parang walang problema till december 2012.. may nakachat siyang lalaki bali kilala niya, sinasabi naman niya lahat sakin kaya aus lang. nung nagtagal mga march 2013 sinabi niya sakin magkikita sila nung freind niya. sabi ok lang. hangang nagtagal mga april 2013 nafeel kong parang lumalamig siya, un pinaamin ko siya kung mahal a ba niya yung fren niya at sabi 'oo' kaya pinagpili ko siya. after that ako ang pinili. ok nanaman kami. then june 2013 nagulat ako sabi niya may katext daw siya marami akong nakita sabi niya para makutulong sakanya sa thesis nila, "maganda po kasi gf ko" yun pinabayaan ko lang pero may pagdududa ako. july 2013 wala nang time siya saakin at parang lumamig na siya pero akong tanga giniveup ko siya. pero nakipagbalikan ako at tinanong ko kung bakit niya ginagawa un, sinabi ko kung may pagkukulang ba ako, sabi naman niya wala, huhu hindi ko maintindihan, after that nagkaayos ulit kami, then august 2013 nagkita sila nang unang friend niya ulit at nalaman ko lang sa parents niya, huhu an sakit nun.. sabi niya di na daw mauulit and bigyan ko daw nang last chance. nov 6 2013,nahuli ko may kchat siya at crush siya nang gf ko and parang sinasabi niyang manligaw siya sa gf ko, den nov 7 2013 txtx nang tx siya sakin, nov 8-10 2013 di na siya nagparamdan, ako dina nagparamdan magsimulang nalaman ko yun. i need advice please.. kasi kung itutuloy pa parang uulitin niya pa rin? diba po?

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bakit ayaw magpost

Seryoso ako sakanya, alam kong mahal na mahal niya ko. kasi naman pag iiwan ko siya iiyak hangang magkasakit at yun aalagaan ko nanaman siya hangang ok nanaman. yung 2nd last scenario eh hindi siya makatulog almost 3 wiks.. andun lang ako sa tabi niya kahit my work ako.. hindi man lang niya makita mga effort ko. ngayon parang immune na ko eh

@ninku009 nagawa ko na po yan 2nd scenario po pero effective yan.. ginawa niya lahat para makuha ulit tiwala ko.. and saka po hinde niya naging bf yung mga yun.. parang MU lang ganun po.

hindi ko nga rin alam eh.. naguguluhan talaga ako.. sige po itry ko makipagusap sakanya at babalitaan ko po kayo dito kung anong nangyari.. maraming maraming salamat po sa mga advice niyo..

ganito po kasi yan, araw araw gusto niyang magkasama kami.. pag nagsstay ako sa bahay nila ayaw ako pauwiin, gusto niya tabi na kami matulog na ayaw niya kong malubay sa paningin niya. siya po kasi nauunang nagsasabi na magkikita kami ganun po, nauunahan niya ko sa ganung bagay na dapat lalaki ang gumagawa. at pag my minsan po akong di nasunod parang nagrerebelde na siya

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ang alam ko pong kasalanan sa kanya ay yung pagiging late ko or pinaghihintay ko siya at yung mga bagay na sinabi ko pero di ko natutupad minsan at lastly yung paguuc ko na gusto niyang maalis saakin

parang nawawalan ako nang gana, yun di na ko nagsasalita.. at masungit na ko sa kanya..

Ok. Sounds reasonable but I saw some flaws.
One can never talk as if he/she knew what the other one is thinking unless he/she can read minds or at least actions.
So the Lines; "Alam ko na mahal niya ako" and "Nagmamahalan kaming dalawa" don't actually exists unless proven by both parties.
We girls are so emotional to the extent na simpleng movie lang or teleserye or pangyayari would make us cry. It's a fact.
Another is that Assuming isn't a healthy Habit.
Lastly, caught texting isn't enough reason to be treated as cheating.

Elaboration.
In a relationship that lasts more than 3 years usually have a point wherein the characters of the said relationship is lacking some things to the point that they will search what's lacking. Both of them started to cheat, some for connection and some for the thrill. And at the end of the day, some empowers the connection and some also destroys it.

In this cycle both parties is experiencing the same routine. Lalo na pag halos teenies pa nung nagstart ang relationship. As priorities weigh as time passes by dun din nakakaramdam ng panlalamig and sometimes loneliness to either. Best Cure? Understanding.

Why Understanding? Why not just let go? Why stick to it?
According to the story, the guy admitted that there are HIS faults. It's true, but when you read the entire story and analyze it you would see that the story is focused on the girl's mistakes. And the guy didn't say anything he did about it. It is easy to let go. It's like an escape tunnel wherein one would just walk away from it and start anew. What's hard is building the broken relationship again.

More of them commented just let go.
I also would've but after I read it whole I guess there's something that's lacking.
Try courting her again. Start to let her feel being loved. By then she may feel that she's special again.
Yun yung lacking. nasanay ka na sa nakasanayan na gawin. Di ka ba nagsasawa? Add more spice sa relationship.
After you did the best you may and can that's the only time you need to give up.
But if not, then it means you're not trying.

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Good day po ts.

Surprise attack ni FRIENDZONE.
Ganito po yun after nyang pumayag na mag paliligaw. Sinabi nya pa sakin noon sa harap ng pagmumuka ko napayag daw sya. (Take note: Nasa gitna na ako ng panliligaw sa kanya). Tapos sa isang iglap nangamoy FRIENDZONE na! Bigla na lang nagbago ang isip nya. Eto sabi nya "Sorry daw, di nya talaga sinasadya at sobrang na appreciate nya daw ang effort ko pero hanggang kaibigan na lang daw kami". (Di ko na ipopost ang mga sunod-sunod na mga karumal-dumal kong mura)
Di daw sinasadya KALOKOHAN! E sana sinabi nya na lang yun umpisa pa lang ng di na ako umasa. NAIRITA talaga ako sa kanya! IRITANG IRITA!

LOVE and HATRED na ang nararamdaman ko sa kanya ngayon.
Tapos sasabihin ng iba andami daw bitter. E malamang tao tayo. Hindi ako manhid. Natural lang na maramdaman ko to. Buti nga BITTER lang yung iba nga dyan SUICIDAL!

Ano po ba maipaapyo nyo? Should I accept it and fight my BITTERNESS? or Should I don't give up and continue this FOOLISHNESS? Hope you can help me.

High school pa po kami sir gusto ko na sya. Ngayon nag wowork na siya. Kay tgal ko din inantay to tapos ganito lang pala kalalabasan. Wasted so much time.

Sir razielle: Ito lang po masasagot ko sainyo. Hindi ko naman po masusukat ang pagmamahal ko sa kanya basta mahal na mahal ko siya ng sobra sobra.
Done reading all your reponse. So in the end acceptance lang po talaga kailangan. Uumpisahan ko na po mag move on. Medyo gumaan ang loob ko ngayon. Maraming salamat po sir demon spade at killerloop. Case closed. God bless this thread.

Parang yung scene lang sa Greenwich dati.
Guy: paorder po ng Hawaiian pizza.
After nadeliver yung order niya he complained...
Guy: Bakit ganito? Wala man lang mushrooms, bell peppers at extra cheese.
I just laughed my ass out. Then he focused his anger on me.
I just told him, "Just order a greenwich special or overload. Better."

Yes. Tama si nich. Sometimes guys do expect a lot of things. Kaya nga pagdating sa pag-aasume sila ang the best na example eh.
Tama ba naman na murahin mo ang nililigawan mo? Paasa na agad dahil sinabi na friend zone lang kayo?
Panliligaw = chance. It does have 2 paths. Either basted or kayo na. It isn't a one way road to success. Being a suitor would mean there are a lot of bumpy roads along the way. There are even chances where you would experience to be traveling with more than one car. there are even instances that somebody reached the end of the road before you do. And the decision would rely sa girl na nililigawan mo. Not yours.

Ang sukat ng pagmamahal ay makikita sa iba't-ibang bagay.
Di lamang sa length, sa tagal mo na naghintay, sa pagmamahal na sobrang wagas na walang salita appropriate to describe the feeling.
But after what you did di ko lang alam if reasonable pa rin na masabi mo mahal mo siya.

Most of my kind don't actually have the guts to tell our guys na ayaw namin sila.
Some would say na they'd give chances but some also on the spot sasabihin wala ka na pag-asa.
And honestly the friend zone thingy is the best offer a girl could offer.
Ewan ko lang sa iba but I don't have to blurt out the entire information it's for you to research. That's why it's the common decision we make.

Share ko lang po dahil akoy broken hearted.
bago lang po kmi ng ex-gf ko pero un nagsisimula plng pero nasaktan agad.
hnd sa 3rd party or sa mga iba pang dahilan.
nagmamasteral kasi sya and madaming syang goals pra sakanya at sa family nya. naiintindihan ko naman sya pero bakit gnun b tlga mdali nya ko nagiveup dahil sa mga pangarap nya? ang skit sakit po skin.
mahal po nmin isat isa pero hnd ko n tlga sya mapigilan sa gusto nya. eto pumayag nlng akong walang mgawa.

thanks sir razielle
opo before po kasi nangyari nagusap kasi kami na okey naman kahit gnyan set up hnd nman ako mangiistorbo pero kinabuksan tuluyan nya nlng ako giniveup kya msakit tlga masyado lang siguro ako umasa. masyado n rin siguro ako mksarili d ko n sya naisip ng family nya pero ngayon malinaw na po sa isipan ko. tama po sya tama po kayo. before kmi tuluyan nag hiwalay she said na magset na rin ako ng goals ko pra sa family and for myself na rin po.

may tiwala din kasi ako skanya sir iamcrucial masaya din daw kasi sya kasi may bbalikan pa sya

Dreams.
On the path of reaching goals we need to sacrifice a lot of things. People too.
It would depend on gaano kabigat yun. The heavier the weight, the greater the sacrifice.
There are also chances when we have to choose between several things.
I also choose career better than relationship because at my age I should start to worry about my future family.
Not just enjoying my life with my special someone. I should also concentrate on how we're going to live our lives together.
And syempre I won't reach my goal if may nakikita akong balakid. So unless HE understands, then he can join my plans.
Try understanding her because of her tough decisions. It would be tough for you because ikaw ang nasacrifice but it will pass.
Just don't remove the communication in between, near or far you both can survive.