Hi po,
I originally posted this as a reply on the thread:
https://www.mobilarian.com/showthread.php?t=100443&page=5
However, I felt that I needed to create a new thread so seek help from you all...
Last time na umiyak ako ay kaninang tanghali before ako pumasok sa work. I've been crying almost everyday since I learned that my wife who is three years older than me was having an affair with a co-worker this February... By the way I'm 40 years old and we have 3 kids (1 1/2 yung youngest ko, only daughter)... I was then unemployed to take care of our daughter.. Nag-resign ako sa work January 2019 and come February, I discovered the affair because of some FB pictures (gimik nilang magkakatrabaho) that were hidden from my view.
They're working sa Barangay so kilala ko yung third party and I've confronted him numerous times. Lately, nakiusap na lang ako sa kanya na tigilan na ang asawa ko. Hindi ko maireklamo sa Barangay Captain (na friend din ng third party) dahil na rin sa posibleng eskandalo sa asawa ko. Mahal na mahal ko sya at ang mga anak namin... Palagi syang dini-defend ng asawa ko since mga bata pa sila ay friends na daw sila (sa in close lang daw sila). Although before I met my wife, nanligaw sa kanya yung guy pero hindi naging sila..
Going back to my story, my wife's telling me that she ended the affair.. It has affected our whole family. But many times, I discovered they would still exchange sweet thoughts via SMS and FB... I won't go into deeper details na masakit lang alalahanin...
She was gaslighting me... (please Google it and you'd know exactly what I'm being through). She's making me feel that it was all my fault..
Three weeks ago, I started with a new job.. Prior to that, I thought nagiging okay na kami ng misis ko. First week ko pa lang sa work, sinamantala na nilang magtawagan sa phone habang wala ako sa bahay..Being a Mobilarian, I have ways of finding out the truth.. I then, again, confronted both of them separately.. My wife turned off her phone for two weeks and sabi niya, kinausap na daw niya yung guy to stop. But the moment she turned on her phone again (need din sa work ang communication, I understand), the guy started calling her multiple times again (last Monday). Nagmissed call pa wife ko sa kanya around 11pm (12midnight uwian ko sa work).
I could not help myself, I confronted my wife again yesterday morning.. na alam kong nagtatawagan pa rin sila..nagtext din ako sa guy to stop at sinabi kong makasarili sya at hindi niya iniisip na nakakasakit sya ng pamilya.. he did not reply, as usual.. dedma ang lolo nyo..
And just an hour ago, as of this writing, the guy is still trying to call my wife (nasa work ako now). He is not affected and he doesn't care obviously.
Until now, I am giving my wife a chance para na rin sa pamilya namin.. Ayokong mag-give up sa relationship namin dahil I love my children and it would hurt them a lot having a broken family...
Please, can you give me some advice? I need peace of mind and now I'm not sure if I'm still doing the right thing of not giving up on her....
I originally posted this as a reply on the thread:
https://www.mobilarian.com/showthread.php?t=100443&page=5
However, I felt that I needed to create a new thread so seek help from you all...
Last time na umiyak ako ay kaninang tanghali before ako pumasok sa work. I've been crying almost everyday since I learned that my wife who is three years older than me was having an affair with a co-worker this February... By the way I'm 40 years old and we have 3 kids (1 1/2 yung youngest ko, only daughter)... I was then unemployed to take care of our daughter.. Nag-resign ako sa work January 2019 and come February, I discovered the affair because of some FB pictures (gimik nilang magkakatrabaho) that were hidden from my view.
They're working sa Barangay so kilala ko yung third party and I've confronted him numerous times. Lately, nakiusap na lang ako sa kanya na tigilan na ang asawa ko. Hindi ko maireklamo sa Barangay Captain (na friend din ng third party) dahil na rin sa posibleng eskandalo sa asawa ko. Mahal na mahal ko sya at ang mga anak namin... Palagi syang dini-defend ng asawa ko since mga bata pa sila ay friends na daw sila (sa in close lang daw sila). Although before I met my wife, nanligaw sa kanya yung guy pero hindi naging sila..
Going back to my story, my wife's telling me that she ended the affair.. It has affected our whole family. But many times, I discovered they would still exchange sweet thoughts via SMS and FB... I won't go into deeper details na masakit lang alalahanin...
She was gaslighting me... (please Google it and you'd know exactly what I'm being through). She's making me feel that it was all my fault..
Three weeks ago, I started with a new job.. Prior to that, I thought nagiging okay na kami ng misis ko. First week ko pa lang sa work, sinamantala na nilang magtawagan sa phone habang wala ako sa bahay..Being a Mobilarian, I have ways of finding out the truth.. I then, again, confronted both of them separately.. My wife turned off her phone for two weeks and sabi niya, kinausap na daw niya yung guy to stop. But the moment she turned on her phone again (need din sa work ang communication, I understand), the guy started calling her multiple times again (last Monday). Nagmissed call pa wife ko sa kanya around 11pm (12midnight uwian ko sa work).
I could not help myself, I confronted my wife again yesterday morning.. na alam kong nagtatawagan pa rin sila..nagtext din ako sa guy to stop at sinabi kong makasarili sya at hindi niya iniisip na nakakasakit sya ng pamilya.. he did not reply, as usual.. dedma ang lolo nyo..
And just an hour ago, as of this writing, the guy is still trying to call my wife (nasa work ako now). He is not affected and he doesn't care obviously.
Until now, I am giving my wife a chance para na rin sa pamilya namin.. Ayokong mag-give up sa relationship namin dahil I love my children and it would hurt them a lot having a broken family...
Please, can you give me some advice? I need peace of mind and now I'm not sure if I'm still doing the right thing of not giving up on her....