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Dapat pa bang pagkatiwalaan ang bf na iniwan ka na dati dahil sa ibang babae?
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Re: Dapat pa bang pagkatiwalaan ang bf na iniwan ka na dati dahil sa ibang babae?
@chen
hi chen, thank you so much!
what you did is practical and straight-forward.
same here... i experienced it too the hard way... i deeply love her so much that i was too blinded to see what's coming for me. honestly, for several weeks after bigla na lang ako napapaiyak. asking myself at the corner, what went wrong? am i being tested.
share ko lang ito#1:
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lets put a situation outside of the box. have we ever wonder and ask why do people cheat?
(1) perhaps it's his self-esteem - they feel better on this settings, ego!
(2) i am ignored, need to do revenge - it does happen.
(3) arguments! arguments! it can come in all directions kaya handle it well
(4) exploration... what if kaya...? what is the feeling...? etc
it's human behavior. some people do, some people don't... yes he/she hurt you but never do bad things for yourself... (most likely kasi, unintentional nagagawa natin ito) it is well studied that people have different levels of physical and emotional needs.
you may say: ok kami na, mag-BF na kami... mahal ko siya. mahal nya ako.
- wrong! it's not enough. it's not a security measure... if mawalan kayo ng connection.. surely something wrong will occur. people sometimes easily slip away. you need continous connection... sometimes love needs maintainance. show your appreciation in anyway you can.
there are also times that it just happen unexpectedly. this is what psych call, "unknown to you, unknown to others" di natin alam na capable pala ako, ikaw... to cheat.
share ko lang ito#2:
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another example, a couple decided to rebuild their broken relationship. putting to their shoes, you're thinking of all the positive things like magiging masaya kami, enjoy what we used to do, share everything BUT what we neglect to see is there's also a big chance na kasama ang mga negative past events nyo, pinag-awayan, selos etc hindi ito maiiwasan unless both couple is sincere. believe me, working it back again is double the effort for both parties. i am not saying we shouldn't... i'm just implying that we first ask oursleves if we're ready and capable enough for this.
final thoughts...
now, like i said about trust in my previous post... it's not an item to purchase... love is not a material thing. in events like this... trust - it is something to earn after a lost. i know its not easy but the first step is to forgive and forgiveness will give you freedom from pain, lost, etc.
if you love a person dapat pati negative niya mahal natin... kasi kung nagmamahal tayo dahil sa positive features niya if ever this is taken from you... mahal mo pa rin ba siya or you'll just mumble....
well, nobody is perfect in handling relationships. it doesn't matter how many times you fall... what matters most is how you stand after all the events.
ONecruz nice posts! U insPire me.
ahmMm, dumaAn din aq sa ganito. My boyfriend cheateD oN me... Sinabi ko talaga sa sarili ko that "nO way! i woNt give him a second chance!" pero salita lang yoN. AnyWay nasasayo din naman yan if it realLy makes you hapy of being together again or n0t.
Then aBouT the trust? MaibAbALik m0 rin y0n sa kanya, thats if sincere tlaga sya and if he really loves you.
@chen
hi chen, thank you so much!
what you did is practical and straight-forward.
same here... i experienced it too the hard way... i deeply love her so much that i was too blinded to see what's coming for me. honestly, for several weeks after bigla na lang ako napapaiyak. asking myself at the corner, what went wrong? am i being tested.
share ko lang ito#1:
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lets put a situation outside of the box. have we ever wonder and ask why do people cheat?
(1) perhaps it's his self-esteem - they feel better on this settings, ego!
(2) i am ignored, need to do revenge - it does happen.
(3) arguments! arguments! it can come in all directions kaya handle it well
(4) exploration... what if kaya...? what is the feeling...? etc
it's human behavior. some people do, some people don't... yes he/she hurt you but never do bad things for yourself... (most likely kasi, unintentional nagagawa natin ito) it is well studied that people have different levels of physical and emotional needs.
you may say: ok kami na, mag-BF na kami... mahal ko siya. mahal nya ako.
- wrong! it's not enough. it's not a security measure... if mawalan kayo ng connection.. surely something wrong will occur. people sometimes easily slip away. you need continous connection... sometimes love needs maintainance. show your appreciation in anyway you can.
there are also times that it just happen unexpectedly. this is what psych call, "unknown to you, unknown to others" di natin alam na capable pala ako, ikaw... to cheat.
share ko lang ito#2:
==============
another example, a couple decided to rebuild their broken relationship. putting to their shoes, you're thinking of all the positive things like magiging masaya kami, enjoy what we used to do, share everything BUT what we neglect to see is there's also a big chance na kasama ang mga negative past events nyo, pinag-awayan, selos etc hindi ito maiiwasan unless both couple is sincere. believe me, working it back again is double the effort for both parties. i am not saying we shouldn't... i'm just implying that we first ask oursleves if we're ready and capable enough for this.
final thoughts...
now, like i said about trust in my previous post... it's not an item to purchase... love is not a material thing. in events like this... trust - it is something to earn after a lost. i know its not easy but the first step is to forgive and forgiveness will give you freedom from pain, lost, etc.
if you love a person dapat pati negative niya mahal natin... kasi kung nagmamahal tayo dahil sa positive features niya if ever this is taken from you... mahal mo pa rin ba siya or you'll just mumble....
well, nobody is perfect in handling relationships. it doesn't matter how many times you fall... what matters most is how you stand after all the events.
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Re: Dapat pa bang pagkatiwalaan ang bf na iniwan ka na dati dahil sa ibang babae?
pag kasi nawalan ng tiwala sayo yung mga taong naloko mo ,kahit anung gawin iisa lang ang tingin nila sayo
manloloko weh
pag kasi nawalan ng tiwala sayo yung mga taong naloko mo ,kahit anung gawin iisa lang ang tingin nila sayo
manloloko weh
Re: Dapat pa bang pagkatiwalaan ang bf na iniwan ka na dati dahil sa ibang babae?
Ou naman...Kung sincere sya sa paghingi ng tawad at magbabagO siya why nOt?...EveryOnes deserves a secOnd chance...ThOugh nagkamali na siya kailangan nating fOrgive and tO settle ang lahat ng dOubts sa isat-isa para sa inyOng dalawa...
Ou naman...Kung sincere sya sa paghingi ng tawad at magbabagO siya why nOt?...EveryOnes deserves a secOnd chance...ThOugh nagkamali na siya kailangan nating fOrgive and tO settle ang lahat ng dOubts sa isat-isa para sa inyOng dalawa...
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@onecruz.. apir! nosebleed naman shinare mo but i like it.. binasa ko talaga..
@red18..di man po lahat..pag mahal mo tao,baliktarin mo man ang mundo,,mapapatawad at mapapatawad mo pa rin un..mahirap ibalik ung dati pero in time, maibabalik nya din un.. konting effort lng galing dun sa kanya
@kyoshiro.. 2nd chance lang ba?hanggang dun lang?ako as long as makita ko sa kanya na may desire talaga siyang magbago,gow lang..3rd, 4th,5th.. & so on..ok lng un.. madali lang naman magpatawad eh
dba?
@onecruz.. apir! nosebleed naman shinare mo but i like it.. binasa ko talaga..
@red18..di man po lahat..pag mahal mo tao,baliktarin mo man ang mundo,,mapapatawad at mapapatawad mo pa rin un..mahirap ibalik ung dati pero in time, maibabalik nya din un.. konting effort lng galing dun sa kanya
@kyoshiro.. 2nd chance lang ba?hanggang dun lang?ako as long as makita ko sa kanya na may desire talaga siyang magbago,gow lang..3rd, 4th,5th.. & so on..ok lng un.. madali lang naman magpatawad eh
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the problem with second chances is its the second...
and forgiving does not include getting back together as a package
the problem with second chances is its the second...
and forgiving does not include getting back together as a package
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Re: Dapat pa bang pagkatiwalaan ang bf na iniwan ka na dati dahil sa ibang babae?
ako di ko alam kung dapat pa pagkatiwalaan.... peru mahal na mahal ko gf ko... peru 2nd tym na nia toh ginagawa.....
peru tingin ko pag dalawang beses na... tama na... sobra na un eh.
ako di ko alam kung dapat pa pagkatiwalaan.... peru mahal na mahal ko gf ko... peru 2nd tym na nia toh ginagawa.....
peru tingin ko pag dalawang beses na... tama na... sobra na un eh.
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@twilight
thank you po friend!
mejo mahaba nga lang compare sa previous post ko but it's worth it.
experience base pero somehow it felt good releasing it.
again, thank you
@twilight
thank you po friend!
mejo mahaba nga lang compare sa previous post ko but it's worth it.
experience base pero somehow it felt good releasing it.
again, thank you
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I cAnt help n0t to c0mpare trust into a soul.. Let's set an example a thief..
patawarin m0 man ang magnanakaw,hindi m0 pa rin maitatangging pag pumasok siya sa pamamahay m0 ay pakaiingatan m0 ang mga bAgay na maAring mawala..hindi m0 bibiGYan ng pagkakata0n ulit y0n..kasi di m0 na MaibAbALIK Ang tiwala kahit nagpatawad ka na..
Madaling magpatawad pero napakahirap magHilum ang sugatang pus0..
Itinan0ng k0 na ilang beses sa sarili k0 saAN ako nagkamali?
Its true n0 body is perfECT..pero wag na wag nyang saSAbIhing kaya sya nagHanap ng ibA dahil nagkulang ako..tinitiyak k0ng sum0bra pa ako sa pagmamahal kesa nagkulang...
Okay pinatawad ko na nga,nagBago na nga siya.. Sa tingin ny0 bA mapapanatag ang lo0b ko sa tUWing magpapaAlam siyang may dadaluhang party..di ko kaya maiisip na maraming maganda dun?o0 mahal k0,. Pero mapipiGilan ko bA ANG puso k0ng nagseselos at SAbiHing Hindi sya titingen sa ibA Kung alam k0 namang cAPAbLE sya of doing it?
I cAnt help n0t to c0mpare trust into a soul.. Let's set an example a thief..
patawarin m0 man ang magnanakaw,hindi m0 pa rin maitatangging pag pumasok siya sa pamamahay m0 ay pakaiingatan m0 ang mga bAgay na maAring mawala..hindi m0 bibiGYan ng pagkakata0n ulit y0n..kasi di m0 na MaibAbALIK Ang tiwala kahit nagpatawad ka na..
Madaling magpatawad pero napakahirap magHilum ang sugatang pus0..
Itinan0ng k0 na ilang beses sa sarili k0 saAN ako nagkamali?
Its true n0 body is perfECT..pero wag na wag nyang saSAbIhing kaya sya nagHanap ng ibA dahil nagkulang ako..tinitiyak k0ng sum0bra pa ako sa pagmamahal kesa nagkulang...
Okay pinatawad ko na nga,nagBago na nga siya.. Sa tingin ny0 bA mapapanatag ang lo0b ko sa tUWing magpapaAlam siyang may dadaluhang party..di ko kaya maiisip na maraming maganda dun?o0 mahal k0,. Pero mapipiGilan ko bA ANG puso k0ng nagseselos at SAbiHing Hindi sya titingen sa ibA Kung alam k0 namang cAPAbLE sya of doing it?
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on the example, the idea is like "love is sacred." it's a kinda one-time trust, irreplaceable. it's a give and take. he took it from you and you gave it, of course. (he can't take love without you giving) to give love is holy, to ask love is human (no exception). you gave him love and you should not be down with some regrets. i know it was hard for you. i know the feeling.
jealousy is a human emotion. do you have the reason to be jealous? YES! kc me history. granted, naghanap siya ng iba. it's his choice and decision. don't let others make you miserable. if you already forgiven him pero naulit.
two (2) possible things:
(1) sobra or kulang sa part mo BUT like you said, you gave him much. maybe he's didn't noticed that until now then it's his lost.
(2) maybe siya na talaga ang me problema. emotions are human nature. maybe nature nya madali ma-attract sa qualities iba... BUT it differs kung naman kung humahanga lang siya pero ikaw pa rin ang mahal nya di ba.
what can you do? talk to him. direct approach. set a good time and location. we don't know baka me trigger kung bakit siya ganun. we can understand baka me part na nasasaktan din siya or definitely player sa emotions. only you can find out. look for answers and may it ease your pain.
friend, i feel sorry. i know you still experience some bitterness and hardships sa relationship. kc you were hurt! how much?! i can't tell exactly, only you can. the question now is "what can you do? how can it be better?" how you react or handle yourself matters too.
still, you're both bless. maswerte siya kasi me nagmamahal sa kanya. maswerte sya nanjan ka. nanjan kayo. unlike some people who are pulled away.
good luck friend!
hopefully it will be better.
on the example, the idea is like "love is sacred." it's a kinda one-time trust, irreplaceable. it's a give and take. he took it from you and you gave it, of course. (he can't take love without you giving) to give love is holy, to ask love is human (no exception). you gave him love and you should not be down with some regrets. i know it was hard for you. i know the feeling.
jealousy is a human emotion. do you have the reason to be jealous? YES! kc me history. granted, naghanap siya ng iba. it's his choice and decision. don't let others make you miserable. if you already forgiven him pero naulit.
two (2) possible things:
(1) sobra or kulang sa part mo BUT like you said, you gave him much. maybe he's didn't noticed that until now then it's his lost.
(2) maybe siya na talaga ang me problema. emotions are human nature. maybe nature nya madali ma-attract sa qualities iba... BUT it differs kung naman kung humahanga lang siya pero ikaw pa rin ang mahal nya di ba.
what can you do? talk to him. direct approach. set a good time and location. we don't know baka me trigger kung bakit siya ganun. we can understand baka me part na nasasaktan din siya or definitely player sa emotions. only you can find out. look for answers and may it ease your pain.
friend, i feel sorry. i know you still experience some bitterness and hardships sa relationship. kc you were hurt! how much?! i can't tell exactly, only you can. the question now is "what can you do? how can it be better?" how you react or handle yourself matters too.
still, you're both bless. maswerte siya kasi me nagmamahal sa kanya. maswerte sya nanjan ka. nanjan kayo. unlike some people who are pulled away.
good luck friend!
hopefully it will be better.
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T0 one cruz...
love is saCREd? EXACTLY..!
I loved him unc0nditi0naly.
I didnt expect anything in retUrn.
If he cANt love me bAck the way i did then its ok.
All i neEd is resPECT and sincerity..
If oNLY he t0ld me h0nestly that he d0nt love me anym0re then i could give him slap,oNCE,TWICE,thrice?
BuT a milli0n slap is n0thing as c0mpareD To a single cuT he did in my heart.
id rather get hurt for a truTH oNce than lifETIME be hapPY for a lie..
I doNT REgrets that i gave love.what i regreted was that i gave it to a wr0ng perS0N.
jealous is a natURAL fEeling
everybody is cApaBLE to DO so.
BuT AS you have said
'd0nt let otherS make you miseraBLE'
THAts why i keEP standing oN my p0int of view regarding this thread.
TRUST N0 m0re to a perS0N who f0ol you n0t just oNCE..
admiring otherS is n0t bAD..it sh0uld n0t be a biG isSUE in a relati0n..
BuT C0mMitmet to otherS when taken already is a BIG N0 n0..
bAKit ko pipilitin maging pangalawa lang kung pweDe naman ak0 maging una at nag iisa sa buhay ng ibA..
i apPreciateD your c0ncerneD
ANd thanks for your great word of wisdoM...
T0 one cruz...
love is saCREd? EXACTLY..!
I loved him unc0nditi0naly.
I didnt expect anything in retUrn.
If he cANt love me bAck the way i did then its ok.
All i neEd is resPECT and sincerity..
If oNLY he t0ld me h0nestly that he d0nt love me anym0re then i could give him slap,oNCE,TWICE,thrice?
BuT a milli0n slap is n0thing as c0mpareD To a single cuT he did in my heart.
id rather get hurt for a truTH oNce than lifETIME be hapPY for a lie..
I doNT REgrets that i gave love.what i regreted was that i gave it to a wr0ng perS0N.
jealous is a natURAL fEeling
everybody is cApaBLE to DO so.
BuT AS you have said
'd0nt let otherS make you miseraBLE'
THAts why i keEP standing oN my p0int of view regarding this thread.
TRUST N0 m0re to a perS0N who f0ol you n0t just oNCE..
admiring otherS is n0t bAD..it sh0uld n0t be a biG isSUE in a relati0n..
BuT C0mMitmet to otherS when taken already is a BIG N0 n0..
bAKit ko pipilitin maging pangalawa lang kung pweDe naman ak0 maging una at nag iisa sa buhay ng ibA..
i apPreciateD your c0ncerneD
ANd thanks for your great word of wisdoM...
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nasa iyo pa rin yan.. kung tatanga-tanga ka.. e di pagtiwalaan mo ulit... no offense meant.. dahil ang tanong mo TS ikaw na rin mismo ang sumagot.. isang malaking HINDI...
nasa iyo pa rin yan.. kung tatanga-tanga ka.. e di pagtiwalaan mo ulit... no offense meant.. dahil ang tanong mo TS ikaw na rin mismo ang sumagot.. isang malaking HINDI...
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hindi rin... maganda lang pakinggan.
accept, pwede pero love? na ah.
hindi rin... maganda lang pakinggan.
accept, pwede pero love? na ah.
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Everyone deserves a Second Chance nga daw.
Kasi hindi pa tayo ready sa Una..
Kung sa pangalawang pagkakataon na gawin ulit nya yun,
e di wag mo na ulit patuluyin sa buhay mo. Ganun lang yun. Kailangan mo din kasing matuto.
Everyone deserves a Second Chance nga daw.
Kasi hindi pa tayo ready sa Una..
Kung sa pangalawang pagkakataon na gawin ulit nya yun,
e di wag mo na ulit patuluyin sa buhay mo. Ganun lang yun. Kailangan mo din kasing matuto.
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