[Help] I have fallen out of love

[YellowT0othbrush]

Im not inlove with him anymore.

I have fallen out of love with my bf. We were together for 5years but starting lastyear kinakausap ko nalang siya pag may kailangan ako like magpapasama kasi may bibilhing mabigat, and the like. I also dont want his presence at our place kasi naiirita ako i dont know why. Kapag may occassion sa bahay, hindi ko siya iniimbitahan kasi nasisira ang mood ko. Hindi ko siya namimiss, hindi ko rin siya gustong makita at makausap. There are lots of time na tinuturn down ko yung mga yaya niyang gumala and instead i go out with my friends. When they ask me about him, i just answer this "malay ko, nakakabadtrip yun ayokong mabadtrip ngayon" And so my friends were used to that na hindi ko siya kasama.

To describe him : mabait, magalang, maunawain. May trabaho siya. But all his money went to his drinking buddies, and he ended up with no savings. Madalas kong natatanong sa sarili ko kung may future ba kaya ako sa kanya? Ayoko kasing dumating sa punto na we tied the knot saka kami mag-aaway kasi ganito ganyan. I always tell him noon pa na mag ipon siya pero wala pa rin. Kahit sarili niya d niya maayos. Tinatamad na rin siyang mag aral eh 1year nalang gagraduate na siya. Ang dami niyang gustong bilhin na napakawalang kwenta. Pagod na rin akong intindihin siya. Seems like d na siya nagmature. He's 28 I'm 27.

And with that, i decided to broke up with him. But i havent told him the reason behind. Do you think those things were reasonable enough para sabihin ko sa kanya? I dont want to hurt him but I dont want to go back to him either. What should i do?

 

[skillet21]

Im not inlove with him anymore.

I have fallen out of love with my bf. We were together for 5years but starting lastyear kinakausap ko nalang siya pag may kailangan ako like magpapasama kasi may bibilhing mabigat, and the like. I also dont want his presence at our place kasi naiirita ako i dont know why. Kapag may occassion sa bahay, hindi ko siya iniimbitahan kasi nasisira ang mood ko. Hindi ko siya namimiss, hindi ko rin siya gustong makita at makausap. There are lots of time na tinuturn down ko yung mga yaya niyang gumala and instead i go out with my friends. When they ask me about him, i just answer this "malay ko, nakakabadtrip yun ayokong mabadtrip ngayon" And so my friends were used to that na hindi ko siya kasama.

To describe him : mabait, magalang, maunawain. May trabaho siya. But all his money went to his drinking buddies, and he ended up with no savings. Madalas kong natatanong sa sarili ko kung may future ba kaya ako sa kanya? Ayoko kasing dumating sa punto na we tied the knot saka kami mag-aaway kasi ganito ganyan. I always tell him noon pa na mag ipon siya pero wala pa rin. Kahit sarili niya d niya maayos. Tinatamad na rin siyang mag aral eh 1year nalang gagraduate na siya. Ang dami niyang gustong bilhin na napakawalang kwenta. Pagod na rin akong intindihin siya. Seems like d na siya nagmature. He's 28 I'm 27.

And with that, i decided to broke up with him. But i havent told him the reason behind. Do you think those things were reasonable enough para sabihin ko sa kanya? I dont want to hurt him but I dont want to go back to him either. What should i do?

sabihin mo ung reason.. deserve nya pa rin ng explanation

 

[elyjun]

Ate ba or kuya...

anyway tell him that unahin nya muna sarili nya. kasi as per sa kwento mo napaka immature pa yung bf mo, drinking with his buddies tapos walang ipon.

don't marry a happy go lucky guy. mag sisis ka lang

 

[shanry]

baka may nakita ka ng pogi jan sa tabi tabi

 

[motoro]

Im not inlove with him anymore.

I have fallen out of love with my bf. We were together for 5years but starting lastyear kinakausap ko nalang siya pag may kailangan ako like magpapasama kasi may bibilhing mabigat, and the like. I also dont want his presence at our place kasi naiirita ako i dont know why. Kapag may occassion sa bahay, hindi ko siya iniimbitahan kasi nasisira ang mood ko. Hindi ko siya namimiss, hindi ko rin siya gustong makita at makausap. There are lots of time na tinuturn down ko yung mga yaya niyang gumala and instead i go out with my friends. When they ask me about him, i just answer this "malay ko, nakakabadtrip yun ayokong mabadtrip ngayon" And so my friends were used to that na hindi ko siya kasama.

To describe him : mabait, magalang, maunawain. May trabaho siya. But all his money went to his drinking buddies, and he ended up with no savings. Madalas kong natatanong sa sarili ko kung may future ba kaya ako sa kanya? Ayoko kasing dumating sa punto na we tied the knot saka kami mag-aaway kasi ganito ganyan. I always tell him noon pa na mag ipon siya pero wala pa rin. Kahit sarili niya d niya maayos. Tinatamad na rin siyang mag aral eh 1year nalang gagraduate na siya. Ang dami niyang gustong bilhin na napakawalang kwenta. Pagod na rin akong intindihin siya. Seems like d na siya nagmature. He's 28 I'm 27.

And with that, i decided to broke up with him. But i havent told him the reason behind. Do you think those things were reasonable enough para sabihin ko sa kanya? I dont want to hurt him but I dont want to go back to him either. What should i do?

If he ask why then by all means tell him. He DESERVES to know especially if you didn't call his attention to it before. It doesn't need to be done in person but do tell him. I'm sure if you're in his shoe you would want to know also.

 

[immabroke]

Tell him. Iwan mo man siya at least alam niya saan siya nagkamali, para sa next relationship niya he won't repeat the same mistakes. As for you, if di ka na masaya dapat lang iwanan mo na.

 

[JaydenNiccolai]

Nakakapagod at nakakasawa ang paulit ulit na pag intindi at pag unawa lalo na kung nakikita mong wala namang pagbabago.. Kung magbago man, tipong isang araw lang tapos balik ulit sa dati. Pero kahit ganun, he deserve to know kung bakit nawalan kana ng gana sa kanya. Mahirap yung araw araw mo nalng iisipin kung anong dahilan kung bakit mo sya hiniwalayan. In that way madali nyang matatanggap at makakapag move on na din kayo pareho

 

[thenth]

yung mga ganyang age kase.. dapat may ipon na diba?parang hindi nya pinahahalagahan ang future nyo.
hindi maganda na yung kinikita ay napupunta lang sa bisyo hahaha.
aside from that, tama lang na makipaghiwalay ka sa kanya kung hindi kana masaya.

sabihin mo nalang yung reason para malaman nya at hindi na maulit pa sa susunod na makakarelasyon nya (sana matatauhan)

 

[Veslyre]

Im not inlove with him anymore.

I have fallen out of love with my bf. We were together for 5years but starting lastyear kinakausap ko nalang siya pag may kailangan ako like magpapasama kasi may bibilhing mabigat, and the like. I also dont want his presence at our place kasi naiirita ako i dont know why. Kapag may occassion sa bahay, hindi ko siya iniimbitahan kasi nasisira ang mood ko. Hindi ko siya namimiss, hindi ko rin siya gustong makita at makausap. There are lots of time na tinuturn down ko yung mga yaya niyang gumala and instead i go out with my friends. When they ask me about him, i just answer this "malay ko, nakakabadtrip yun ayokong mabadtrip ngayon" And so my friends were used to that na hindi ko siya kasama.

To describe him : mabait, magalang, maunawain. May trabaho siya. But all his money went to his drinking buddies, and he ended up with no savings. Madalas kong natatanong sa sarili ko kung may future ba kaya ako sa kanya? Ayoko kasing dumating sa punto na we tied the knot saka kami mag-aaway kasi ganito ganyan. I always tell him noon pa na mag ipon siya pero wala pa rin. Kahit sarili niya d niya maayos. Tinatamad na rin siyang mag aral eh 1year nalang gagraduate na siya. Ang dami niyang gustong bilhin na napakawalang kwenta. Pagod na rin akong intindihin siya. Seems like d na siya nagmature. He's 28 I'm 27.

And with that, i decided to broke up with him. But i havent told him the reason behind. Do you think those things were reasonable enough para sabihin ko sa kanya? I dont want to hurt him but I dont want to go back to him either. What should i do?

That's so sad miss... You should have told him so that he would have a chance to change his ways, or at least argue...
Arguments nurture a relationship because each time you resolve the problem you grow together...
I mean sure you get tired but at least you could have told him that you're getting tired as well...
But since you already broke up with him, it seems unlikely that you would want to tell him the reason,
unless you find it in your heart to open up to him his problems in the previous relationship.

 

[cliffromz23]

pm me ur number usap tau.. hehehe

 

[emzie03]

Waaaaaa...
Sa tingin ko tama naman desisyon mo. Mahirap magsisi sa huli. Wag kang manghinayang sa tagal ng relasyon niyo. Kung di ka na masaya edi go! Kaso may mali ka din e. Sana in-open up mo sa kanya yung bagay na yun para malaman din niya san siya nag kulang.

 

[shakra54]

kausapin mo, explain mo sa kanya kung bakit nakipag break,

 

[Chichun]

Be honest sa sarili. Kapag hindi ka in love, e di hinde. Kapag hindi siya nagtanong, huwag mo sabihin. E mukha naman wala ka react-react ang boyfriend mo na hiniwalayan mo. But kung hinabol ka at nagtanong, sabihin mo na lang o ikaw, kung feel mo magpaliwanag kahit hindi siya nagtatanong, e di go. Feel ko kase ay wala siya pakialam dahil hindi man lang nag reak.

Feel ko lang but not sure dahil sa kwento mo na nagpabaya at para hindi niya kaya ayusin ang buhay niya. Hindi natin alam ang rason. Pwede ikaw magtanong kung bakit ganyan siya pero kung hindi ka martyr, sige, stop muna kung out of love ka na talaga.

Meron iba na hindi deserve ang explanation dahil meron iba boyfriend na wala pakialam, maghiwalay kayo o hinde. Malay mo nag-aantay lang siya na hiwalayin mo. Ayoko mag assume. Baka lang.

Malalaman mo naman na mahal ka pa rin niya kapag hindi pumayag makipag break sayo o kung hinabol ka niya talaga dahil ayaw niya pumayag na maghiwalay kayo, sige, ipaliwanag mo na lang sa kanya pero para naman hindi nagrereak ang lalake hiniwalayan mo, okay lang. Kung hindi ka guilty, be happy with your friends na lang kahit walang explanation.

 

[run4urlyf04]

Everyone deserves an explanation ts