Need advise and answer po sa girlfriend na meron 3rd party.

[xeon017]

Base sa nabasa kong convo red flag na yan.

Nagtatanong siya what if mainlove siya sa iba iiwan mo ba daw siya? That alone dapat may alarm bells na sayo. The question meant she is thinking about it and could be considering it. Di naman yan random na basta na lang naisip niya yan habang naguusap kayo. Iniisip na niya yan long before kayo magusap. It could be she's testing the waters checking for your reaction. (Magagalit ka ba? Magwawala?)

I find her story disturbing and I'm already doubting her story.

She was rape but never asked for help? If ayaw niya talaga di mangyayari yan double deck yun at kung nagpupumiglas siya dapat nagising na ang kasama niya unless nakasleeping pills yung roomie niya at di na nagising?! Impossible yan brad.

And kung di naman BS yan kasama niya pa sa panibagong barko? Alam ko kasi ang rape victims di na maatim makasama kahit sa iisang lugar ang rapist nila. Moreso magkasama sila ng ilang buwan sa barko kung saan di siya makakatakas if that happens again.

Tinatakot siya? Bakit may mataas ba na katungkulan ang lalaki para matakot siya at di na magsumbong?

Ayaw ng eskandalo so hinayaan niya na lang babuyin siya ng lalakinh di naman niya gusto?

To answer your questions:

1) you will never i repeat NEVER have peace of mind while that rapist is there with her and can freely do whatever he pleases with your gf for 9 months. Think about it he got away the first time you think he will stop? Of course hindi that guy may also assume since hindi naman siya nagsumbong na okay lang uli may mangyari at pwersahin niya kasi di naman siya nilayuan nung babae.

2) assuming that she did like the guy? it's hard to tell. all i know is you cannot gauge her loyalty kahit iassure ka niya paulit ulit minu minuto oras oras hindi mo malalaman. you aren't there with her. you can never tell. she can tell you one thing but for all you know she is doing another.

3) magpakabulag ka na lang but i doubt you can. You know that trust once broken it will never be the same way, you may trust her again but not completely. alam mo paulit ulit lang yan gugulo sa utak mo hanggang sa it will consume you then isusumbat mo then you'll fight and the cycle continues. i know this for a fact because i have experienced it. Unless ikadena mo siya sa tabi mo 24/7 at monitored lahat ng galaw niya then baka maibalik pero if you're far apart and with her is the guy who "molested" her nako wala yan the relationship is bound to fail sooner or later.

I don't mean to sound nega pero real talk tayo dito. Buti kung may selective amnesia ka then BAKA bumalik kayo sa dati pero i will not get your hopes up mahihiwalay din kayo given the circumstances.

Kung ako sayo TS iwanan mo n yang gf mo. Sakit sa ulo lang yan na gugulo sayo sa araw araw.
Halata naman na niloloko ka lang ng gf mo, mahal ka lang pag wala xa sa barko hehe.
Sa mga sinasabi nya pa obvious na gagawin nya ulit ung mga ginwa nyang mali.
Instead na i assure k nya na nagbago na xa at ikw lang mahal nya. Ano sinabi nya? Nagtanong pa xa pano kung mainlove xa hahaha.
Dun pa lang halata na lolokohin ka lang ulit.
Kaya iwan mo na yan TS. Nakikita ko naman na kaya mo mag moveon, at sinisugardo ko sayo na mas magiging masaya ka ng wala xa.


Always remember this: "Why settle for less, if you can have better."

Para sa gf mo ( ° ͜ʖ͡°)╭∩╮ hahaha

Nako gulo gulo ng kwento yung babae una rape daw ayaw maeskandalo kaya di nagsumbong tapos ngayon naman ang dahilan ay dahil kaparehas daw ng ugali ni TS yung nakilala niyang lalaki kaya pumayag.

Delikads yan TS baka pag may nakitang kamukha mo matukso uli tapos rape pero napapamahal na siya. O kaya may maamoy na kaparehas mo ng pabango mapamahal na siya. O kaya naman kaparehas mo ng paboritong pagkain matukso uli.

Galing din nung babae kasi napapaikot ka niya ng ganyan.

Pag binigyan mo yan ng chance bibigyan mo din ang sarili mo ng pagkakataong lokohin ka niya uli.

Pakwento mo uli nangyari pustahan may dagdag bawas yung kwento nya.

imma puso mo.. haha


lahat tayo deserve a second chances.. oo! tama! sige seryoso mode ako ngayon..

binasa ko mabuti post mo TS at tinatanong mo if deserving pa siyang bigyan ng second chance?

ikaw sa tingin mo dapat mo ba bigyan?


sa tingin mo ba naibigay niya sayo ung trust/o pagtitiwalang nawala noong ginagag* ka niya?


tignan mo mabuti to TS.. kung talagang deserving yan sa 2nd chance mo..

gagawa yan ng way or effort para makabawi sayo ng lubusan hindi 100% kundi 300% or higit pa!..

apaka daling magresign ah.. nanghihinayang siya sa kikitain niya? edi ibig sabihin lang niyan hindi ka talaga niya mahal..
doon pala magisip ka na..

kung yan ah desididong talagang magbago at ikaw lang talaga para sa kanya..

aalis na yan sa barko lalo't makakasama pa niya ung sinabi niyang ng rape sa kanya..


oo mahal mo siya pero kaya mo ba lunukin lahat? magpakalalaki ka bro! tumayo ka sa dalawa mong paa at ipakita mo na kayo mong mabuhay ng wala siya..

ganyan talaga ts pag mahal mo pero ts . di dahilan yan para magpaka-tanga ka and base sa sarili kong experience pre IMPOSSIBLE YANG sinasabi nyang ayaw nya ng eskandalo atsaka nandun lang roommate nya and 1 more thing SABI NYA MAINGAY SA PINTO SOOOOOOO IT MEANS ANO YANG KASAMA NG GF MO SA ROOM SI SNORLAKS GIGISING LANG PAG KAKAIN . may nararamdaman ako sa gf mo na may sidestepang nagaganap and di manlang siya nailang dun makakasma nanaman nya yung guy and isa pa reconsider mo to ts a kung ayaw nya ng eskandalo so it means kada kinakatok siya nung guy pumapayag pa and di ko matanggal sa isip ko yung double deck na higaan kung dun nangyari yun impossbleng di magising yung roommate nya ts . NINJA MODE YUN PAG GANUN TS ang bangis naman nun :3 .
. may mga bagay tayong kahit na masakit kailangan tanggapin kesa harap harapan kang iniiputan brad . atsaka mahirap yan brad di mo alam kung anong status nung guy na yun mahirap mahawaan ng sakit ) . isipin mo DOUBLE DECK PINTO ROOMMATE dun palang ts huli na gf mo . ayaw kalang din siguro pakawalan nung girl ts . and about sa trust once maranasan natin maloko doubt will never go out of our mind lalo na magkasama pa sila ulit sa barko .
atsaka test mo gf mo no communication before umalis or try mo request sa kanya pa iba siya ng barko ts . pag ayaw ikaw na bahala .

anu po dapat ko gawin pra mabalik buong tiwala ko s gf ko?

"Ang Second Chance ay ibinibigay sa Tamang Tao "
ikaw lang ang makakasagot ng tanong mo pre..
kung mahal mo talaga ang Gf Mo .pag aralan mong magtiwala sa kanya ng walang pag aalinlangan
pero hindi mo magagawa yan habang nasa barko pa sila nung sinasabe nyang Nang RAPE Daw Sa Kanya at magkasama
pero kung ayaw mo ng mag isip at mamroblema .nasasau ang desisyon. kung makikipag hiwalay ka o dun ka na din mag trabaho
sa pinag tratrabahuhan nya

Pero ang mas mahalaga sa lahat mag usap kau sa personal .
itanung mo lahat ng gusto mong malaman para di ka blangko . sugurado ako kaya ka nahihirapan dahil me mga tanong kang gusto mong
sha mismo ang sumagot.
alamin mo lahat ng Detalye , Analyze mo lahat ng lahat ng sasabihin nya sau.. Tapos un. tsaka ka magdesisyon kung anung gagawin mo'

kuhanin mo din pre ang Info nung rapist Daw
Resbakan mo

Mahal mo, pero mahalin mo din sarili mo TS.

kung mahal mo talaga sa kabila ng lahat. Then gumawa ka nag paraan para maging kayo na for good at iassure na ndi na mauulit ang nangyare.

Alam mo na, mag settle na kayo mag pakasal at mag tayo na ng pamilya at mag trabaho ng d nyo na kelangan lumayo sa isat isa.

pero kung kaya mo TS, may pagasa kapa to DROP THAT GIRL LIKE A HOT POTATO, MOVE ON AND HAVE A GOOD ONE.

Pero kahit anong sabihin ng iba nasayo yan at desisyon mo ang mananaig.

Dahil sarili mo yan, Ikaw yan at ikaw ang mas nakakaalam ng sarili mo. )

Maramig salamat po s mga comments nyo. Aminin ko iba cya s lahat ng minahal ko, cya ung tipong lagi ngpapasaya s akin at minahal ko ng lubos at tuwing mgkasama kmi feeling ko wla n ako hahanapin pa kaya nga cguro NGPAKATANGA PARIN AKO HANGGANG NGAUN.
Yun dn nga po malaki kong problema if maulit pa. Pero lagi nya cnasav d n daw mauulit un.. D ko lng po alam kung totoo nga. Feb.3 dating nya at feb.15 alis ko that tym puro txt at tawag lng nnmn kmi. Cya nmn uwi s knla s probinsya.

Una kmi ngkakilala oo my mga hnahangaan dn cya na mga lalake pero natural lng nmn un. At hndi rn cya ung tipo na mhilig mkpgharutan s lalake(ewan ko lng pg nakatalikod ako) pero s pgkakakilala ko s knya medyo maldita at palakaibigan nmn cya s lahat kya cguro natipuhan cya ng guy n un..

Meron nlng kmi 1 wik mgksma sa 1 wik na un s last day namin dun ko plano iopen ung nangyari na to. Dun dn ako mgddcsyon kung pgpapatuloy ko p ktangahan ko.
Gusto ko man resbakan ung lalake kaso ayaw nya mgbanggit kung anu name nung guy n un at s tingin ko d tlga nya savhn.

"A cheater will always be a cheater"
"Kapag nagawa na once, may chance pa na maulit"
Mapa babae man o lalake uulit ulitin bsta hinanap.

Pareparehas po tau ng iniicp, in the end breakup dn mangyayari kaya nga po ayaw nya iopen ko to kc ayaw nya mkpgbreak s akin pero wla po cya mggwa un po npgkasunduan namin alam po nya un.. Yes i admit now lng ako ngkaroon ng gantong memories with a girl kaya mahirap po kalimutan ung mga un..

S pg dating nya puro masasayang memories muna ibabaon ko s knya pra marealize nya kung ganu ako ngsuffer s gnwa nya sakin ung po naiicp ko now pero parang ang sama ko nmn kung mghihiganti ako. Meron dn ako nbasa,
"Wag na wag kang gaganti sa partner mo kung nagloko siya o kahit sa ibang tao pa man. Mahiya ka naman sa sarili mo. Ireverse psychology mo siya, lalo mo siyang mahalin kung alam mong niloloko ka niya, hindi yung lalo mo siyang aawayin at sisihin, kasi lalayo yan sayo. Mas ipakita mong mahal mo siya pag nalaman mong niloloko ka niya, para maramdaman niya din ang halaga mo at ang mga kamaliang pinasok niya."- Writer's note

We'll cherish all the moment muna hbng mgksma kmi at bago ako sumampa ng barko s feb.15 mgddcsyon n ako kung mgppktanga at pagbbgyan ko cya pero kelangan mgpalipat cya barko kundi tapos n tlga kmi gusto man nya o hndi. Naicp ko dn nga panu kung pkslan ko n kya cya bka sakali d n nya kelangan mghanap ng iba, kaso gnun dn pwede prn cya mngaliwa kc wla prn ako s tabi nya. Bsta p nmn mga babae nabobola, msyado madali mbola lalo n s mabubulaklak n lalakeng gusto lng tlga e hiyas!
Bestfren nga nya babae ksma nya s barko ngrequest s iba barko pra mgksma cla ng bf nya. Cya p kya na promoted pa.. Reason nnmn nya bago plng daw cya s company kya d p kuno pwede mgprequest.

Balitaan ko nlng kau guys kung anu npgdcsyunan ko. Sna d ako mgcc s bndng huli..

5 Possible Reasons Why Girls in a Relationship Cheats


Maraming salamat guys sa lahat ng ngcocomment nyo!

 

[motoro]

TS, in my opinion, madali lang naman yung problema mo. It's so easy to decide at ang mahirap lang naman jan ay dahil mahal mo pa yung tao at hindi mo matanggap mga ginawa niya. Pero hindi naman porket mahal na mahal mo ay dapat idisregard mo yung nangyari at magpaka tanga. Kadalasan kasing gamitin yung pagmamahal in trying to fix the problem that is not worthy of any fixing anymore because it might prolong the agony like in your case, nagbabarko pa rin siya.

I have a close female friend before whose husband works in an international cruise ship. Actually they met each other in the cruise ship because the female friend is also a seafarer. Ayun, nagloko si lalaki at may batang chicks. I was the one helping the girl by having a fake FB account for her to spy and for installing key logger on his laptop. She wants to leave the hubby but couldn't easily do so because they have 2 kids. So what she did was to treat her husband like a stranger because she no longer have peace of mind each time he boards a ship. She wants to leave but couldn't easily do so but you can because you're not married to her yet. Do you want to spend the rest of your life without peace? Frankly, trust issue has already been compromised and it's hard to earn it back most of the time. Think about it.

The answers are ALL there in your post already. You clearly know what to do but you shouldn't use your love as an excuse to fix the problem. Because, for one, the problem is not with you. It never was. She should be the one chasing after you and earning your trust.

Let me hammer your senses some more with the materials in your post.

Do you honestly, believe that she didn't like what happened? Because, a decent girl will scream her lungs out if she's being abused already lalo na her roommate is just overhead. Also, kahit gaano pa siya kapagod in her work her adrenaline will kicked in kapag she's in trouble don't you think? Sa post mo parang tinabihan pa niya para matahimik diba? Kung pilit na tinutulak yung door don't you think her roommate should have been awaken by the noise? If she's being forced to have sex don't you think it should have awaken the roommate?

Secondly, inamin niya na napamahal na si guy sa kanya. So with that statement alone, sky is the limit. For all you know, they might have been screwing each other more than once a day and her conscience got the better of her so she decided to come clean by fabricating a story. Come on I think you already know the story. You've worked in a ship before. You should know better. I don't work in a ship but I have a clear idea what goes on in there. I'm not saying all seafarers fuck each other aboard the ship but it does happen and not only sometimes and not only with fellow Filipinos but other nationalities as well like Indonesian.

Impossibleng, maiiwasan niya yung guy dahil mababansagan lang siyang snob and immature. Because wala naman masama makipag conversation dun sa workmate mo or anyone for that matter. The only time you will ignore a person ay kapag nafeel mong nililigawan ka na. At kung totoong iniiwasan niya, impossibleng mapapamahal si guy sa kanya because the only time you will develop a feeling for a person is through constant company and conversation.

Wag ka magpapadala sa drama niya. A lot of girls do that when they screwed up in a relationship for whatever reason there is. It's a sort of defense mechanism for them para you will feel guilty or you won't be become so freakin' mad at them. Alam mo bakit ko sinabing drama? Because what supposedly happened to her was very avoidable. Simple as that. IF SHE WAS FORCED UPON A.K.A. RAPE SHE WOULD'VE BEEN TRAUMATIZED BY NOW THAT HER SUPERIORS MIGHT LET HER OFF THE SHIP AT THE NEXT PORT. A girl who was truly rape really suffers tremendous trauma and will do everything during that period to fight back kung talaga nainis siya sa kakulitan ng guy and at the same time help is just nearby. She could have prevented the abuse because the guy wasn't using any weapon except his manhood. She wasn't really traumatized otherwise she would or her company would have done something about it. Come on man, you'd know if it happened or not. Also, paano niya naiwasan walang mabuo diba? Ibig sabihin may communication sila about it. Baka kamo ayaw niya magkaroon ng iskandalo dahil people are already suspecting their closeness diba? Malay mo nachichismis na sila kahit na patago sila nagcocomunicate. Malay mo pinapalabas niya sa coworkers iniiwasan niya si guy kasi may bf siya pero the truth is they see each other secretly diba? I believe they have been screwing each other already but her conscience bothered her so badly that she has no other recourse but to come clean.

For me, hindi na dapat pinoproblema yung situation mo to be honest kahit pa mahal mo siya. I was surprised that you're still asking people here on what to do. I was expecting you're just trying to vent out what happened to you. Wake Up! The universe is trying to let you see what kind of person she is. You need to accept na hindi siya yung tipong girl that you know or have thought of. There's just no reason for her action because cheating happens by choice and not by chance. Itaga mo yan sa bato - always by choice! Kahit pa nahohomesick siya ay hindi pa rin reason yun, because she could have simply spent more time texting you or umuwi nalang OR she should have just let you go first kesa yung ginawa niya. Actually, you can go to their office and file a complain if you want to test her story but for what? If you that and found out the truth then ganon rin naman e, it will just be more hurtful. So please wake up already. Be thankful that you found out that the girl you thought was a keeper was actually not and you're still free to walk away. Good luck.

 

[xeon017]

TS, in my opinion, madali lang naman yung problema mo. It's so easy to decide at ang mahirap lang naman jan ay dahil mahal mo pa yung tao at hindi mo matanggap mga ginawa niya. Pero hindi naman porket mahal na mahal mo ay dapat idisregard mo yung nangyari at magpaka tanga. Kadalasan kasing gamitin yung pagmamahal in trying to fix the problem that is not worthy of any fixing anymore because it might prolong the agony like in your case, nagbabarko pa rin siya.

I have a close female friend before whose husband works in an international cruise ship. Actually they met each other in the cruise ship because the female friend is also a seafarer. Ayun, nagloko si lalaki at may batang chicks. I was the one helping the girl by having a fake FB account for her to spy and for installing key logger on his laptop. She wants to leave the hubby but couldn't easily do so because they have 2 kids. So what she did was to treat her husband like a stranger because she no longer have peace of mind each time he boards a ship. She wants to leave but couldn't easily do so but you can because you're not married to her yet. Do you want to spend the rest of your life without peace? Frankly, trust issue has already been compromised and it's hard to earn it back most of the time. Think about it.

The answers are ALL there in your post already. You clearly know what to do but you shouldn't use your love as an excuse to fix the problem. Because, for one, the problem is not with you. It never was. She should be the one chasing after you and earning your trust.

Let me hammer your senses some more with the materials in your post.

Do you honestly, believe that she didn't like what happened? Because, a decent girl will scream her lungs out if she's being abused already lalo na her roommate is just overhead. Also, kahit gaano pa siya kapagod in her work her adrenaline will kicked in kapag she's in trouble don't you think? Sa post mo parang tinabihan pa niya para matahimik diba? Kung pilit na tinutulak yung door don't you think her roommate should have been awaken by the noise? If she's being forced to have sex don't you think it should have awaken the roommate?

Secondly, inamin niya na napamahal na si guy sa kanya. So with that statement alone, sky is the limit. For all you know, they might have been screwing each other more than once a day and her conscience got the better of her so she decided to come clean by fabricating a story. Come on I think you already know the story. You've worked in a ship before. You should know better. I don't work in a ship but I have a clear idea what goes on in there. I'm not saying all seafarers fuck each other aboard the ship but it does happen and not only sometimes and not only with fellow Filipinos but other nationalities as well like Indonesian.

Impossibleng, maiiwasan niya yung guy dahil mababansagan lang siyang snob and immature. Because wala naman masama makipag conversation dun sa workmate mo or anyone for that matter. The only time you will ignore a person ay kapag nafeel mong nililigawan ka na. At kung totoong iniiwasan niya, impossibleng mapapamahal si guy sa kanya because the only time you will develop a feeling for a person is through constant company and conversation.

Wag ka magpapadala sa drama niya. A lot of girls do that when they screwed up in a relationship for whatever reason there is. It's a sort of defense mechanism for them para you will feel guilty or you won't be become so freakin' mad at them. Alam mo bakit ko sinabing drama? Because what supposedly happened to her was very avoidable. Simple as that. IF SHE WAS FORCED UPON A.K.A. RAPE SHE WOULD'VE BEEN TRAUMATIZED BY NOW THAT HER SUPERIORS MIGHT LET HER OFF THE SHIP AT THE NEXT PORT. A girl who was truly rape really suffers tremendous trauma and will do everything during that period to fight back kung talaga nainis siya sa kakulitan ng guy and at the same time help is just nearby. She could have prevented the abuse because the guy wasn't using any weapon except his manhood. She wasn't really traumatized otherwise she would or her company would have done something about it. Come on man, you'd know if it happened or not. Also, paano niya naiwasan walang mabuo diba? Ibig sabihin may communication sila about it. Baka kamo ayaw niya magkaroon ng iskandalo dahil people are already suspecting their closeness diba? Malay mo nachichismis na sila kahit na patago sila nagcocomunicate. Malay mo pinapalabas niya sa coworkers iniiwasan niya si guy kasi may bf siya pero the truth is they see each other secretly diba? I believe they have been screwing each other already but her conscience bothered her so badly that she has no other recourse but to come clean.

For me, hindi na dapat pinoproblema yung situation mo to be honest kahit pa mahal mo siya. I was surprised that you're still asking people here on what to do. I was expecting you're just trying to vent out what happened to you. Wake Up! The universe is trying to let you see what kind of person she is. You need to accept na hindi siya yung tipong girl that you know or have thought of. There's just no reason for her action because cheating happens by choice and not by chance. Itaga mo yan sa bato - always by choice! Kahit pa nahohomesick siya ay hindi pa rin reason yun, because she could have simply spent more time texting you or umuwi nalang OR she should have just let you go first kesa yung ginawa niya. Actually, you can go to their office and file a complain if you want to test her story but for what? If you that and found out the truth then ganon rin naman e, it will just be more hurtful. So please wake up already. Be thankful that you found out that the girl you thought was a keeper was actually not and you're still free to walk away. Good luck.

Sir thanks po s comment and advise iopen ko po s knya ulit gnwa nya if gnun prn kwento nya. Kung my labis man o my bgla cya binago means nghuhugas kamay cya at tama lht ng naiicp ntn.


Sir almost 6 months ko n kinikimkim problema ko nato. Gusto ko kc ishare pra kht papanu my nsavhan ako ng nrrmdaman ko. Sobrng hirap kc kpg cnira ung buong tiwala at itapon ung mga memories na sobrng tagal n iningatan sa tao lang na saglit lng nakilala sa pambobola lng... Alam nmn ntn tau mga lalake pg gusto tlgng sobrng bulaklak ng bibig ntn. Kya nsav dn ng gf ko sa rason nya kya nya sinagot ung guy"sav nya mahal daw nya ako" kya kht natapos na ung rape kuno nya e hinahabol prn cya ng guy. Sav ko nga e sa sobrng galit ko, "dapat ngpabuntis ka nlng s knya ng d n ako nahirapan!"

This tuesday(feb3) gav n cya dating kya checkin kmi s hotel nyan. Un gusto nya. D ko lam kung anu mangyari kya ccguaduhin ko kung sakali d ko mpglan at my mangyari man gagamit ako cndm. Mhrap n bka ngaun e mgksma cla at my tinanim n ung guy s knya at bka ako p mpgkamalan ama nun.
ETO PA GUYS ANG KASAMA NG GUY SA KWARTO NYA NA LALAKE KATROPA NG GF KO AT MINSAN KSMA DN S GRUPO NLA LUMABAS NG BARKO, DB KUNG IKAW LALAKE AT KSMA M S KWARTO E LALAKE DN CGURADO ISSHARE M NANGYARI N UN S KSMA M S KWARTO DB, PERO ANU GNWA NG GF KO- WALA! OK LNG S KNYA KSMA NLA LUMABAS UNG KAROOMATE NG GUY NA UN. Sav ko nga s knya d ka b naiilang cgurado alam nya na natikman ka n ng kroomate nya kht alam ng buong barko na my bf ka s lupa. Awkward nmn ng gnun at sobrng npka suspicious na hndi cya nailang..

AND PARANG AYAW NYA AKO PUMUNTA S OPIS NLA NGAUNG PGUWI NYA PARA MGREPORT, GUSTO NYA MGREPORT S OPIS NLA BY APRIL PA BAGO CYA UMALIS ULIT. BKA CGURO AYAW NYA AKO MAKITA NG MGA KSMA NYA KC BKA ICPN NLA AKO PLA UNG BF NYA D2 S LUPA NA NILOLOKO NYA HBNG MY IBA SA BARKO. HAHA. Just concluding lng po.
AND ISA P PO, NUNG TAPOS CYA RAPE KUNO KINAUSAP CYA NG BESTFRIEND NYA NA GIRL ANG SAV, MERON DAW CHISMIS N LAGI DAW CYA NAGPUPUNTA S KWARTO NUNG GUY. D NMN DAW UN TOTOO. Cguro cnav nya un sakin prng reverse psychology lng cguro na kya nya un cnav pra kunwari malinis tlga cya na d tlga totoo un pero ewan lng malay ntn db..



Alam nyo guys ayaw p nga nya pasav kht kanino to cguro s sobrng hiya nya s gnwa nya. Sobra sobra katangahan daw gnwa nya kya ngmakaawa tlga cya todo sakin nung inamin nya sakin to. Sobrng laki daw ng pagsisisi nya at ngwa nya to. D ko sure kung drama o sincere na cya. Cguro d lng ngworkout plano nya s guy at s akin kya bumalik cya sakin. Ung guy kc parehas cla department at company and my chance na my future n cya dun, s akin iba n nga department iba p company at marami p ako pagaaralin kapatid. So cguro gnun naicp nya if iwan nya ako pero iba nangyari cguro. He dumped her cguro tapos gusto lng makaulit mgparaos kya hinahabol p ulit gf ko. Ewan lng.. Malay ntn.. Or bka ms worst p nga dun as you said bka my secret relationship ung dalawa n un.

THIS TIME KELANGAN MAMILI CYA KUNG SASAVHN NYA UNG NAME NG GUY AT MGREQUEST IBANG BARKO O AKO! Bago kmi mghiwalay ulit itanong ko n yan s knya. And kung mgrequest cya iba barko she needs to follow what i need to regain my trust, like changing her fb or deactive her fb account. Its her time to prove her sincerity na ngbago cya aftr ng mga nagyari n un. Oo aminin ko umaasa prn ako n mgbago cya IF SHE WILL AGREE WITH MY CONDITIONS. If no ed ok breakup.. Ayaw nya mgkahiwalay cla e..


Thanks po sa mtyagang pgsagot..

 

[motoro]

TS, I honestly don't know what to say anymore after reading your reply. I understand what your going through so baka magulo pa isipan mo. At the end of the day, we can only offer you our opinion and the final decision is still with you. Do not let your emotions get the better of you because hindi excuse yung mahabang memory na pinundar ninyo because clearly she didn't value it, only you did otherwise hindi siya nagloko. So whether 1 year or 10 years na kayong in a relationship it doesn't matter anymore once one of you screwed it up lalo na kapag 3rd party ang involved. Lahat ng problema sa relationship ay nakukuha sa mabuting usapan except 3rd party dahil it is a choice and it is disrespectful - tipong titikim ka ng iba tapos babalik ka pa sa dati mo.

IMHO, pinapaikot ka na ng gf mo. I believe she liked the guy in a way kaya lang naconsensya siya along the way kaya she needed to come clean by creating a story and paawa effect. Tumatalab sayo yung ginagawa niya dahil you are still trying to convince yourself that there is still some truth in her story. Whether may truth o wala ay nakipag sex na siya sa iba na pwede naman niyang iwasan. Ang masakit dito, nagloko na nga siya tapos pinapaikot ka pa. Tell me, do you think you can find out the whole truth from her? Seriously? KUmbaga sa krimen, would you trust the words of the suspect? What if naging consistent siya sa sagot niya dahil madali lang naman gumawa ng storya diba.

Seriously, if you're honestly after the truth then wag ka pumayag sa gusto niya. IF you're honestly after the truth to make you decide and see clearly then ireport mo sa office nila at tingnan mo kung paano niya idedefend sarili niya. That way mabubuking mo agad kung nagsasabi siya ng totoo o hindi. Because if you still want to know the truth and you want it to come from her then wag mo nang alamin kundi magbalikan na kayo as if nothing ever happened. Simple as that.

Based na nga sa salita niya, napamahal na si guy sa kanya, tinabihan niya para walang gulo, hindi siya sumigaw kasi ayaw ng iskandalo kung saan ang bilis sanang nahuli si guy, ayaw niyang pumunta ka sa office at mag report, may chismis na lumalabas about them. So what else do you need? Seriously? For all you know, baka nga may asawa't anak yung guy kaya natauhan yung gf mo e. Alam mo, walang chismis na lumalabas nalang bigla kung hindi sila LAGING nakikitang magkasama. if she NEVER EVER talked to that guy ay walang chismis na madalas siya sa kwarto ni guy. Simple as that dude. Sa palagay ko alam mo naman ang sinasabi ko. Hindi gagawa ng chismis ang mga tao kapag hindi sila magkasama lagi. Ayaw niya mag iskandalo during the supposed "rape" kasi it will just confirmed the chismis at makakarating sayo. Tsaka kung mahal ka ni girl at may respect sayo at sa SARILI niya then she WOULD HAVE cried for help para hindi ma-rape. Hindi na nga niya pinigilan hindi pa siya humingi ng saklolo at ayaw pa niyang magreklamo. Siguro, why the hell would you cry for help kung hindi naman talaga rape nangyari diba? Seriously, gusto mo ba yung ganon girl na wala nang self respect sa sarili? Ni-rerape na ay hindi pa lumaban at ni-rape na pero ayaw magreklamo. Hmmm...I wonder what is she trying to hide?

Sa palagay ko, gusto mong malaman ang totoo para hindi ka maguilty sa decision mo. Gusto mong magkaroon ng confirmation kasi you're not confident enough and you're still hoping that it's not true. I'm sure pagnagkita kayo niyan ay todo lambing yan and what not. Dude, have some self respect, the answers are already staring right at your face. You just need to be strong enough to make that decision. Don't let fuck with your brain and senses. Lastly, and again, if you really want to know the truth wag ka naman sa kanya magtanong insteasd magfile ka na ng reklamo total rape daw diba? At least you have a strong case. Ang pagkakamali niya ay ginamit niya yung word na rape and you can open some doors if you file a complaint. Kasi KUNG NABALITAAN MO LANG na may 3rd party, then believe, walang magsasalita dahil mga tao sa barko ay usually nagkakaisa. They screw each other (some of them) and the look after each other's butt.

I don't like to dwell a lot in your problem kaya lang ayaw ko lang may inaapi o ginagago. I just hate girls who want to have their cake and eat it too. If I were you, I would just use her and lose her. Even if she choose a different ship malaki pa rin chance nilang magkasama muli at kung hindi man ay may mga iba pang liligaw jan sa gf mo. And in my book, a cheater will always be a cheater lalo na kung yung liligaw sa kanya ay makwarta o mataas na ang position. Siguraduhin mo lang that once you accepted her back regardless of her fuck ups in life ay hindi mo pagsisisihan at hindi ka mapapraning tuwing nasa barko siya otherwise you're just hitting your head with a hammer. Good luck and I hope you find peace.

 

[feedmymind]

TS nasaktan ako sa nangyari sayo.. anyways, I just have a short violent reaction for that..
mahirap man tangapin pero ang totoo kailangan mong harapin TS, kahit kailan hindi
magiging pwede ang hindi.. at hindi magiging tama ang mali, get it? yung Tiwala na lang
ang pinang kakapitan mo TS, na kahit na betrayed na nya, may tiwala ka parin ksi mahal
na mahal mo sya, siguro nga mahal ka nya talaga pero hindi ang loyalty iba yun sa pagmamahal..

mahirap ang pinagdadaanan mo TS, pero share ko narin sayo kung ano gagawin ko kung sakali
sakin mangyayari yan, una ipapaalala ko sa kanya lahat ng mga msasayang araw na pinagsamahan
namin, ipapaalala ko sa kanya lahat ng good things na ginawa ko, as lalaki na nagtiis nag hintay at nagmahal
tapos TS pag nagkita kayo magdate kayo at magusap ng masisinsinan para makipag hiwalay ka na ng maayos
sabihin mo naging masaya ka sa kanya at mag pasalamat ka na lang sa mga nagawa nya sayo.
basta TS handa mo sarili mo.. at ninja mode lang ako sdito sa thread mo... update mo ah..
nagamamadali ako pauwi na ko eh, hehe ..

 

[reiko08]

ang saklap pla ng nangyari sau TS... naalala ko tuloy ung napanood ko dati... ung tuhog ata un... ung story ni enchong at empress.. halos same kasi ehh.. ldr sila at nawala virginity nung girl sa ibang lalaki.. ang ending naman nun is pinatawad nya ung girl at sila pa rin nagkatuluyan... wish ko na sana ganun din sau TS.. kung hindi man.. move on ka na lang.. marami pa iba jan na deserving sa love mo...

 

[motoro]

Just to add some more point which i forgot. Do you think a guy would be bold enough to "rape" someone knowing that someone is also inside the room? I don't think a guy who has a bad intention such as forcing himself to her would do it in the present of another person para mahuli siya. There's just no such thing as that. Also, sa pagkakaalam ko sa barko, it's always the girl who goes to the guys room rather than the other way around kasi they still have that pagiingat on their part. Usually marunong pang mahiya yung mga girl kaya they don't invite guys to her cabin unless she lives alone. Sa palagay ko madalas siya sa cabin ni guy at dun nila ginagawa. IF EVER NA TOTOO na si guy ang pumunta sa cabin nila I don't think he forces himself in kasi that would surely awaken the roommate. I think the guy was welcome inside dahil siguro alam na rin ni roommate about sa kanila. No rape ever happened there.

Now you might wonder why she's suddenly coming clean. I think their relationship was well known in the ship already but unfortunately it didn't work out, maybe she found the guy is already married or he's just after her body so she needs to come clean kesa malaman mo next time at sa iba pa manggagaling so mahihirapan na siyang magpalusot. Unlike ngayon siya agad nagsabi at the same time she's shutting you out from investigating by claiming she's the victim para di ka na mag usisa and you just have to take your word for it.so she's hoping that you'd drop it na. Kumbaga maaga palang hinarangan ka na.

Lastly, gusto mo bang reserba ka lang at anytime pwede kang iwanan? It's obvious naman that she's looking for a better catch and working on the ship will allow her that opportunity. Kita mo naman she got back and come clean kuno kasi di nagwork out relationship nila. If you accept her back she's definitely going to be so into you as consolation but what about next time. Time will come that she'd be on the look out again and may aaligid na naman so do you think you can accept that? There's always a risk if you continue but i do hope you'd come to your senses and quit while you're ahead.

 

[road block]

Honesyly speaking ts MOVE ON... that's all indi madali pero dapat kayanin stop mo na cumunication nyo There's still someone who is WORTH YOUR TRUST, TIME and LOVE...magkalayo man kayo o magkalapit.

Kasi kung ipagpapatuloy mo lagin ka lang mapapranoid kakaisip kung cno kasama nya andudn ba ung 3rd party etc....


and one more thing alam ko na di namn ikawTANGA di ba

 

[xeon017]

Thanks sir motoro, freemymind and road block. Yes tama po kau lahat kaya nga nsa taas ang utak kesa s puso e para un ang unahin. Sa estado nya d nya gnamit icp nya, mas inuna p nya libog nya pero masabi dn ntn un na pggng tuso kpg d umubra plano nya s gnwa nya n un e my backup p cya na balik s akin.

As of now on the way n cya pabalik ng pinas. Kanina lagi n kmi mgkausap s skype na parang wla lng nangyari s knya dun. Pero ngaun lagi n ako nktutok s fb nya bka mhuli ko name ng guy tapos bawat kwento nya lagi ako my patama tungkol s krelasyon nya dun at cya p lagi galit, "ayan ka nnmn", " wag m ako umpisahan", "anu nnmn yan" ganung mga response nya sakin kpg tinamaan cya s patama ko.

Like knina hbng nsa hotel cla waiting for pickup nla s airport, hbng kwentuhan kmi with her frens sa loob ng kwarto sav ko "bka my naiwanan k dun s barko d ka ngpaalam?" Sagot nya "cnu nmn maiiwsn ko dun? Basura!" Tapos nung naintndhan n nya ibg ko savhn sagot nya "kinuwento ko n lahat sau!" Then bgla nya tinawag ksma nya girl s hotel "My__! cnu daw naiwan ko dun?" Bigla dn laki mata at ngiti.. Sagot nya "ed basura!" Halatang my cnignal s ksma... Sav ko "whooo! Lam ko n yang style n yan! Ngbarko dn ako kya kung ano buhay s barko hnggng dun lng un wlang ilalabas!" Wla deadma nlng.. Sav ko nlng "ok lng my tym dn tau dyan s usapan n yan" aftr nmn nun pinarinig ko nnmn ulit ung next nya na barko sakyan, sav ko "sure ka n b tlga dyan ka sasampa?" Sagot nya "oo nmn meron n ako skedule!" Sav ko "cgurado ka?" Paulit ulit lng na tanong at sagot hnggng sa tinawag nya ung isang gay na ksma nla umuwi now, tanong nya "db dun ka dn sa M___4 sampa?" Sagot nun "oo andun dn c anu db #-%+$+#?" Bigla ngsalita ung gf ko sa gay na un ng walang tono at ngingiti ngiti. Sav ng gf ko sakin, "oh narinig m cnav nya? My binabanggit cya pangalan." Sagot ko "hndi malakas ung sound nyo at malayo kausap m e" sav nya "malas m lng hehe" sinagot ko nlng "wag ka mgalala kaw mismo magsasav sakin nyan kung cnu cya" hanggang s inulit ko nnmn tanong ko kung sure n cya dun sasampa s barko n un.. Dagdag ko "mas pinili m yan ah.." Tapos bgla nlng nya ako cngawan "ano nnmn yang cnasav m n yan ha?!!" Sav ko "wla un tsaka nlng yan" tapos bgla change topic ako...

Ngaun nhahalata nnmn nya n my binabasa nnmn ako tungkol s problem namin nato. Dati kc nung fresh p ung nangyari lagi ako ngpapasa s knya ng mga blog about s gnung situation. D nya alam opinions nmn binabasa ko na tungkol n tlga samin.

Pero nakita ko now s fb nya kchat nya mga ksma nya n naiwan d barko meron mga msg na parang dnelete nya-

Friend:
Sino nanaman kaaway mo h8gh blood k nmn
Yesterday at 12:04am · Sent from Messenger
gf:
Kuya bantayan m jn cya ah..
Yesterday at 1:04am
Friend:
Okey cge balitaan kita ahhh thanks po ingat kyo sa biyahe kaypos lng nmin
Yesterday at 6:02am · Sent from Messenger
Gf:
Thanks kuya. Miz u all.. Cge po.

tinanong ko cnu pnpbantay nya. Sagot nya bf daw nya! D nmn daw ako bf nya ng pabiro. Hinayaan ko nlng kc d2 tanong ko dn yan pg uwi nya.

Eto mga boss nbasa ko dn s fb nya-
Fren:
nyahahaha sasalvage q n gsto mo? mgkkita tyo s m__4 hehehe...ksby nyo b? or feb.15 p cxa?
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Gf:
Feb15 cya. D na q babalik M__4. Palipat nalg aq
5 hours ago
Fren:
huh....pede b yn? hahhaa nka line up n tyo dun? sama mq hahaha
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Fren:
ungas tlga yn sasalvage q n yn ahahahha
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Gf:
E ngchange na q position e. Pwde na yn
Gago un. Sarap patayin
5 hours ago
Fren:
anung postion mo nb cabinista uu nga pero ppalitan lng s agency ntn tpos m___4 kpa rn hahaaha salvage q n mgkanu b patong s ulo nya? wahahaha
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Gf:
Piso patong sa ulo nya. Patayin m na dretso

Feeling ko pipiliin nya mgpalipat nlng barko..
Anu s paralagay nyo mga brad?
Samahan ko daw cya s opis sa thursday paconfirm nmin sked nya pero bago kmi punta dun savhn ko s knya kung palipat cya o ako?! Hehe..

Panu po kung palipat cya pra sakin??
Thanks po s inyong pagcomment...

 

[motoro]

Thanks sir motoro, freemymind and road block. Yes tama po kau lahat kaya nga nsa taas ang utak kesa s puso e para un ang unahin. Sa estado nya d nya gnamit icp nya, mas inuna p nya libog nya pero masabi dn ntn un na pggng tuso kpg d umubra plano nya s gnwa nya n un e my backup p cya na balik s akin.

As of now on the way n cya pabalik ng pinas. Kanina lagi n kmi mgkausap s skype na parang wla lng nangyari s knya dun. Pero ngaun lagi n ako nktutok s fb nya bka mhuli ko name ng guy tapos bawat kwento nya lagi ako my patama tungkol s krelasyon nya dun at cya p lagi galit, "ayan ka nnmn", " wag m ako umpisahan", "anu nnmn yan" ganung mga response nya sakin kpg tinamaan cya s patama ko.

Like knina hbng nsa hotel cla waiting for pickup nla s airport, hbng kwentuhan kmi with her frens sa loob ng kwarto sav ko "bka my naiwanan k dun s barko d ka ngpaalam?" Sagot nya "cnu nmn maiiwsn ko dun? Basura!" Tapos nung naintndhan n nya ibg ko savhn sagot nya "kinuwento ko n lahat sau!" Then bgla nya tinawag ksma nya girl s hotel "My__! cnu daw naiwan ko dun?" Bigla dn laki mata at ngiti.. Sagot nya "ed basura!" Halatang my cnignal s ksma... Sav ko "whooo! Lam ko n yang style n yan! Ngbarko dn ako kya kung ano buhay s barko hnggng dun lng un wlang ilalabas!" Wla deadma nlng.. Sav ko nlng "ok lng my tym dn tau dyan s usapan n yan" aftr nmn nun pinarinig ko nnmn ulit ung next nya na barko sakyan, sav ko "sure ka n b tlga dyan ka sasampa?" Sagot nya "oo nmn meron n ako skedule!" Sav ko "cgurado ka?" Paulit ulit lng na tanong at sagot hnggng sa tinawag nya ung isang gay na ksma nla umuwi now, tanong nya "db dun ka dn sa M___4 sampa?" Sagot nun "oo andun dn c anu db #-%+$+#?" Bigla ngsalita ung gf ko sa gay na un ng walang tono at ngingiti ngiti. Sav ng gf ko sakin, "oh narinig m cnav nya? My binabanggit cya pangalan." Sagot ko "hndi malakas ung sound nyo at malayo kausap m e" sav nya "malas m lng hehe" sinagot ko nlng "wag ka mgalala kaw mismo magsasav sakin nyan kung cnu cya" hanggang s inulit ko nnmn tanong ko kung sure n cya dun sasampa s barko n un.. Dagdag ko "mas pinili m yan ah.." Tapos bgla nlng nya ako cngawan "ano nnmn yang cnasav m n yan ha?!!" Sav ko "wla un tsaka nlng yan" tapos bgla change topic ako...

Ngaun nhahalata nnmn nya n my binabasa nnmn ako tungkol s problem namin nato. Dati kc nung fresh p ung nangyari lagi ako ngpapasa s knya ng mga blog about s gnung situation. D nya alam opinions nmn binabasa ko na tungkol n tlga samin.

Pero nakita ko now s fb nya kchat nya mga ksma nya n naiwan d barko meron mga msg na parang dnelete nya-

Friend:
Sino nanaman kaaway mo h8gh blood k nmn
Yesterday at 12:04am · Sent from Messenger
gf:
Kuya bantayan m jn cya ah..
Yesterday at 1:04am
Friend:
Okey cge balitaan kita ahhh thanks po ingat kyo sa biyahe kaypos lng nmin
Yesterday at 6:02am · Sent from Messenger
Gf:
Thanks kuya. Miz u all.. Cge po.

tinanong ko cnu pnpbantay nya. Sagot nya bf daw nya! D nmn daw ako bf nya ng pabiro. Hinayaan ko nlng kc d2 tanong ko dn yan pg uwi nya.

Eto mga boss nbasa ko dn s fb nya-
Fren:
nyahahaha sasalvage q n gsto mo? mgkkita tyo s m__4 hehehe...ksby nyo b? or feb.15 p cxa?
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Gf:
Feb15 cya. D na q babalik M__4. Palipat nalg aq
5 hours ago
Fren:
huh....pede b yn? hahhaa nka line up n tyo dun? sama mq hahaha
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Fren:
ungas tlga yn sasalvage q n yn ahahahha
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Gf:
E ngchange na q position e. Pwde na yn
Gago un. Sarap patayin
5 hours ago
Fren:
anung postion mo nb cabinista uu nga pero ppalitan lng s agency ntn tpos m___4 kpa rn hahaaha salvage q n mgkanu b patong s ulo nya? wahahaha
5 hours ago · Sent from Mobile
Gf:
Piso patong sa ulo nya. Patayin m na dretso

Feeling ko pipiliin nya mgpalipat nlng barko..
Anu s paralagay nyo mga brad?
Samahan ko daw cya s opis sa thursday paconfirm nmin sked nya pero bago kmi punta dun savhn ko s knya kung palipat cya o ako?! Hehe..

Panu po kung palipat cya pra sakin??
Thanks po s inyong pagcomment...

I think you have all the information you need for you to decide on your own. I think the truth is already staring at you and are just waiting for your decision. I don't know what the other poster said but for me, you're already given the opportunity to know your girlfriend already and you are also given the wisdom to decide for your own good.

Bottom line here is, you ONLY need to focus on what happened and you SHOULD NOT focus on the BEFORE and AFTER. You should stop clinging to the memory you both have because even if your memories dates back to 5 years, it doesn't mean shit anymore once you or your partner screws up especially with a 3rd party. Clearly, whatever memories that you are clinging on right now doesn't matter to your partner anymore otherwise she would have behave AND she would have done the right thing if she was truly "raped". It's obvious that she doesn't respect you nor herself for that matter, sad to say.

Secondly, you SHOULD NOT focus on what happen next. Because, as I've said, she know she screwed up and she's trying all sorts of excuses to appease you so you should expect that she will treat you like a king for the meantime. She might do all sorts of things just to make you forget about her fuck ups so I hope you will be smart enough not to fall for it. I don't know about you but for me, a girl who's good at excuses and making up stories can't be trusted ANYMORE. If she's going to come out clean at least be TOTALLY honest about it and ask for forgiveness and be ready to face the consequences. Sorry, I just don't like a person who committed a stupid mistake and making it worse by making up all sorts of stories and excuses para lang lumabas na biktima sila. I think that's cheap. Sorry. Can you see how she reacted whenever you open the topic? Yes she gets upset because she's guilty. Getting upset or mad is her defense mechanism so that it would make you feel guilty and she's hoping you would just stop mentioning it and pretend nothing ever happens.

To sum things up and to answer your questions. Iexpect mo na that she will treat you like a king when she returns. It's your consolation and it's also a way to sort of show you that she loves you dearly kahit na hindi. Again, hindi na importante mga memories because memories will not keep the relationship alive and whatever memories you both have are already compromised. Whatever she will do after isn't important anymore because the damage has been done already at naipakita na sayo kung ano ugali niya and what she's capable of doing. So kahit lumipat pa siya ng barko or magtrabaho pa siya sa isang opisina sa ibang bansa para iwasan yung guy KUNO the guy will find his way OR maghahanap rin yan ng iba. Because obviously, if you haven't notice yet, she's open to a better catch. Please know na kahit ikasal pa kayo there's no guarantee that guys won't hit on her so even if naiwasan niya yung guy sa paglipat sa ibang barko there will always other guys who would hit on her...sa dami ba naman ng employees sa barko. Also, bakit niya papahirapan sarili niya by moving to another ship just to avoid him when she can file a criminal case against him diba? Ni-rape ka na nga hindi ka pa lalaban, nagdududa na nga boyfriend mo tapos hindi ka pa magfile ng case to prove your innocence diba. kahit yan nalang e.

So for me, it doesn't matter anymore kung papalipat siya or ikaw piliin niya. Dahil I won't be surprised kung sakaling magdrama siya at piliin ka at magstay nalang siya sa pinas just be appease you for the TIME BEING. Given na yan pero how secure are you for the long term. Ako kasi, I go for long term. I won't stay in a relationship where trust is already comprised and I would just be miserable because I'll get paranoid if she's abroad working especially hindi ko nalaman yung totoo at sa halip palusot lamang ang binigay sa akin. But this is your life. In the end, you decide for yourself. Everyone here already gave your two cents already and everyone gave their thoughts for the good. Like I said, sa unang post mo palang I would know already what to do if I were you because nandun na lahat.

Lastly, do not be mad with the guy. Wag ka na magisip gantihan yun guy dahil he is just being a guy and you cannot prevent a guy from hitting on a girl who's in a relationship or married. Even if a girl is married with 10 childrean ay wala pa rin guarantee that she will not be hit on. Hindi immune sa tukso kahit na married na. Kung ang pari nga may dumarating na temptation normal na tao pa kaya. So maliit lang part ni guy dito. Ang puno't dulo ay yung gf mo. She can have 10 suitors in a month pero kung hindi niya ito papatulan ay walang magagawa ang mga suitors niya kahit pa magpakamatay mga yun. So spare the guy kasi kung hindi siya ginusto ng gf mo he will just move on to the next one until makascore siya. Good luck to you.

 

[precious1052]

hahahhahaahah now uwi ng girl makipag hiwalay kana meron pang iba dyan wag ka magpaka tanga, isip isip din utak naman wag puro puso....

 

[jkenneth22]

sakit naman ng nangyari sau TS ..

yes niloko ka nga
and yes nasaktan ka
but u forgive her kasi mahal mo and she promise na di na sya uulit.
now worried ka na baka masaktan ka ulit? and obvious naman na puro lamat na ung trust mo sa kanya at konti uga nlng e tuluyan ng masisira.

sya lng ang minahal mo ng ganyan at wala syang katulad.

TS may nawawala e at dapat mahanap mo yun. and if u did then u will know the BEST answers not just right but the BEST answer.



almost same yung nangyari satin TS.

 

[gvon18]

Ang ganda nung story..sana madugtungan.. diba ngayon uwi..kwentuhan mo kami ha..

Payo ko lang..Hindi porket tama ay gagawin mo na at hindi porket mali ay iiwas ka na.. Minsan kung ano pa yung mali yun pa yung nagiging tama sa huli. Basta kung ano yung nagpapasaya sayo gawin mo lang. Ang hirap mabuhay ng may regrets. Tandaan mo ang anumang nangyari na ay di na mababago. Pero yung tadhana mo ikaw naman ang gagawa nun at yun ay nakabase sa mga desisyon na bibitawan mo. Hindi naman lahat dito nararamdaman kung ano yung nararamdaman mo ngayon. Oo nga nakakarelate pero hindi naman lahat tayo pare-pareho ng iniisip. Para sa akin kasi ang purpose ng life ay maging masaya. Hindi naman sa pagiging makasarili ha pero diba may mga bagay na tinitigilan na natin pag hindi na tayo masaya.

Sige na abangan ko nalang yung kwento mo

 

[katraysix4ever]

PAnswer nmn po kung panu ko po ipapalagay sarili ko na ako lng tlga mamahalin nya despite of mgkakasama nnmn cla ng 9 months s susunod nyang barko.?
Answer nmn po kung ilang percent na magiging loyal p ung girl s gantong pangyayari?
Answer nmn po kung anu po dapat ko gawin pra mabalik buong tiwala ko s gf ko? Kc kht ako gusto ko cya tulungan mbalik buo tiwala ko s knya


? No 1 have faith
?no 2 100% kung ipapakita mo sa kanya na still mahal mo parin sya in return ma iisip nya yong mga pagkakamali nya na kahit nagawa nya tinanggap mo parin sya ng buong buo,,,,ksi kung may duda dyan sa isip mo may posibilidad o mag-aalangan yang gf mo kaya baka sakaling papatol sya ulit dun sa guy kasi wla syang kasiguruhan na saio ,gets mo.,hindi na 100 %yun love mo sa kanya, "Tao lang taio mapusok at nagkakamali din pero kung mayroong pagpapatawad at pagmamahalan na aapreciate iyon ng taong pinahahalagahan natin at para gumagaang din ang ating kalooban ,,
?no 3 follow my ans no 1&2


In addition base sa kwento mo ...nkkita ko naman na mahal ka ng girl at mahal mo rin sya right .,,,pagsubok ln yn god bless ,,,ramdam ko yung kwento mo mas mahirap pag napunta yang minamahal mo sa iba kung hindi mo sya bibigyan ng another chance,,,,good luck

 

[feedmymind]

Ts pinapahaba mo lang worst day ng relationship nyo.. may positive thingking kpa rin ksi na maayos ang relationship at mapapstawad mo sya
dapat ang iniisip mo na ngayon kng panu mag move on at pano malagpasan ang ngyari syo.. hndi worth ang mga ganyan babae sa pagpapahalaga
binibigay mo.. may nagawa kabang mali before para gawin o magawa nya ang ganun bagay? or even may nagawa ka hindi parin makatwiran para gawin nya un
.. ts masakit kung sa masakit pero bitawan mo na ang masasayang ala ala nyo hehe..
anyways ts para makita mo ang mga deleted fb messages.. ang gawin mo log in ka sa pc or even sa phone pwede na yata..
punta ka sa inbox then archived nandun lahat ng mga deleted fb message at kung kanino
galing.. fb messages from the start using fb.. goodluck..

 

[Culsjane]

Hindi ko huhusgahan ang girlfriend mo sa mga ginawa niya at sinabi niya sa iyo pagkatapos.

Una, pagdating sa mga mahihirap na sitwasyon, tandaan mo na ang tendency ng mga normal na tao ay ang mag-cling sa isa't isa or mag-stick together in whichever way they can. Katulad sa linya ng trabaho ninyo - malayo sa pamilaya at loved ones at mabigat ang trabaho. Hindi maiaalis ang possibilities na tubuan ng kung anu-ano'ng feelings para sa mga kasama. Hindi maiiwasang mangyari 'yan dahil human nature 'yan and nagiging special bond ng mga tao ang mga mahihirap na sitwasyong pinagdaraanan nila pareho. Sinasabi ko ito as a possible explanation sa naging actions ng GF mo. Maaaring hindi siya aware sa bagay na ito, pero gaya nga ng sabi ko, human nature iyan ng isang average at normal na tao.

Now, nangyari na iyan. mahirap talagang paniwalaan ng buo ang salaysay ng GF mo. Maraming butas sa kuwento. I'll be blunt about it, her course of actions, based on her story seesm a series of wrong choices if not downright stupid ones. Again, not your GF, but her actions. If you can totally and honestly accept that seemeingly shit-ty story, it's your choice - just make sure na buo ang loob mo, dahil gaya ng sabi ng mga naunang advice, mumultuhin ka ng infidelity/kataksilan na iyan for a vert, very long time, if not your entire lifetime.. So kung sa ngayon ay hindi ka siguradong mapapatawad at matatanggap mo ang nangyari nang buung-buo at hinding-hindi mo isusumbat ito sa kanya kahit ano'ng mangyari - advice ko is break things up with her. Move on with your life and to a better and much-deserving girl. Maaaring lesson learned sa kanya ito, pero seriously, does she have to learn this lesson at your own expense? Na-argabyado ka na nga nang dahil sa actions niya, pipiliin mo pa ba'ng maargabyado pa rin indefinitely nang dahil naman sa magiging reaction mo? Rape victim man o hindi ang GF mo, she needs serious help - and you're not the best person to give it to her dahil sangkot at victim ka rin in some way.

If you're gonna break up with her, be both gentle and firm about it. Be gentle in a sense na ipaliwanag mo why you decided to end things up with her. She could be really hurting sa nangyari - kagustuhan man niya ito o hindi. So be gentle and sensitive. You're breaking up with her to move on with your life and let her know why you're doing so, at hindi ka nakiki-pag-break para parusahan or pasakitan siya. Be firm about it too in a sense na wala nang makakapagpabago pa ng isip mo, kahit ano pang sabihin niya. this is important dahil, again, human nature ang sa kanya ay gawin ang lahat huwag ka lang mawala sa kanya - either dahil nagsisisi siya sa ginawa niya or dahil kailangan niya talaga ng makakapitan - kahit ang gumawa ng panibagong kuwento, huwag mo lang siyang iwan. So again, be firm and sensible.

You may want to be there for her pero sadly, you may not be the best person to help her. Aggrieved part ka rin. Conflict of interest na iyan and your judgment is most likely to be clouded. Check if there's someone else who can help her. Better kung professional counselor, para mas objective and because of the rape angle. This is one time where the best way to help someone is to let someone else do the actual helping.

Kung makikisama ka pa rin sa naman sa kanya. It's your choice. Basta panindigan mo 'yan. Hindi mo na mababago ang nangyari (unless may sayad ang GF mo para gumawa ng kuwento about her getting fu*ked, I'll assume na totoo ang kuwento ng GF mo na may nangyari nga between sa kanya and another guy - with consent man o wala). Hindi mo na mababago ito and it's gonna stick up to your mind indefinitely. It's most likely to haunt your dreams and waking moments. If you're willing to go through that hell because she had to learn a lesson, it's up to you.

Good luck sa iyo and God bless.

 

[road block]

ts teka may nag text eh merong nag sabi ng minsan nito "Even there is a million girl in the world, you are the only girl for me" ganda pakinggan diba ikaw sa palagay mo ikaw lang ba ang only guy for her tsk tsk

 

[Pusonegro]

ito lang naman yan pare pano ka mapapalagay ko ung lalaking nang rape sa gf mo e kasama nya sa barko? kung nirape talaga sya
kahit kailan hindi mapapalgay ang isipan mo hanggat magkasama sila at kalokohan lang yan as if naman walang nangyayari ulit
pag magkasama sila ng lalaki. iniiputan ka na sa ulo pero ito ka parin sinasalo salo mo. kung gusto mo talaga sya na mapasayo buntisin mo
at ikaw na lang mag trabaho para sa pamilya mo patirahn mo sya sa bahay nyo un na un

 

[Arthur Leywin]

Talaga bang pinatawad mo na ba siya?

Para sa akin hindi e.
Dahil meron ka pa ring duda sa kanya

Ang pagpapawatad ay hindi salita lang na lapag sinabi mo e pwede mo bawiin
Kung talagang pinatawad mo na siya, tatanggapin mo siya uli dahil magtitiwala kang muli sa mga sinabi niya sayo

masakit lang kay babae e
What if seryoso na talaga siya?
Edi kawawa siya kasi pinagdududahan pa pala siya ng taong nagpatawad sa kanya

 

[arwin00139]

nkaka lungkot ung nangyari, sa opinion ko, ginusto nung babae ung nangyari. , saka karapatan ng babae na mag react sa ginagawa sknya nung kups na katrabaho nya, pambabastos na yun. goodluck kay ts!.