Dapat bang makipag friend pa sa EX?

[thugprince]

hello ka'symb, sa tingin nio po.
dpat pa bang maging friend/magkita ang mag ex?
ung gf ko po kasi may ex sya, na halos 3 years.
matagal na silang hiwalay. kami 8 months p lang.
mag kakabarkada kasi sila. tapus inaaya sya ng iba nyang ka'friend
na mag bonding/inuman at alam ko na kasama din dun ung ex nya.
sa tingin nio po ba dpat ko syang payagan?
thanks in advance.

 

[dbeth]

IMO: from a girls POV

"NO NO NO"

makipag friend is a big word..

friendshit is the start of everything that will shit your relationship..

bonding/inuman... uu pwede pero make sure you are there.. be included as "kabarkada" and not just a boyfriend..

be everything for her..

and also set bounderies..

example: me and my bf has this rule.. that we don't drink unless he is with me and same goes that he won't drink if i am not with him..

 

[soryweaku]

IMO: from a girls POV

"NO NO NO"

makipag friend is a big word..

friendshit is the start of everything that will shit your relationship..

bonding/inuman... uu pwede pero make sure you are there.. be included as "kabarkada" and not just a boyfriend..

be everything for her..

and also set bounderies..

example: me and my bf has this rule.. that we don't drink unless he is with me and same goes that he won't drink if i am not with him..

mukhang sang.ayon po ako sa pananaw niyo po

 

[NoOne32]

No!

simpleng tanong at sagot para sa akin yan. NO.

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IMO: from a girls POV

"NO NO NO"

makipag friend is a big word..

friendshit is the start of everything that will shit your relationship..

bonding/inuman... uu pwede pero make sure you are there.. be included as "kabarkada" and not just a boyfriend..

be everything for her..

and also set bounderies..

example: me and my bf has this rule.. that we don't drink unless he is with me and same goes that he won't drink if i am not with him..

Sangayon ako dito. Napaka Self explanatory na nito kung bakit.

 

[Riyae08]

Depende sa Purpose ng tinatawag mong "Friendship"

but for all the good and best reasons..

nope

 

[risjohn]

NO ! hindi pwede kong hindi ako kasama

 

[BlackToy]

Pwede naman makipag friends nalang pero kung nagkikita pa sila, abay ibang usapan na un?

 

[motoro]

No. Don't allow her and she should have no trouble understanding it.

 

[thugprince]

Thanks sa mga reply. Kung sakin lang po ayaw ko talaga. kasi almost 3 years sila kahit na matagal na silang nag break. hindi padin maiiwasan yung asaran lalo na sila sila mag kakabarkada. ang ayaw ko lang po kasing marinig is pag sinabi sakin ng gf ko na. hindi pa kami mag kakaibigan na sila at higit sa lahat pag dumating ung time na sabihan akong sobrang higpit. haysss..

 

[motoro]

Thanks sa mga reply. Kung sakin lang po ayaw ko talaga. kasi almost 3 years sila kahit na matagal na silang nag break. hindi padin maiiwasan yung asaran lalo na sila sila mag kakabarkada. ang ayaw ko lang po kasing marinig is pag sinabi sakin ng gf ko na. hindi pa kami mag kakaibigan na sila at higit sa lahat pag dumating ung time na sabihan akong sobrang higpit. haysss..

If your gf tells you that then that means she doesn't understand your feelings. Tingin ko naman if it were the other way around she wouldn't want you to go as well if she really loves you. Also, don't think too far away muna, if you really don't want her to go then be honest with her and see what her reaction would be.

 

[TheTruth07]

No No NO! No! No!

 

[third143]

Para sakin lang TS, yes pwede.

Depende na yun sa connection between her and her ex.
Pwedeng maging friend with your ex but:

-forgetting every special moments you two had (pag binalikan pa kasi ang past, either isa sa enyu ulit or kayong dalawa ma fall ulit sa isat-isa)
-setting limits, you can be friend but not in a way you can be together all the time, even if it is just oftentimes (just to be thoughtful sa partner mo, masakit sa part nila na makita kayong magkasama - kahit walang malice)
-for girls: avoid drinking with boys, kahit friends mo lang yan (maraming mangyayari pag lasing na), lalo na sa mga boys, aminin nyo man o hindi, malilibog ang mga lalaki lalot na nakainom. How much more if you are drinking with your buddies na kasama mo pa yung ex. Let's just think more safely, hindi yung saka na magisip if may nangyari na. It's not about TRUST anymore, it's all about keeping safe.



Sana if magkaka partner tayo, yung naka move-on na talaga tayo sa mga exs' natin, kasi mas nakakasakit lang tayo sa ibang tao kung maghihiwalay din sa huli dahil hindi pa naka move-on - ang masakit yung nagawa mong gawing panakipbutas yung tao - o yung ikaw ang ginawang panakip-butas.

>Sa isyu mo naman, don't mind her ex. Mas masasaktan ka lang at magkaka-insecure ka bro. Relax, Isipin mong BF ka nya at mahal ka nya. Paguu-usapan nyo lang yung mga limitations nyo - tiyak mas magkakaintindihan kayo sa isat-isa.

 

[thugprince]

salamat po sa mga suggestion nio mga ka'symb.

 

[-CHZ-]

hello ka'symb, sa tingin nio po.
dpat pa bang maging friend/magkita ang mag ex?
ung gf ko po kasi may ex sya, na halos 3 years.
matagal na silang hiwalay. kami 8 months p lang.
mag kakabarkada kasi sila. tapus inaaya sya ng iba nyang ka'friend
na mag bonding/inuman at alam ko na kasama din dun ung ex nya.
sa tingin nio po ba dpat ko syang payagan?
thanks in advance.

Para sakin, hindi na dapat. Kasi, para sakin, kapag EX na, EX na, EXit na yan sa buhay mo.
Pero kung may tiwala ka naman sa girlfriend mo, eh di payagan mo.
Kaso ang problema inuman yan eh. Mahirap mag-assume sa mga bagay-bagay, pero ganun talaga. Madaming possibilities.
Pero gaya ng sabi ng ibang nag-reply, pwede ka namang sumama. Tutal boyfriend ka naman niya. Karapatan mo naman yun.

 

[socialm]

hindi pwedeng makipag kaibigan sa inyong ex kasi andaming nagawang masakit sa inyong sarili. Mas mahirap pa lalokung meron pang still in love

 

[kengie03]

IMO: from a girls POV

"NO NO NO"

makipag friend is a big word..

friendshit is the start of everything that will shit your relationship..

bonding/inuman... uu pwede pero make sure you are there.. be included as "kabarkada" and not just a boyfriend..

be everything for her..

and also set bounderies..

example: me and my bf has this rule.. that we don't drink unless he is with me and same goes that he won't drink if i am not with him..

kung maybf/gf BIG NO!
pero kung wala go lang.

 

[Ekyrt]

Para sakin Ts Okey lang naman makipagfriend sa Ex kahit sino naman kasi minahal at kilala mo naman sya, pero dapat lagi nating tatandaan na meron tayong limitasyon, alam mo naman yung ibig kong sabihin, basta yun lang as long na mahal nyo ang isa't isa at may tiwala kayo walang dapat ikabahala