Kung ang asawa mo, girlfriend or boyfriend, Tinanong mo nang,,,

[mariwana]

Kung ang asawa mo, girlfriend or boyfriend, Tinanong mo nang " kung mag tatrabaho ka sa ibang lugar or bansa na open country? At nagkaroon nang TUKSO, gawa nang mga kasama mo sa trabaho, mag papatukso ka ba? "

Tapos ang sagot nya ay: " Hindi ako Nagsasalita nang patapos ".

Anong dapat gawin sa ganong mga pangyayari?
dapat ba habang maaga ay putulin mo na ang nag uugnay sa inyo?

 

[glenfx]

putulin mo na yan. tignan mo sa sagot palang nya hindi konkreto kasi hindi sya sigurado.

 

[mariwana]

putulin mo na yan. tignan mo sa sagot palang nya hindi konkreto kasi hindi sya sigurado.

pero sabi nya na hindi nya nmn yun gagawin if ever dahil, mahal nya yung pamilya nya.. i mean mga anak at asawa.

 

[ruidon]

mahirap labanan ang tukso pag nasa labas ka..unless lagi mo syang kausap..dapat lagi lagi ang tawagan..kasi once na nahomesick yan sigurado..bibigay yan...

kung ginagawa nya na dto sigurado na yan na gagawin nya dun.. pero kung mabait sya..50/50 na gagawin..communication lang kailangan para di siya malihis ng daan..

pag usapan nyong mabuti kasi magsasakripisyo sya para sa ikagaganda ng buhay nyo..andiyan ang skype..ginagawa ng asawa ng isa kong tropa..skype buong magdamag..i mean hinahayaan lang nakabukas ang skype..nag uusap gabi gabi hanggang makatulugan..kaya sure na alang kalaokohanng ginagawa ang asawa..

 

[mariwana]

mahirap labanan ang tukso pag nasa labas ka..unless lagi mo syang kausap..dapat lagi lagi ang tawagan..kasi once na nahomesick yan sigurado..bibigay yan...

kung ginagawa nya na dto sigurado na yan na gagawin nya dun.. pero kung mabait sya..50/50 na gagawin..communication lang kailangan para di siya malihis ng daan..

pag usapan nyong mabuti kasi magsasakripisyo sya para sa ikagaganda ng buhay nyo..andiyan ang skype..ginagawa ng asawa ng isa kong tropa..skype buong magdamag..i mean hinahayaan lang nakabukas ang skype..nag uusap gabi gabi hanggang makatulugan..kaya sure na alang kalaokohanng ginagawa ang asawa..

i agree boss, pero minsan gumagawa na nang way para makausap araw araw, tapos sasabihin nya na hindi minuminuto e kailangan mag report.. nag papalagay namn ako nang unlimeted internet, but agad siyang kumokontra, tatanungin ko bakit, di nmn xa sasagot. pero nag papaload nmn araw araw para mag ka usap kami 2 - 3 hrs then ubos na data, chat na lang magiging communication trough free fb sa pinas. FYI nasa abroad ako xa na sa pinas..

 

[jsyjcool]

Kung ang asawa mo, girlfriend or boyfriend, Tinanong mo nang " kung mag tatrabaho ka sa ibang lugar or bansa na open country? At nagkaroon nang TUKSO, gawa nang mga kasama mo sa trabaho, mag papatukso ka ba? "

Tapos ang sagot nya ay: " Hindi ako Nagsasalita nang patapos ".

Anong dapat gawin sa ganong mga pangyayari?
dapat ba habang maaga ay putulin mo na ang nag uugnay sa inyo?

Your partner is being realistic lang sa sagot nya TS. Actually alam mo naman ang sitwasyon bilang nasa abroad ka rin, kaya aware kana anything can happen, regardless kahit gaano mo pa kakilala ang sarili mo. Pero at the same time, malaking tulong pa rin talaga na may constant communication sa isa't isa. Goodluck sa inyo TS. Kaya nyo yan!

 

[mariwana]

Your partner is being realistic lang sa sagot nya TS. Actually alam mo naman ang sitwasyon bilang nasa abroad ka rin, kaya aware kana anything can happen, regardless kahit gaano mo pa kakilala ang sarili mo. Pero at the same time, malaking tulong pa rin talaga na may constant communication sa isa't isa. Goodluck sa inyo TS. Kaya nyo yan!

oo nga eh....but unfair na man na marinig galing pa sa kanya yun. but in the other side, at least aware na ako na kaya nya gawin yun dahil sa kanya na mismo galing yun. when i ask her that im expecting of good answer like, "nope! kasi kung mag aabroad ako gusto ko mag kasama tayo". hindi ko nmn sinasabi na hindi pa ako natukso dito meron nag ooffer na chatmate sa mga kasama ko dito pero di pinapatos, oo sa abraod uso talga yun. but kung yung determination mo na mag trabaho para sa mga babies mo and para sa kanya, hindi mo maiisip na makipag relasyon pa or maghanap nang iba. real talk ako pag talgang kailangan ko nang mag labas im watching porns and sinasabayan ko nang pics nya. pero kung mag hanap nang iba di ko na din naiisip yun. madami kami dito sa company namin na makapamilyang tao.. yung iba matanda na dito pero mga anak nila at asawa nila yung priority nila, ewan lang nila sa pinas kung anu mga nagaganap din dun. they always talking and chatting at skype messenger etc. pero may mga problema parin talga sa pag sasama nila. but anyways salamat talaga , gagawin ko talga mga advice nyo 100%.

 

[jsyjcool]

oo nga eh....but unfair na man na marinig galing pa sa kanya yun. but in the other side, at least aware na ako na kaya nya gawin yun dahil sa kanya na mismo galing yun. when i ask her that im expecting of good answer like, "nope! kasi kung mag aabroad ako gusto ko mag kasama tayo". hindi ko nmn sinasabi na hindi pa ako natukso dito meron nag ooffer na chatmate sa mga kasama ko dito pero di pinapatos, oo sa abraod uso talga yun. but kung yung determination mo na mag trabaho para sa mga babies mo and para sa kanya, hindi mo maiisip na makipag relasyon pa or maghanap nang iba. real talk ako pag talgang kailangan ko nang mag labas im watching porns and sinasabayan ko nang pics nya. pero kung mag hanap nang iba di ko na din naiisip yun. madami kami dito sa company namin na makapamilyang tao.. yung iba matanda na dito pero mga anak nila at asawa nila yung priority nila, ewan lang nila sa pinas kung anu mga nagaganap din dun. they always talking and chatting at skype messenger etc. pero may mga problema parin talga sa pag sasama nila. but anyways salamat talaga , gagawin ko talga mga advice nyo 100%.

Good for you TS at ganyan ka magisip at magandang influence din ang nakapaligid sayo sa work mo. Keep it up lang ang have faith na malalampasan nyo ng misis/gf/partner mo ang LDR. Wag kana rin masyadong magisip pa dahil hindi yan makakatulong sayo lalo't nasa malayo kang lugar. Trust nalang at continuous communication.

 

[mariwana]

Good for you TS at ganyan ka magisip at magandang influence din ang nakapaligid sayo sa work mo. Keep it up lang ang have faith na malalampasan nyo ng misis/gf/partner mo ang LDR. Wag kana rin masyadong magisip pa dahil hindi yan makakatulong sayo lalo't nasa malayo kang lugar. Trust nalang at continuous communication.

Noted! .........................................................................................................

 

[-CHZ-]

Late ko na narealize na babae pala yung tinutukoy mo na tinanong mo at sumagot ng ganun. Ewan ko, para sakin hindi lang talaga magandang nakakarinig ng ganung klaseng sagot lalo pa sa babae pa mismo nang-galing. Tho ang honest nya sa naging sagot niya sayo.

Sa tanong mo kung magpapatukso ba ako kung ako yung nasa ganung scenario sa una mong tanong. Well, HINDI.

Ano ang gagawin ko kung ganun yung isasagot niya sakin na "Hindi ako nagsasalita ng patapos"? Kung girlfriend ko pa lang yan, baka nakipag-hiwalay na ako. Kung asawa ko na tapos ganun yung isinagot, ewan ko. Magulo, Hahahaha. Di ko talaga lubos maisip na babae pa yung magsasabi ng ganyan. Tsk tsk.

Parang nawalan na ng sense yung sinabi niya na "hindi nya nmn yun gagawin if ever dahil, mahal nya yung pamilya nya.. i mean mga anak at asawa" dahil dun sa una niyang sinabi / sinagot sayo. Hayssss.

Noted! pero kung yung trust e naubos? at walang napala? panu yun?

Pag naubos na yung trust at wala ng napala? Eh di...

WALA NA, FINISH NA

Tao din lang kasi tayo, napapagod din. Yung trust hindi naman kasi unlimited yan. At kapag yung trust may lamat na, wala na, mahirap ng ayusin o ibalik sa dati.

 

[mariwana]

"Late ko na narealize na babae pala yung tinutukoy mo na tinanong mo at sumagot ng ganun. Ewan ko, para sakin hindi lang talaga magandang nakakarinig ng ganung klaseng sagot lalo pa sa babae pa mismo nang-galing. Tho ang honest nya sa naging sagot niya sayo.

Sa tanong mo kung magpapatukso ba ako kung ako yung nasa ganung scenario sa una mong tanong. Well, HINDI.

Ano ang gagawin ko kung ganun yung isasagot niya sakin na "Hindi ako nagsasalita ng patapos"? Kung girlfriend ko pa lang yan, baka nakipag-hiwalay na ako. Kung asawa ko na tapos ganun yung isinagot, ewan ko. Magulo, Hahahaha. Di ko talaga lubos maisip na babae pa yung magsasabi ng ganyan. Tsk tsk.

Parang nawalan na ng sense yung sinabi niya na "hindi nya nmn yun gagawin if ever dahil, mahal nya yung pamilya nya.. i mean mga anak at asawa" dahil dun sa una niyang sinabi / sinagot sayo. Hayssss.



Pag naubos na yung trust at wala ng napala? Eh di...

WALA NA, FINISH NA

Tao din lang kasi tayo, napapagod din. Yung trust hindi naman kasi unlimited yan. At kapag yung trust may lamat na, wala na, mahirap ng ayusin o ibalik sa dati.

oo nga e diba? lalo na nakasama mo na nang 13 years, tapos nag abroad ako nang 4years na until now. so nung tinanong ko yun, napaisip din ako.. pano kung she already did it.. haha.. Pero palagay eh hin di nmn, kasi busy lagi xa sa mga bata, yun lang nag wowork din xa nang weekender sa isang grocery store. "diser" pinapatigil ko na nga bago pa xa magsimula nang trabaho nya.. sabi nya namn sayang din daw yung kiktain, and nakakatulong xa sa akin sa expenses. and libangan nya din daw. nag diser din ako dati before ako mag abroad, kaya kilala ko mga kilos nang mga diser.. madalas namin pag awayan yang pag tatrabaho nya nang weekend, kasi minsan may mga event sila na hindi na naipapaalam sa akin, like nag shoshot sila sa mga kasama nya na disers, pero laging kasama yung anak ko. yung iba naipapaalam nya pero pag nakita ko lang sa FB na naka post na. tapos tatanungin ko xa bakit di mo agad sinasabe saakin? sabi nya "e lowbat ang cp" nakacharge at naiwan ko sa bahay" and 1 hour lang kami nang anak mo dun sa birthday. so yun. feeling depress nnaman ako. pero di ko pinag iisipan nang malisya yun kasi alam ko na di nya gagawin yun, and iniisip ko na hindi nya nasasabi saakin kasi takot din xang magalit ako sa kanya.pero nung nasa bi nya nga yun "Hindi ako nagsasalita ng patapos". medyo nag bago pananaw ko sa buhay.. ^_^

 

[motoro]

Kung ang asawa mo, girlfriend or boyfriend, Tinanong mo nang " kung mag tatrabaho ka sa ibang lugar or bansa na open country? At nagkaroon nang TUKSO, gawa nang mga kasama mo sa trabaho, mag papatukso ka ba? "

Tapos ang sagot nya ay: " Hindi ako Nagsasalita nang patapos ".

Anong dapat gawin sa ganong mga pangyayari?
dapat ba habang maaga ay putulin mo na ang nag uugnay sa inyo?

Well, maybe she's just being sarcastic because she took your questions the wrong way. She might think that you don't trust her or you think lowly of her. Tukso is a spontaneous thing. It is not something that a person plan so asking a girl that kind of question might go the wrong way. Most, if not all, will say NO but when they face such circumstances it all depends on the person's will power to not get carried away.

 

[dang2]

madadag dagan lng confusion mo d2 ts. there will be positive comments and negative ones. and all will make sense. ang masasabi ko lng is innocent until proven guilty. wag mong problemahin ang hindi pa nangyayari.

 

[mariwana]

Late ko na narealize na babae pala yung tinutukoy mo na tinanong mo at sumagot ng ganun. Ewan ko, para sakin hindi lang talaga magandang nakakarinig ng ganung klaseng sagot lalo pa sa babae pa mismo nang-galing. Tho ang honest nya sa naging sagot niya sayo.

Sa tanong mo kung magpapatukso ba ako kung ako yung nasa ganung scenario sa una mong tanong. Well, HINDI.

Ano ang gagawin ko kung ganun yung isasagot niya sakin na "Hindi ako nagsasalita ng patapos"? Kung girlfriend ko pa lang yan, baka nakipag-hiwalay na ako. Kung asawa ko na tapos ganun yung isinagot, ewan ko. Magulo, Hahahaha. Di ko talaga lubos maisip na babae pa yung magsasabi ng ganyan. Tsk tsk.

Parang nawalan na ng sense yung sinabi niya na "hindi nya nmn yun gagawin if ever dahil, mahal nya yung pamilya nya.. i mean mga anak at asawa" dahil dun sa una niyang sinabi / sinagot sayo. Hayssss.



Pag naubos na yung trust at wala ng napala? Eh di...

WALA NA, FINISH NA

Tao din lang kasi tayo, napapagod din. Yung trust hindi naman kasi unlimited yan. At kapag yung trust may lamat na, wala na, mahirap ng ayusin o ibalik sa dati.

Well, maybe she's just being sarcastic because she took your questions the wrong way. She might think that you don't trust her or you think lowly of her. Tukso is a spontaneous thing. It is not something that a person plan so asking a girl that kind of question might go the wrong way. Most, if not all, will say NO but when they face such circumstances it all depends on the person's will power to not get carried away.

ill definitely consider this boss thanks...Also i back track our conversation before i ask her this question. we have a small argument that time about what happened in some event that she didn't tell me about. but that time i have a very strong instinct that i have to check some post in Facebook, and i saw a friend of her posting this birthday celebration, i saw her in the photo she was drinking Red Horse. of course! i get angry. why she doesn't tell me anything about that. sometimes also instinct can be very very helpful to our daily lives. maybe i did not considering that time her explanation, but what can you expect from a man abroad, after seeing a damn post from a Facebook involving your wife in that damn photo. if i didn't ask her about that party, will i ever know?

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madadag dagan lng confusion mo d2 ts. there will be positive comments and negative ones. and all will make sense. ang masasabi ko lng is innocent until proven guilty. wag mong problemahin ang hindi pa nangyayari.

Oo nga boss Pero thanks talaga sa lahat nang nag a advice. hmmm, pano nmn boss kung may mga sign or kaganapan na hindi naipapaalam. will be consider to this "innocent until proven guilty. wag mong problemahin ang hindi pa nangyayari."

 

[motoro]

ill definitely consider this boss thanks...Also i back track our conversation before i ask her this question. we have a small argument that time about what happened in some event that she didn't tell me about. but that time i have a very strong instinct that i have to check some post in Facebook, and i saw a friend of her posting this birthday celebration, i saw her in the photo she was drinking Red Horse. of course! i get angry. why she doesn't tell me anything about that. sometimes also instinct can be very very helpful to our daily lives. maybe i did not considering that time her explanation, but what can you expect from a man abroad, after seeing a damn post from a Facebook involving your wife in that damn photo. if i didn't ask her about that party, will i ever know?

If that's the case then you have the right to be upset. Now, people here doesn't know your relationship background or the personality of each person involved in the relationship but there's seem to be some doubt in the relationship based on the post. Had she ever cheated on you before or do you think of her as someone who can cheat on you hence your doubt and instinct kicking in? Because if I were to be in your shoe and I caught her holding a Red Horse beer in a party that I'm not aware of then I would be upset but I will ask her nicely why she didn't let me know about it in the first place. If I were to ask her right away the same question you did, it will just create a friction because it's as if I'm implying that a girl drinking beer at a party would automatically do something nasty. So naturally, she will get offended especially you were already having a small argument that time.

If she hasn't cheated on you but this is not the first time she hid something from you then maybe, just maybe, she's just a afraid that you will react the wrong way. For example, if you are a jealous type of person or the strict kind then your partner will be prone to hiding things from you just to avoid conflicts. BUT if this is the first time, she made that mistake then just ask her nicely and go from there.

I know being far away can take a toll on a person but you should not let that get the better of you. Having less conflict in a long distance relationship the better especially for you because you are the one far away. But it doesn't mean that you should turn a blind eye if there's a problem. Try to approach each problem nicely without insulting words and what not. Good luck.

 

[ruidon]

i agree boss, pero minsan gumagawa na nang way para makausap araw araw, tapos sasabihin nya na hindi minuminuto e kailangan mag report.. nag papalagay namn ako nang unlimeted internet, but agad siyang kumokontra, tatanungin ko bakit, di nmn xa sasagot. pero nag papaload nmn araw araw para mag ka usap kami 2 - 3 hrs then ubos na data, chat na lang magiging communication trough free fb sa pinas. FYI nasa abroad ako xa na sa pinas..

parehas din pala tayo ng sitwasyon TS..ako ang nag abroad..ako pa naghahabol ng time para makausap asawa ko..ang nangyari naghanap ako ng way para maibsan kalungkutan ko..aminin ko nakipag chat ako sa iba..siguro mga parehas ko din na nalulungkot..kaya hayun mas lumapit ang tukso..dati pa p**n p**n din lang ako kaso iba pa rin yung nakakausap mo asawa mo..ito ang di nila naiintindihan..yung time para sayo na asawa..iba pa rin kasi yung lambingan eh..pag ganyang sinasabihan ka tungkol sa pagrereport..iba na yan..nawawala na ang lambingan..di naman dapat kuwestiyunin yung pakikipag usap mo sa kaniya..pede naman sabihin in a nice way o ano man dahilan bat di sya makausap..may pagka mataas din ng ego asawa mo..gaya nung sakin..pero yaan mo lang..marerealize din nya yan..pero kung ganun at ganun pa rin sya..iba na yan TS..

 

[mariwana]

If that's the case then you have the right to be upset. Now, people here doesn't know your relationship background or the personality of each person involved in the relationship but there's seem to be some doubt in the relationship based on the post. Had she ever cheated on you before or do you think of her as someone who can cheat on you hence your doubt and instinct kicking in? Because if I were to be in your shoe and I caught her holding a Red Horse beer in a party that I'm not aware of then I would be upset but I will ask her nicely why she didn't let me know about it in the first place. If I were to ask her right away the same question you did, it will just create a friction because it's as if I'm implying that a girl drinking beer at a party would automatically do something nasty. So naturally, she will get offended especially you were already having a small argument that time.

If she hasn't cheated on you but this is not the first time she hid something from you then maybe, just maybe, she's just a afraid that you will react the wrong way. For example, if you are a jealous type of person or the strict kind then your partner will be prone to hiding things from you just to avoid conflicts. BUT if this is the first time, she made that mistake then just ask her nicely and go from there.

I know being far away can take a toll on a person but you should not let that get the better of you. Having less conflict in a long distance relationship the better especially for you because you are the one far away. But it doesn't mean that you should turn a blind eye if there's a problem. Try to approach each problem nicely without insulting words and what not. Good luck.

yes boss. you are correct, i am a jealous type of person, but i know where to place it. i mean i am not doing anything stupid even i am so angry. i analyze first before making an action, what will be the consequences and etc. every time i want to ask her that kind of topic by message it starts up like this " Wag ka magagalit ah?" but she reply with this " Anung klaseng tanong yan? Ano bang Dapat kong sabihin? Ano bang gusto mong isagot ko sayo?" and then when we are finish arguing it seems like nothing happened at all. all i want is a direct answer just yes or no. That`s it!. she just tell me ok ingat na lang jan. man! it just like an ordinary day? i am nearly dying of what we are arguing and then just like that? tsk!

The situation is first time, but i have a doubt that its not just the first time happened. Ok we are there, maybe shes just afraid of telling me. but even if, shes my wife and i`m her husband. we are partner. we need to be open to each other even in small things happening to our daily lives. me even i`m going to the toilet i`m telling her. but she said to me not every day she have to report to me. too much reasons if shes not chatting me.

but i`m willing to forget all those things, for my kids.. i hope were not ended up in separation.

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parehas din pala tayo ng sitwasyon TS..ako ang nag abroad..ako pa naghahabol ng time para makausap asawa ko..ang nangyari naghanap ako ng way para maibsan kalungkutan ko..aminin ko nakipag chat ako sa iba..siguro mga parehas ko din na nalulungkot..kaya hayun mas lumapit ang tukso..dati pa p**n p**n din lang ako kaso iba pa rin yung nakakausap mo asawa mo..ito ang di nila naiintindihan..yung time para sayo na asawa..iba pa rin kasi yung lambingan eh..pag ganyang sinasabihan ka tungkol sa pagrereport..iba na yan..nawawala na ang lambingan..di naman dapat kuwestiyunin yung pakikipag usap mo sa kaniya..pede naman sabihin in a nice way o ano man dahilan bat di sya makausap..may pagka mataas din ng ego asawa mo..gaya nung sakin..pero yaan mo lang..marerealize din nya yan..pero kung ganun at ganun pa rin sya..iba na yan TS..

oo nga boss, napakahirap para dito sa ibang bansa. sila dapat na asahan at mag papalakas nang loob mo sila pa tong mag bibigay nang depresyon sayo. syempre sino pa ba kakausapin natin at kanino pa tayo mag papapansin diba sa mga partner natin. kaya puro ako sakit nang kalooban nung sinabi nya saakin yun, lalu na yung pag binabanggit ko yung mga tropa nya sa trabaho. sobrang defensive nya. lalo na pag mag effort ako na maka chat lang sya, as in hintay nang hintay sa wala. tapos ang rason nakalimutan yung cp sa bahay at hindi nai charge. damn! sana nga maparamdam ko rin sa kanya yun gaano kasakit sabihan nang ganung mga salita.

pero at the end of the day tayo parin ang mag papakumbaba. but sa mgasitwasyon na to, dapat laging preperado at kalmado.

 

[motoro]

yes boss. you are correct, i am a jealous type of person, but i know where to place it. i mean i am not doing anything stupid even i am so angry. i analyze first before making an action, what will be the consequences and etc. every time i want to ask her that kind of topic by message it starts up like this " Wag ka magagalit ah?" but she reply with this " Anung klaseng tanong yan? Ano bang Dapat kong sabihin? Ano bang gusto mong isagot ko sayo?" and then when we are finish arguing it seems like nothing happened at all. all i want is a direct answer just yes or no. That`s it!. she just tell me ok ingat na lang jan. man! it just like an ordinary day? i am nearly dying of what we are arguing and then just like that? tsk!

The situation is first time, but i have a doubt that its not just the first time happened. Ok we are there, maybe shes just afraid of telling me. but even if, shes my wife and i`m her husband. we are partner. we need to be open to each other even in small things happening to our daily lives. me even i`m going to the toilet i`m telling her. but she said to me not every day she have to report to me. too much reasons if shes not chatting me.

but i`m willing to forget all those things, for my kids.. i hope were not ended up in separation.

Based from your post, I'm guessing that both of you are in a different wavelength. In an ideal situation or world, yes as a wife she has to tell you everything and vice versa. However, we are not in an ideal world and as you can see from her attitude she doesn't share the same sentiments. On your part, you prefer to broadcast everything even going to the toilet because you believe everything should be transparent but on her part she doesn't believe in that. I think she knows that communication is important but she's just not into the reporting type of communication where she has to report everything she did. It can make her feel like you're his dad or his boss who is trying to constantly check on her. Then, whenever you will start with "Wag ka magagalit ah?", she already knows what it is about and it is making her upset. So there's a possibility that she doesn't like your approach hence her rebellious attitude but it doesn't mean she's fooling around. So, try to change your style and see what happens. Personally, I think communication is key to every relationship but it doesn't need to be constant especially if one is far away from the other. Also, communication shouldn't be about having to report everything especially if the partner is not for it.

Next, if you are doubting her sincerity or if you are doubting that she might be fooling around then stop asking questions. Instead, start investigating or looking around using social media. Do not interrogate her right away each time you see something you don't like. Try to know more. BUT, you need to decide what you are going to do if you find out she's cheating on you like will you break up with her or will you just forgive her and if you will forgive her is it better not to look anymore?

For now, don't tire yourself with the negative things. Try to change your style and see if it will improve things so that both of you will not be stressed out anymore.

 

[mariwana]

Based from your post, I'm guessing that both of you are in a different wavelength. In an ideal situation or world, yes as a wife she has to tell you everything and vice versa. However, we are not in an ideal world and as you can see from her attitude she doesn't share the same sentiments. On your part, you prefer to broadcast everything even going to the toilet because you believe everything should be transparent but on her part she doesn't believe in that. I think she knows that communication is important but she's just not into the reporting type of communication where she has to report everything she did. It can make her feel like you're his dad or his boss who is trying to constantly check on her. Then, whenever you will start with "Wag ka magagalit ah?", she already knows what it is about and it is making her upset. So there's a possibility that she doesn't like your approach hence her rebellious attitude but it doesn't mean she's fooling around. So, try to change your style and see what happens. Personally, I think communication is key to every relationship but it doesn't need to be constant especially if one is far away from the other. Also, communication shouldn't be about having to report everything especially if the partner is not for it..

hmm, how to say this.. actually boss i am so very relax every time we have an argument. but i didn't think of that she possibly might felt that. and the first question comes in my mind is "why shes not telling me about what she feels?". because of what? i am her husband, i definitely need to understand her. but she have to tell me. i will differently ask her too how she feels.

Next, if you are doubting her sincerity or if you are doubting that she might be fooling around then stop asking questions. Instead, start investigating or looking around using social media. Do not interrogate her right away each time you see something you don't like. Try to know more. BUT, you need to decide what you are going to do if you find out she's cheating on you like will you break up with her or will you just forgive her and if you will forgive her is it better not to look anymore?.

Currently, i am investigating her friend accounts every post, every conversations etc. if ever it happen what your saying is. ill just say it is depend of situation ill find out. and i hope ill never find one. coz man! i love her very much! is just that i don`t want to be an idiot. so i can live my life to the fullest! with my kids of course..

For now, don't tire yourself with the negative things. Try to change your style and see if it will improve things so that both of you will not be stressed out anymore..

im doing it right now boss. thank you very much for enlightening me..

thanks mga ka Symbs your best!

 

[WakaTok]

Hahaha ibig sabihin di nya alam kung kaya niyang pigilan ang tukso dimo masasabi pag ganyan tapusin na kasi ikaw lang mahihirapan kakaisip